Fighting a Restraining Order

[Anonymous]

I ended an affair in December. My affair partners wife found out about the affair and called me and said horrible things to me (justifiable). I have not spoken or talked to my ex affair partner since January 5th.
Just this last week I was served a temporary restraining order because according to the documents, She stated I drove by their house on February 4th. I unknowingly drove by their residence on my way to job interview. I have printed the email exchange between me and my potential employer where they asked me to come in several times for an interview.

Court is on Friday.

1) Why did she just NOW file a restraining order against me?
2) What do you think the judge will think of people filing something this late in the year?

Tia

[Anonymous]

TROs usually die at the hearing.

[Anonymous]

Are you effing kidding me? Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I do not want a restraining order on my record, so "letting it go" is not something I would advise doing. I want to fight it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do not want a restraining order on my record, so "letting it go" is not something I would advise doing. I want to fight it

Good luck with your fight! I don't have any advice on this but I hope you win.

[Anonymous]

I think there is a lot more to this story.

[Anonymous]

Well, the restraining order is silly - what is she worried about? I can't see a judge ordering it.

HOWEVER,
1) Why do you care if you have one since you ended the affair
2) I do not believe that you "unknowingly" drove past her house. If a car simply drives down the street, there is just zero chance that she would have noticed. If a car slows down...stops...drives by repeatedly... then you notice. Meaning, I think you intentionally did drive by the house, even if on your way to a job interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do not want a restraining order on my record, so "letting it go" is not something I would advise doing. I want to fight it

I didn't mean to be rude. I'm not sure, but I think it wouldn't have the same implications as would criminal charges. Care to comment, lawyers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, the restraining order is silly - what is she worried about? I can't see a judge ordering it.

HOWEVER,
1) Why do you care if you have one since you ended the affair
2) I do not believe that you "unknowingly" drove past her house. If a car simply drives down the street, there is just zero chance that she would have noticed. If a car slows down...stops...drives by repeatedly... then you notice. Meaning, I think you intentionally did drive by the house, even if on your way to a job interview.

I agree with number 2. She would have had to be watching the street like a hawk to see your car zoom by. Are you tellling us everything , OP?

[Anonymous]

The TRO is already on your record no matter what happens Friday. I think you can expunge in 7 years.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I had three scheduled Interviews with this potential employer. Also including me dropping off my resume. I never knew the actual address of my affair partner. If I drove by his house, I wouldn't have known and didn't know until I received the paper work and put two and two together.
And I care if I have one, regardless if I ended the affair or not. A restraining order is public record. One I do not want on my record.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The TRO is already on your record no matter what happens Friday. I think you can expunge in 7 years.

It might be on the record but it shows up as "Denied" if its denied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had three scheduled Interviews with this potential employer. Also including me dropping off my resume. I never knew the actual address of my affair partner. If I drove by his house, I wouldn't have known and didn't know until I received the paper work and put two and two together.
And I care if I have one, regardless if I ended the affair or not. A restraining order is public record. One I do not want on my record.

How on earth did she know you were driving past her house?

[Anonymous]

Did you know he was married at the time of the affair? I ask because it could factor into the restraining order defense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do not want a restraining order on my record, so "letting it go" is not something I would advise doing. I want to fight it

I didn't mean to be rude. I'm not sure, but I think it wouldn't have the same implications as would criminal charges. Care to comment, lawyers?

Wow PP you are really not knowledgable and should not comment. A restraining order is a very serious matter. OP you should retain counsel.