Fighting a Restraining Order

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I wrote her a 3 page long apology and expressed how sorry I was.

Interesting. How did you know the address to mail your 3 page long apology?

I emailed her, I was her friend so I know her email address.
And No, I did not stalk her facebook, there are other ways to know information on facebook. Like for instance, I was told she announced it and it was backed up by various people messaging me about it.

And none of these various people messaging you had any idea where she lived? Your story is falling apart more and more

[Anonymous]

Wives go after the other woman because they think as soon as she is out of the picture the husband will just snap out of it. And in reality he will just continue with his cheating under her nose. I feel sorry for the wife and for the other woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Shown zero remorse? In December when she found out about the affair, she called me repeatedly over days and left messages about how horrible I was and to fuck off and go to hell. I figured I deserved it.
She also publicly announced on FB that I cheated with her husband which resulted in a few weeks of her friends telling me what I slut I was. I never retaliated or was mean in return. I wrote her a 3 page long apology and expressed how sorry I was. I went to counseling to deal with my guilt of what I have done.

You cannot base your assumption on if I am sorry or not based on me asking a legal question.

Still the victim, I see. The only thing you said that was on point was that yes, you deserved it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there is a lot more to this story.

There has to be - who notices a car driving by ONCE and then files a restraining order about it? Plus, unless there was a prior restraining order, the ex affair partner's wife has zero legal grounds for even complaining about OP just driving by on a public road.

Absolutely more to this story than OP has let on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. TRO was dropped due to lack of evidence and the judge said "the fact this was issued months after the incident shows no real threat to the petitioner".

So there you go.

That's good for you. But I hope you learned your lesson. Don't mess with other people's husband's and perhaps they won't mess with you either. I'm not being snarky, but you seem to feel that you're a victim here, and I hope you see that you hurt this woman badly enough that she resorted to this action. Stop being so smug about this.

To be fair, husband ( who is the real violator) is living high and dry and OP is dealing with restraining orders?

Yes, OP did not exercise the best judgement, but legal action against a third party is just vengeful . There always seems to be punishment for the OW, while husband plays the victim of the evil seductress.

OP did nothing (on,y judging by post and judges decision) to warrant actual legal recourse. Check your marriage, then check the other people. Ridiculous.

What you say makes sense when you're sitting back looking at it objectively. But guess what? When you sleep with someone else's spouse (or cheat on your spouse), you DON'T GET to decide how others will react. It's one of the most emotional and destructive dynamics you can bring about. You don't get to decide what is a "reasonable" or "unreasonable" response. You never know how wronged people will react. (To be clear, I'm not saying any and every reaction is justified. Just pointing out that you never know how others will react, so don't look for reason and objectivity.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
1) the potential employer is on a dead end street and the only way to it was by my ex's house. I have proof via a map showing this.

2) she knows what car I drive because she and I used to be friends years ago, before I began the affair.
3) I knew they had moved but didn't know what address.

Wow you are a terrible person

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You reap what you sow. Good. I'm glad when people investigate you they can see what kind of a person you really are.

Give it a rest. People make mistakes. Hopefully lesson learned and won't be repeated.

Leaving an umbrella on the train vs fucking a married man

[Anonymous]

I somehow doubt that OP dragged this man into bed unwilling. Regardless of previous friendship---and it doesn't sound like a close friend---there are two people deciding to fuck in these circumstances. No point in reserving all the hate for one of them.

She didn't ruin a marriage. The marriage was dead/dying and the affair is a symptom, not a cause. A well and happily married person doesn't go and fuck random strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I somehow doubt that OP dragged this man into bed unwilling. Regardless of previous friendship---and it doesn't sound like a close friend---there are two people deciding to fuck in these circumstances. No point in reserving all the hate for one of them.

She didn't ruin a marriage. The marriage was dead/dying and the affair is a symptom, not a cause. A well and happily married person doesn't go and fuck random strangers.

+1 People are always harsher on the other woman than on the husband. The reality is that the husband is the one who cheated (he's the one who was unfaithful).