Shlumpy guy. Should I give hima chance?

[Anonymous]

Give him a chance, OP!

[Anonymous]

Make me think of another shlumpy guy who ended up quite nice.

Steve Jobs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make me think of another shlumpy guy who ended up quite nice.

Steve Jobs

He was a class a a-hole- read his biography.... Now his wife is enjoying Adrian Fenty's attentions.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

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Look how happy he is. Was he arrested for hacking Playboy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make me think of another shlumpy guy who ended up quite nice.

Steve Jobs

He was a class a a-hole- read his biography.... Now his wife is enjoying Adrian Fenty's attentions.

I would put up with his ass-holiness for that much money.

[Anonymous]

Does he get to fix you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had first date w nice guy. He wants to go again, is texting me, etc (not overly texting, just a few here and there). I'm not immediately attracted to him, but I think I could be with some little enhancements. He just needs a hair cut, beard trim and mabe some updated glasses (they are kind of loose/crooked on his face). He's a smart compter engineer type guy.

I not Miss America, and am not looking for perfection, but he could use a little update. What would you do? Attraction needs to be there as well as common interests and common values. We are both divorced, mid 40s.

You're a little old to be so picky. Keep up this attitude and you'll be begging men to ask you out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is the wallet?

I'm sure he's got a lock on it to keep it away from greedy broads like yourself.

[Anonymous]

Do you enjoy his company? Yes or no. Surely by now you know you have to overlook certain imperfections and think of the big picture.

[Anonymous]

If it is really just a haircut and glasses, absolutely go out with him again. Those are incredibly easy fixes. If you decide that he isn't the one for you, you can throw him my way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make me think of another shlumpy guy who ended up quite nice.

Steve Jobs

He was a class a a-hole- read his biography.... Now his wife is enjoying Adrian Fenty's attentions.

I would put up with his ass-holiness for that much money.

Adrian Fenty is also a class A, a-hole and narcissist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had first date w nice guy. He wants to go again, is texting me, etc (not overly texting, just a few here and there). I'm not immediately attracted to him, but I think I could be with some little enhancements. He just needs a hair cut, beard trim and mabe some updated glasses (they are kind of loose/crooked on his face). He's a smart compter engineer type guy.

I not Miss America, and am not looking for perfection, but he could use a little update. What would you do? Attraction needs to be there as well as common interests and common values. We are both divorced, mid 40s.

Well? Do you appear to have common interests and common values?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make me think of another shlumpy guy who ended up quite nice.

Steve Jobs

He was a class a a-hole- read his biography.... Now his wife is enjoying Adrian Fenty's attentions.

I would put up with his ass-holiness for that much money.

Adrian Fenty is also a class A, a-hole and narcissist.

Just like most people in the DC area...

[Anonymous]

Yes, give him another chance. Those are some minor appearance issues that an easily be changed if he is willing. You have no clue at this point if that's the case or if you like his personality.

My BF is like that -- and we've been dating 1.5 years. He's 48. At that age, people don't change quickly, and I kept my mouth shut for probably a year! Then slowly, when he would comment, so would I. We've gone shopping, I've bought him clothes for presents, and he is now ready for some new glasses.

On our first date, I wasn't sure if I was attracted. That went on for a while, but personality-wise, he was attractive. to me So I just figured, how shallow of me to care about his clothes or hair. Eventually I found out that he's great in bed, and that helps.

I'm not perfect and he thinks that, at least physically, I am hot. If people sit there thinking about it, they may think I'm younger, more attractive, whatever...and that might be true. He says all the time that people probably wonder how he landed me -- and even if that is not true, that's what he thinks. Not a bad position to be in.

I care more about how he treats me than whether he dresses the way I prefer. He's been mostly willing to buy some new things. Especially when he gets compliments at work and people have started noticing his new things. After we went shopping recently, he was excited to pick out clothes for the next day at work. That made me smile. Still a work in progress, but a lot better than the first day.

I should add, that I did not set out to change him. I accepted that sometimes his outfits would make me cringe inside -- and that is just clothing. Much better to focus on his good qualities.