Fighting a Restraining Order

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The TRO is already on your record no matter what happens Friday. I think you can expunge in 7 years.

It might be on the record but it shows up as "Denied" if its denied.

The TRO wasn't denied. A permanent order might be denied Friday,but the TRO will still be visible.

[Anonymous]

The wife sounds like a lunatic.

[Anonymous]

You reap what you sow. Good. I'm glad when people investigate you they can see what kind of a person you really are.

[Anonymous]

I'd love answers as to how she knew your license plate/car description, and how to catch you at the exact time you drove past the only time you have done so.

I won't hold my breath, and I'm guessing the judge won't buy your story either. How about letting their family go, stalker?

[Anonymous]

I guess my question was geared towards people who are in the know about these sort of things, regarding filing something this drastic MONTHS after she saw me drive by her house.
If she is in so much fear for her safety and saw me drive by ONCE, why wouldnt she file the day after? Why wait until the end of April?
and would the courts look at that as an issue?

[Anonymous]

My guess is she knew your information because you're a sick stalker, you tried to arrange your stalking around activities that would give you a reason to be near their house, and it didn't work.

Pretty close?

[Anonymous]

Yes, Im such a "stalker". Since she only provided an issue with me driving by her house on February 4th, I must be a pretty poor stalker to only drive by once.

eyeroll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had three scheduled Interviews with this potential employer. Also including me dropping off my resume. I never knew the actual address of my affair partner. If I drove by his house, I wouldn't have known and didn't know until I received the paper work and put two and two together.
And I care if I have one, regardless if I ended the affair or not. A restraining order is public record. One I do not want on my record.

I think you are a troll. But if not: you did the crime, do the time. You're lucky she didn't kick your ass, key your car, harass you, contact your employer, etc. Seriously. It is what it is, dude.

[Anonymous]

How did she know your information?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess my question was geared towards people who are in the know about these sort of things, regarding filing something this drastic MONTHS after she saw me drive by her house.
If she is in so much fear for her safety and saw me drive by ONCE, why wouldnt she file the day after? Why wait until the end of April?
and would the courts look at that as an issue?

Very few people outside of domestic violence victims race to the courthouse the very next day. She doesn't have to prove that she's in total fear of her safety; she has to prove that there are reasons that she believes you're stalking them and she wants it to stop. This action could reasonably come after months of deliberation. She's not obligated to do it immediately. Her delay may factor into the decision but it's not the deciding factor. It's interesting that you're now putting her in a place of victimizing YOU when you were boinking her husband, but I guess that's a different discussion.

Did you get the job? Would the restraining order be a hardship on your getting to and from your job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do not want a restraining order on my record, so "letting it go" is not something I would advise doing. I want to fight it

I didn't mean to be rude. I'm not sure, but I think it wouldn't have the same implications as would criminal charges. Care to comment, lawyers?

Wow PP you are really not knowledgable and should not comment. A restraining order is a very serious matter. OP you should retain counsel.

Wow PP your reading comprehension is close to nil!

[Anonymous]

Not op, but you'd be amazed what you can figure out online through social media, LinkedIn, Google, etc. if she had op's name, she could probably figure out a lot.

[Anonymous]

OP, you had an affair and your ex-AP's (justifiably) furious wife filed a restraining order, and that's all you seem to care about. Your original post and follow-up responses come off as though you have no remorse. Are you a sociopath?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not op, but you'd be amazed what you can figure out online through social media, LinkedIn, Google, etc. if she had op's name, she could probably figure out a lot.

And sat by her window waiting for the single occasion OP drove by her house, waited a couple of months, then went to a courthouse? I have a bridge to sell anyone who believes that.

[Anonymous]

This is most likely a troll or a sociopath trying to gauge how a story will sound before taking it to the judge.