Am I obligated to emotionally support my sister?
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Anonymous
OP here. My parents never knew. |
Anonymous
They don't know about your sister. What's the difference? |
Anonymous
They don't know yet. But the guy has introduced her to his family and his family even sent her a holiday card. This seems serious. And it upsets me that she is fraternizing with her boyfriends family while our entire family is in the dark. |
Anonymous
| OP it is completely fucked up that you are not supporting your sister in her pursuit of love. Do you ever plan to live your own life on your own terms or will it alert be through the prism of your parents and their expectations? |
Anonymous
| She isn't telling your parents because she knows there will be hell to pay when she does tell them. It's terrible that you are not supporting your sister and her boyfriend - they are in love! |
Anonymous
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OP, Are you the same person who posted a few hours ago about being a self-racist because you were only drawn to white men? That OP identified herself as coming from a very conservative Indian family. Anyway, you sound unhinged. |
Anonymous
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There we go, found it: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/518224.page |
Anonymous
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I think OP sounds more like this gem:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/504650.page If they're not the same person, I suspect they'd get along famously. |
Anonymous
| I think you're jealous because you don't have the guts to follow your own heart like she does. Good luck to her and her relationship. I hope they get married and have lots of cute kids. |
Anonymous
| Your parents will get over it. Don't your parents want their children to be happy? You really should support your sister if she is with a good man who loves her, regardless of race or religion. |
Anonymous
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OP, do your parents live in the US? Did they raise their kids here? If so, they have to be open to the fact that their kids will meet all kinds of people, not just their kind.
Also, how old are you and your sister? |
Anonymous
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Try to be open-minded. There are many Catholic Indians. My parish is full of Indian families who have been Catholic going back centuries to when the Portuguese settled in Goa.
Devout Catholic and conservative Hindu or Muslim families actually have a lot of the same social values. My all-girls Catholic high in the 1980s had lots of Hindu and Muslim girls from super-conservative families. Today, my DD's similar private school has a student body that is 5% Hindu. |
Anonymous
| Obligated? No. But you're a bitch if you don't. |
Anonymous
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My DH is southeast Asian (not Indian, but same type of culture) and his family didn't support us being together (I'm white). So guess what? He no longer speaks to them, after his mother called me some untranslatable version of "cunt" for no reason other than that I am white. In fact her first reaction was "why does she have to be WHITE?!?!"
You can't pick who you love. And people who are made to choose, will. It makes me sad, but I stay out of it as best I can. |
Anonymous
| Perhaps it's time for all of you to let go of your bigotry and racism and allow your sister to be happy. |