My ex is married and has a baby due any day now. We haven’t been broken up two years yet…

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t seem like you were going to be compatible in a marriage. Dragging a kid into that would have been a mess.

[Anonymous]

If you actually wanted him, you wouldn’t have aborted the baby. You would’ve had it and then worked on getting marriage. Now, you’re mad that he moved on. You don’t know how he reacted when his current gf announced her pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you actually wanted him, you wouldn’t have aborted the baby. You would’ve had it and then worked on getting marriage. Now, you’re mad that he moved on. You don’t know how he reacted when his current gf announced her pregnancy.

^A very evil response here. Just stunning, even for DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you actually wanted him, you wouldn’t have aborted the baby. You would’ve had it and then worked on getting marriage. Now, you’re mad that he moved on. You don’t know how he reacted when his current gf announced her pregnancy.

But we do.

He was clearly happy about for him to get married. They could’ve just dated after getting pregnant, but that didn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you actually wanted him, you wouldn’t have aborted the baby. You would’ve had it and then worked on getting marriage. Now, you’re mad that he moved on. You don’t know how he reacted when his current gf announced her pregnancy.

^A very evil response here. Just stunning, even for DCUM.

It’s just the hard truth, coming from someone young, teens /20s

[Anonymous]

A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry. Bad guy to encourage an abortion. You truly dodged a bullet. It may take 2 or 5 or 10 years, but the chickens always come home to roost and one day you'll be with a great guy and be thankful you didn't get stuck with this one.

“I’ll support whatever you decide” isn't encouraging an abortion.

Only stupid people think that everything has to be explicitly said. It is implicit in what he *did* say.

So if you support whatever someone decides, how would you communicate this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let this go.

He knew the other person a lot longer. Plus his relationship with you may have changed his thinking in unknowable ways, good or bad.

He probably told you what he thought he should say...that it was up to you what to do.

The fact that you decided the way you did suggests you weren't madly in love with him. And his reaction suggests he wasn't madly in love with you. So you parted.

You can complain a little about how unfair the universe is but I don't think you lost out on a great dad and husband. Move on.

I was madly in love with him though. I decided what I did because I thought he didn’t want the baby.

He divorced hia first wife because she didn't want kids which heavily suggested he did.

You sound a little too eager to please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby?

[Anonymous]

He’s not a real man anyways. He was okay with his gf aborting his child, and didn’t want to take care of it even if you didn’t end up married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby?

This has to be a troll. Even when you're actively trying to get pregnant you don't immediately "jump for joy" about a baby because it's definitely a weighty situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let this go.

He knew the other person a lot longer. Plus his relationship with you may have changed his thinking in unknowable ways, good or bad.

He probably told you what he thought he should say...that it was up to you what to do.

The fact that you decided the way you did suggests you weren't madly in love with him. And his reaction suggests he wasn't madly in love with you. So you parted.

You can complain a little about how unfair the universe is but I don't think you lost out on a great dad and husband. Move on.

I was madly in love with him though. I decided what I did because I thought he didn’t want the baby.

PP. I'd say you failed to communicate that then, out of hurt feelings. And maybe he didn't.

People are weird. He may have changed from ambivalence to openness to the idea after losing the opportunity to parent with you.

I would say though, that it sounds like your feelings weren't reciprocated and I think you need to forget this. He was not Mr. Right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby?

This has to be a troll. Even when you're actively trying to get pregnant you don't immediately "jump for joy" about a baby because it's definitely a weighty situation.

I had never been pregnant before and he had never gotten pregnant before, so how was I supposed to know this? I just assumed if it’s something you want you’d be pretty outwardly happy about it. I guess I just had a script it my head…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby?

This has to be a troll. Even when you're actively trying to get pregnant you don't immediately "jump for joy" about a baby because it's definitely a weighty situation.

I had never been pregnant before and he had never gotten pregnant before, so how was I supposed to know this? I just assumed if it’s something you want you’d be pretty outwardly happy about it. I guess I just had a script it my head…

You were right, and that script is healthy and normative. PP saying you don't "jump for joy" is a nutjob. I'm a father of four and I was outwardly and inwardly every bit this happy and expressive, except at the last one, which was on the heels of a previous miscarriage. So I was a little more measured, but still very joyous.

[Anonymous]

He's not the one for you. He was never the one.

Even if you had carried the pregnancy to term, that would not change the outcome of him not being the person for you. You are better off in this timeline. Don't live in the past, please make peace with this ending and move forward to a better stage in your life.