Fighting a Restraining Order

[Anonymous]

Op here.
1) the potential employer is on a dead end street and the only way to it was by my ex's house. I have proof via a map showing this.

2) she knows what car I drive because she and I used to be friends years ago, before I began the affair.
3) I knew they had moved but didn't know what address.

[Anonymous]

You would be surprised how easy it is to file a TRO. The judge signs usually every single one filed in order to cover their ass if something were to happen because the TRO is denied. Their career is on the line.
The hearing will give you a chance to speak your side.

[Anonymous]

Wonder if OP is a nanny. Looking for a new family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder if OP is a nanny. Looking for a new family.

Good guess! I bet she is. That would explain why she was on that street and how her prospective employer is located on a dead end. It would also explain why the wife of the man she slept with is seeking a restraining order. In all likelihood, the wife does not want this lowlife seeking employment near where the wife and family live so that she has an excuse to keep bumping into the children and the husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
1) the potential employer is on a dead end street and the only way to it was by my ex's house. I have proof via a map showing this.

2) she knows what car I drive because she and I used to be friends years ago, before I began the affair.
3) I knew they had moved but didn't know what address.

The more you post the more I think you deserve this TRO. You had an affair with your fiends husband and claim you don't know where they live. PUHHLEASE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
1) the potential employer is on a dead end street and the only way to it was by my ex's house. I have proof via a map showing this.

2) she knows what car I drive because she and I used to be friends years ago, before I began the affair.
3) I knew they had moved but didn't know what address.

This is absurd. An employer on a dead end street that just *happens* to be where your ex affair partner lives?

Sounds like the wife needs a restraining order against you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1) Why did she just NOW file a restraining order against me?
2) What do you think the judge will think of people filing something this late in the year?

1) Don't think anyone can answer that question for you. Only one who knows that is your ex affair partner's wife - you could always ask her in court tomorrow.
2) Depends upon her rationale for filing it so late. If she says she was wrapped up in bickering with her cheating husband and trying to salvage their crumbling marriage the judge may very well understand her putting the restraining order on the back-burner for a while to get herself and her household in order. If she says she never even considered getting a restraining order until she saw "Fatal Attraction" on Bravo one night and got frightened by the idea of you coming by and boiling a rabbit on their stove the judge may frown on her impulsiveness and paranoia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
1) the potential employer is on a dead end street and the only way to it was by my ex's house. I have proof via a map showing this.

2) she knows what car I drive because she and I used to be friends years ago, before I began the affair.
3) I knew they had moved but didn't know what address.

This is absurd. An employer on a dead end street that just *happens* to be where your ex affair partner lives?

Sounds like the wife needs a restraining order against you.

+1 OP, you've gotta realize how implausible this sounds. You were friends with this woman years ago so she knows what car you drive yet you had no idea where she and your affair partner live...and of all the streets in the world this prospective employer just happens to be on the same street as your AP...AND this woman just happened to see you driving by on the day in question because she knows what car you drive...uh, no way.

[Anonymous]

It was sort of plausible until she disclosed (on page 5 no less) that the AP was her friend's husband.

Wouldn't that be pretty germaine to, oh well, just about everything else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Side question here... Can anyone file a request for a restraining order, or does someone need to first agree you have good cause? How does it all work?
Sorry, OP.

Don't you have to be an actual threat, to request a restraining order??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Side question here... Can anyone file a request for a restraining order, or does someone need to first agree you have good cause? How does it all work?
Sorry, OP.

Don't you have to be an actual threat, to request a restraining order??

Nope. All you have to do is have some sort of relationship like a child together or living together. You are "under oath" when you request a restraining order, but they can't bust you for lying and won't try to when you file, so if you say you are in fear for your life, just about every judge will approve your request for a temporary restraining order.

A longer term one, on the other hand, is much more difficult.
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Side question here... Can anyone file a request for a restraining order, or does someone need to first agree you have good cause? How does it all work?
Sorry, OP.

Don't you have to be an actual threat, to request a restraining order??

Nope. All you have to do is have some sort of relationship like a child together or living together. You are "under oath" when you request a restraining order, but they can't bust you for lying and won't try to when you file, so if you say you are in fear for your life, just about every judge will approve your request for a temporary restraining order.

A longer term one, on the other hand, is much more difficult.
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There are other types of restraining orders besides the domestic ones. It depends on what kind she filed.

[Anonymous]

Usually non domestic TROs are called peace orders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife set up cameras and caught OP driving by the house violating the TRO (Defendant is temporarily restrained from coming within 500 ft of complainant's residence). etc. You're going down, OP.

+1. I'll bet there wasn't just one drive-by incident, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
1) the potential employer is on a dead end street and the only way to it was by my ex's house. I have proof via a map showing this.

2) she knows what car I drive because she and I used to be friends years ago, before I began the affair.
3) I knew they had moved but didn't know what address.

Funny how you never mentioned the address being on a dead-end street until after a pp said it would have to be. Don't feed the troll, people!