Shlumpy guy. Should I give hima chance?

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Anonymous wrote:Had first date w nice guy. He wants to go again, is texting me, etc (not overly texting, just a few here and there). I'm not immediately attracted to him, but I think I could be with some little enhancements. He just needs a hair cut, beard trim and mabe some updated glasses (they are kind of loose/crooked on his face). He's a smart compter engineer type guy.

I not Miss America, and am not looking for perfection, but he could use a little update. What would you do? Attraction needs to be there as well as common interests and common values. We are both divorced, mid 40s.

You're a little old to be so picky. Keep up this attitude and you'll be begging men to ask you out.

+1 harsh, but true.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Fix him up. I have done it before.

Straight up tell him to his face that you want to update his glasses. Then plan a shopping trip, go to the eyeglass store, and pick out a cool style (I like the ray ban style for eyeglasses right now)

Also tell him you would like his to trim (or shave off) his beard.

If he can't deal with this then dump him. He's not the guy for you.

And if he doesn't break up with you on the spot, you know he has no self-respect.

OR he knows his look is outdated and needs help. Who doesn't get a haircut or trim their beard before a date?

x2. And he will be grateful for the help and that someone will tell him straight up what he can do to improve his look. Many nerdy guys would be grateful for some assistance.

+1. If he likes you, he'll be flattered that you want help him improve his appearance. Do it a little bit at a time.

Is this sarcasm? Just because he's a geek doesn't mean he's desperate. It sounds like he's doing fine. It's you old bats who are desperate.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Fix him up. I have done it before.

Straight up tell him to his face that you want to update his glasses. Then plan a shopping trip, go to the eyeglass store, and pick out a cool style (I like the ray ban style for eyeglasses right now)

Also tell him you would like his to trim (or shave off) his beard.

If he can't deal with this then dump him. He's not the guy for you.

And if he doesn't break up with you on the spot, you know he has no self-respect.

OR he knows his look is outdated and needs help. Who doesn't get a haircut or trim their beard before a date?

x2. And he will be grateful for the help and that someone will tell him straight up what he can do to improve his look. Many nerdy guys would be grateful for some assistance.

+1. If he likes you, he'll be flattered that you want help him improve his appearance. Do it a little bit at a time.

Is this sarcasm? Just because he's a geek doesn't mean he's desperate. It sounds like he's doing fine. It's you old bats who are desperate.

nope. Men are always more jealous than women. Regardless of age. Just how the world works- pussy is a premium.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Fix him up. I have done it before.

Straight up tell him to his face that you want to update his glasses. Then plan a shopping trip, go to the eyeglass store, and pick out a cool style (I like the ray ban style for eyeglasses right now)

Also tell him you would like his to trim (or shave off) his beard.

If he can't deal with this then dump him. He's not the guy for you.

And if he doesn't break up with you on the spot, you know he has no self-respect.

OR he knows his look is outdated and needs help. Who doesn't get a haircut or trim their beard before a date?

x2. And he will be grateful for the help and that someone will tell him straight up what he can do to improve his look. Many nerdy guys would be grateful for some assistance.

+1. If he likes you, he'll be flattered that you want help him improve his appearance. Do it a little bit at a time.

Exactly!

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So many desperate women on this thread! The assumption is that it's better to have any guy no matter how old, tasteless, weird than no guy at all. I would rather be an old childless cat lady than grab whatever comes my way, no matter how bad, for the sake of not being single and childless.

We'll see you change your tune when you're 50 and pushing cat-lady-land.

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Nope. I am a married women in her mid forties. I work with lots of women in their 30's who are single. Several of the ones in their mid to late 30's really want a family but on dating sites keep finding men in their late forties are the only ones who want to go out with them. They are average looking (as I am) and can't find men in their late 30's. the OP is being picky about superficial things as if she were in her 20's.

*Sniff* these are the kind of stories that warm the cockles of my heart. *sniff*

You think women would learn a lesson from this but nope! They keep holding out for the highest bidder.

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nope. Men are always more jealous than women. Regardless of age. Just how the world works- pussy is a premium.

You do realize there are more single women than men in DC, right? Broads in DC are like buses: If you miss one, there's another coming in 10 minutes.

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So many desperate women on this thread! The assumption is that it's better to have any guy no matter how old, tasteless, weird than no guy at all. I would rather be an old childless cat lady than grab whatever comes my way, no matter how bad, for the sake of not being single and childless.

We'll see you change your tune when you're 50 and pushing cat-lady-land.

Keep dreaming bucko!

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nope. Men are always more jealous than women. Regardless of age. Just how the world works- pussy is a premium.

You do realize there are more single women than men in DC, right? Broads in DC are like buses: If you miss one, there's another coming in 10 minutes.

And still, women can have sex whenever they want. Can get a relationship easily. Men have to do the work. Proof that pussy has the higher value.

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Anonymous wrote:But it's not the case for us cuties!

Pics or STFU.

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All of you thinking it is ok to fix perceived "defects" in men rather than appreciating their good qualities - are any of you married? Or are you just henpecking men for imperfections?

The fact that you think that it would be "settling" to date a great guy who has a hairstyle that you happen to not prefer is pretty sad.

As a personal hero of mine likes to say, men: keep your mouths shut when on dates. Men actively look for reasons to have sex with someone while women look for reasons NOT to have sex with someone.

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And still, women can have sex whenever they want. Can get a relationship easily. Men have to do the work. Proof that pussy has the higher value.

Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. It's a fact.

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And still, women can have sex whenever they want. Can get a relationship easily. Men have to do the work. Proof that pussy has the higher value.

Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. It's a fact.

It's not a fact. It's wishful thinking made up by men who resent the fact that young women have a ton of sexual value and young men have nearly none

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Anonymous wrote:But it's not the case for us cuties!

Pics or STFU.

Pathetic attempt at getting pics!

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Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. It's a fact.

It's not a fact. It's wishful thinking made up by men who resent the fact that young women have a ton of sexual value and young men have nearly none

Tough shit. Men are achieving their financial primes in their late 40s early 50s while women are 25 years downhill from their sexually attractive primes.

Sucks for you, someone with little value in anything other than her beauty.