Wedding—leave them home alone all day?

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Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Your kid needs therapy, stat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. It’s one day that’s not about her. Tell her to clean her room, watch Netflix and FaceTime lonely relatives. She can put other people first by age 14.

I think you are the ridiculous one. A 14 year isn't going to mess up the wedding.

I would skip unless they were very good friends. If not see if she can spend the day with a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to a wedding if my kid wasn't invited. I think it's rude for them to not invite your child.

Maybe they’ve never met the kid . Maybe it’s a small wedding. You’d be a jerk to stand on ceremony this way.

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Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. It’s one day that’s not about her. Tell her to clean her room, watch Netflix and FaceTime lonely relatives. She can put other people first by age 14.

I think you are the ridiculous one. A 14 year isn't going to mess up the wedding.

I would skip unless they were very good friends. If not see if she can spend the day with a friend.

Well she WOULD mess up the wedding since she WASN’T INVITED.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to a wedding if my kid wasn't invited. I think it's rude for them to not invite your child.

Harumph! I was a bride over 30 years ago and explicitly stated no children. Still had 125 closest family and friends attend.

I wouldn’t want a 14DC there then and I know my own DC wouldn’t have wanted to go to a wedding at that age anyway!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Your kid needs therapy, stat.

It's something we have been trying to get her to do. But she physically refuses to go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Your kid needs therapy, stat.

It's something we have been trying to get her to do. But she physically refuses to go.

Therapy via Zoom.

[Anonymous]

Can she try to make plans with a friend for the evening? You could offer to pay if the other family can drive.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Your kid needs therapy, stat.

It's something we have been trying to get her to do. But she physically refuses to go.

Therapy via Zoom.

She refuses both types. We have tried taking away all types of privileges but nothing helped. We've told her she'll always be living in fear if she doesn't participate but she says she does not care and thinks its normal. We can't physically force her to do anything.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Your kid needs therapy, stat.

It's something we have been trying to get her to do. But she physically refuses to go.

Therapy via Zoom.

She refuses both types. We have tried taking away all types of privileges but nothing helped. We've told her she'll always be living in fear if she doesn't participate but she says she does not care and thinks its normal. We can't physically force her to do anything.

Have her committed to a mental hospital. You need to meet with a therapist to find out how to get her there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Well that escalated quickly.

[Anonymous]

I was left alone under those circumstances at that age as an only child and it was fine. Learning to handle being alone for a day without getting unbearably lonely is part of life.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD16 doesn't like being home alone so we never leave her alone but she also does not like going outside alone because of a weird kidnapping fear, so if your DD is fine with it then it's completely okay.

Your kid needs therapy, stat.

It's something we have been trying to get her to do. But she physically refuses to go.

Therapy via Zoom.

She refuses both types. We have tried taking away all types of privileges but nothing helped. We've told her she'll always be living in fear if she doesn't participate but she says she does not care and thinks its normal. We can't physically force her to do anything.

I would tell her she has a choice- either go to therapy, or you'll hire one of those people who dress like clowns and follow/ kidnap people for a day. She won't know when it will happen. Therapy is much better than that.

Also, 16 is a child. A child doesn't get to refuse. You are coddling her. Hire the clown.

[Anonymous]

It’s a rare occasion, so she can stay home. She can do a movie marathon with good treats.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see the issue at 14 but at that age my kids often had a friend over for longer than that on a weekend day so she could just go to a friend’s house too.