MIL parking across the street daily — tell DH?
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Anonymous
This is what I truly believe. I just know her to well to believe it could be anything else. |
Anonymous
Why? Doing something you wouldn’t normally do is the exact same. |
Anonymous
I am and I do. Even if this MIL is emotionally immature and manipulative she still likely loves them. I am not saying this is normal or ok. Just sad. Makes me feel sad to think of not being in touch with my kids and their families (even though they are only in hs and college now.) |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
You should feel SAD for the son who has, for his entire life, had to deal with a mother like this. People don’t just abandon their parents, it takes a lifetime of HELL to get to this place, and you don’t get there lightly. You and your kids will be fine, because you ARE fine. |
Anonymous
Of course you do. This sounds like a lot of manufactured drama over an elderly woman supposedly parking in front of your house. And you sit there daily peeping out the window, too scared to just walk out and say hello and ask her what she's doing. |
Anonymous
I’m sure you’re trolling but as I said, it’s been two days and I’m sick. I also didn’t want to get involved, but it’s now too bizarre to ignore, especially if she comes today. I have no problem going out to her, but I don’t know if it’s my place. That’s all. |
Anonymous
Ok lol I’ll get on it |
Anonymous
Good. Because you shouldn't be afraid of your MIL and your husband. Are you sure you're a functioning adult able to be left home alone? God forbid the doorbell ring. |
Anonymous
No, it doesn’t make sense. Why would she think it likely that if you had a camera, it would pick her up PARKED ACROSS THE STREET? Wouldn’t she expect any cameras to be focused on your own home? Do you make a habit of spying on your neighbors. While it is possible your neighbor might ask why she keeps parking in front of their house, sitting in a car and looking around is hardly feigning a medical emergency. I think it far more likely that she loves and misses her son, but is trying to respect his wish for no contact. By coming during the day when you and your neighbors are unlikely to be present, and staying in her car on public property, she can reassure herself that your family seems to be doing okay, without intruding on you at all. It’s hard to imagine how she plans on manipulating you when she seems to be avoiding your attention. I do think you should tell your husband, because I believe a married couple should always be open and honest without secrets between them. I would hope, however, that you would consider the possibility that her motives are less sinister than the conspiracy theories you’ve imagined and present the data to him as neutrally as possible, allowing him to interpret them for himself. Of course, if he asks for your opinion, you should be open and honest about that as well. I obviously don’t have the context of experience that you do and may be completely wrong, maybe she is scheming to bring drama back into your lives. I have no way of knowing if your conclusions are right or wrong; I just think you should consider all possibilities. |
Anonymous
| This is stalking behavior and pretty concerning. |
Anonymous
| It would be fun to mess with her, like you could have different guys drop by the house so she thinks you are having an affair, lineup 100 Amazon boxes in your driveway so she thinks you are “spending all your husbands money”, rent a moving truck and park it in the driveway. |
Anonymous
To be honest, if she loved and missed her son, she could shape up, offer a genuine apology, and work towards real repair. The ball is in her court, as the parent/child relationship flows downwards. The parent has the power. |
Anonymous
+1 you need to tell him. |
Anonymous
WTAF is wrong with you? Some people have empathy. Maybe look into it. That poor woman. |