Shlumpy guy. Should I give hima chance?

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Schlumpy Power!

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Met my schlumpy DH at 22. He dressed bad, but had a great personality, and was good-looking (just needed to lose a good 15lbs, but so did a lot of people in demanding grad school programs). Five years later, three years of marriage under our belt, and he's still schlumpy with a good 30lbs to lose! He still has that great personality, and good looks. However, he can't dress no matter how hard I try. He will still go for an Aeropostale graphic tee every time, and he's damn near 30! I Was always more attracted to muscular men, so that's on me. I was always trying to encourage him to workout with me, and get active. I'm very into physical fitness, and enjoy being outdoors. He'd rather stay inside and play video games, and have a movie night. When I told him I wasn't that sexually attracted to him anymore, he cried. All that to say, make sure you're really okay with he whole package! I'm in it for the long haul, I just hope our sex life gets back to where it used to be.

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Anonymous wrote:Met my schlumpy DH at 22. He dressed bad, but had a great personality, and was good-looking (just needed to lose a good 15lbs, but so did a lot of people in demanding grad school programs). Five years later, three years of marriage under our belt, and he's still schlumpy with a good 30lbs to lose! He still has that great personality, and good looks. However, he can't dress no matter how hard I try. He will still go for an Aeropostale graphic tee every time, and he's damn near 30! I Was always more attracted to muscular men, so that's on me. I was always trying to encourage him to workout with me, and get active. I'm very into physical fitness, and enjoy being outdoors. He'd rather stay inside and play video games, and have a movie night. When I told him I wasn't that sexually attracted to him anymore, he cried. All that to say, make sure you're really okay with he whole package! I'm in it for the long haul, I just hope our sex life gets back to where it used to be.

Awe just read your update!!! Congrats op! That is too funny. Maybe my DH will read this post too lol!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this thread is ancient but would like an update about Shlumpy!

I'll need to verify to be sure, but I think I'm Shlumpy.

If true, she already realizes how lucky she is. I'm her "unicorn".

M

I wish you guys the best!!!!!!

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I married a schlumpy guy. Because I loved HIM, and figured that he might polish up, or not, but either way was ok with me. Because he felt good about himself, and our life together.

Nearly 20 years later he has lost numerous jobs, his personal hygiene is really lacking (as in, doesn't brush his teeth more than once every two or three days), he's put on 30 lbs, won't exercise, drinks too much beer, and is an all around lazy slob. Yes, I think he's depressed, no, he refuses to see anyone or deal with it. Yes, I've tried to help him, but you can't fix or help another person unless they want it. Our sex life went out the window, along with our intimacy, trust, and respect. We're divorcing.

I couldn't care less about what he looks like, but it's hard to love someone who doesn't love themselves, has no self-respect, and doesn't take responsibility for their life.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi Everyone! I am the OP, and what are the odds of my awesomely schlumpy guy reading DCUM? I was totally embarrassed that he read my post, but in his usual fashion, he brushed it off with good humor.

What can I say? He's a wonderful man, fun, hardworking, affectionate, kind. We enjoy a lot of the same things and I am looking forward to a lot more time together. I only wish I'd have met him 20 years ago when I made the choice of marriage partner. You can bet I AM NOT letting him get away, if I can help it!

Okay, he sounds pretty awesome. Glad you both have a sense of humor about this!! I posted in this thread about my wonderful formerly-schlumpy DH. I'm really happy things are going well.

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This thread made my day . Congrats and best wishes to OP and Mr Schlump.

I married a slightly schlumpy guy and am grateful every day that I did. He knows how to dress up when needed, but gets lazy with haircuts (as do I) and doesn't always know the "fashion rules". But he is loving, dedicated, has a great sense of humor, and is reliable and responsible. I love him dearly.

[Anonymous]

Remember, eventually most men become shlumpy. A lot of hot young dudes will be shumpy middle age men with bellies who stopped dressing up the day after their wedding.

[Anonymous]

Thanks all, some really sweet posts here. Yes, I'm a little chubby, don't always wear stylish clothes, get haircut or trim my beard on time... But I'm a hopeless romantic, a loyal partner, intelligent, caring, real, and will love this woman (OP) with all my heart. Forever. Unquestionably.

Love.

Mr shlumpy <3

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks all, some really sweet posts here. Yes, I'm a little chubby, don't always wear stylish clothes, get haircut or trim my beard on time... But I'm a hopeless romantic, a loyal partner, intelligent, caring, real, and will love this woman (OP) with all my heart. Forever. Unquestionably.

Love.

Mr shlumpy <3

not to be a cynic, but haven't you been dating for only like 3 months?

I am definitely pro-schlumpy myself, but your strong feelings this early on give me some pause.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all, some really sweet posts here. Yes, I'm a little chubby, don't always wear stylish clothes, get haircut or trim my beard on time... But I'm a hopeless romantic, a loyal partner, intelligent, caring, real, and will love this woman (OP) with all my heart. Forever. Unquestionably.

Love.

Mr shlumpy <3

not to be a cynic, but haven't you been dating for only like 3 months?

I am definitely pro-schlumpy myself, but your strong feelings this early on give me some pause.

(But if you're both happy and sincere, more power to you! Just remember that it's not all sunshine and roses)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all, some really sweet posts here. Yes, I'm a little chubby, don't always wear stylish clothes, get haircut or trim my beard on time... But I'm a hopeless romantic, a loyal partner, intelligent, caring, real, and will love this woman (OP) with all my heart. Forever. Unquestionably.

Love.

Mr shlumpy <3

not to be a cynic, but haven't you been dating for only like 3 months?

I am definitely pro-schlumpy myself, but your strong feelings this early on give me some pause.

Yes, and we are taking things slow. That does not, however, change how I feel about her. I knew pretty early on that she is perfect for me. I'm a man who knows what he wants, and I've found it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all, some really sweet posts here. Yes, I'm a little chubby, don't always wear stylish clothes, get haircut or trim my beard on time... But I'm a hopeless romantic, a loyal partner, intelligent, caring, real, and will love this woman (OP) with all my heart. Forever. Unquestionably.

Love.

Mr shlumpy <3

not to be a cynic, but haven't you been dating for only like 3 months?

I am definitely pro-schlumpy myself, but your strong feelings this early on give me some pause.

Yes, and we are taking things slow. That does not, however, change how I feel about her. I knew pretty early on that she is perfect for me. I'm a man who knows what he wants, and I've found it.

Dude, you are a hero, proving that to find a woman you do not have to be one of those super-fit guys in designer clothes with the two days beard growth named Sergio who speaks with an accent. But please, chill as you get to know her. Women think men who move too fast are needy. Be confident with her and hope to hear updates from time to time. And work on the abs!!!!!!!

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If you feel too embarrassed to be seen in public with him, then let him go.

Sexual attraction needs to exist or this relationship is a recipe for disaster.

Trust me, it will not end pretty. (No pun intended here.)