Man working in daycare center

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aside from this specific situation it's really sad to see the views of men working in day care on this thread. Both my kids went to a daycare where a young man working through college worked in thec4 to 5 year old classroom. He was one of the favorite teachers especially among boys. It's nice for kids to see men performing caring roles.

Agreed. My son's favorite preschool teacher was a man. It's good for boys to have male role models in different settings, just like it's good for girls to see that women can work in traditionally male dominated settings.

But that was in the context of a day care with background checks and staff oversight. Some teacher's husband? No way.

At least that man knows how to change diapers.
I can count exactly on one hand how many times my DH changed diapers for two kids.
And he would put the diapers on inside out resulting in lack of absorption.
I salute the man who knows how to change diapers and does it without grudge.

[Anonymous]

I’ve liked that my kids had some male teachers in preschool. They need male role models showing men can have empathy and take on caregiving roles.

I understand the concern about statistics, but it’s pretty discriminatory. Think about if you’d have the same rule for race etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the OP. I don't want a man chamging my preschoolers diaper... not sorry about this opinion amd neither should the OP. Men are sexual predators

I’ll be sure to tell my son that when he grows up he’s going to be a sexual predator like his dad and men in general. Thanks for the info!

Focus your righteous anger on men for being responsible for 99% of sexual assaults. Being mad at the stats and telling moms to pretend they don’t exist is dumb.

Do you apply the same logic to race and crime? Or add "context"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the OP. I don't want a man chamging my preschoolers diaper... not sorry about this opinion amd neither should the OP. Men are sexual predators

+1

Totally agree. This is downright scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never leave my child alone with strangers at a daycare center. Period.

Examine your privilege.

That PP is just speaking their truth.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t realize there was so much anti-male discrimination in the day care world.

[Anonymous]

H*** to the NO would I let my kid be watched regularly by a male stranger, let alone changing diapers. Stories come out all the time about how babies and kids were being abused and I’ve wondered how they were in those situations to begin with. Reading this thread now I know! A male wanting to work in a daycare is a big red effing flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the OP. I don't want a man chamging my preschoolers diaper... not sorry about this opinion amd neither should the OP. Men are sexual predators

Then you can never complain about DH’s involvement with your kids. If men are treated like sexual predators for no other reason than their gender, they never learn that they can be caregivers.

I also wouldn’t trust a female Uber driver bc one time I was in accident caused by a woman driver. Maybe the female Uber driver can drive well despite her vagina, but you just never know and car crashes can kill you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d at least follow up with the director whether he is considered staff and is background checked and trained. If they aren’t forthcoming with that info I would pull my child and report to the state…regardless of the person’s gender.

This. I’m fine with a male teacher if vetted. Not just a random
Phone call to someone to help.

[Anonymous]

He's not even trained, just some random man married to one of the workers? Absolutely not!

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you need to figure out what you are actually upset about.

Is it that they had an unvetted substitute? That's real, but I also think that a male substitute operating in full view of *his own wife* is probably the least likely person to abuse your child.

Is it that he's a man in general? Well, that's on you. If you can't imagine a man in a caregiving role, and don't want men to model that for boy and girl children, then you will inherit the world you've built.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a problem at all with men in daycare centers but we rely on the system of qualifications and background checks and I would try to pull my child from any center using unauthorized staff.

As much as it would suck more for everyone, they should have closed if they didn’t have appropriate staff ratios. I get that parents would have been inconvenienced and infuriated and possibly risked job loss. I don’t have a great solution, but having subs who aren’t cleared is not an acceptable one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you need to figure out what you are actually upset about.

Is it that they had an unvetted substitute? That's real, but I also think that a male substitute operating in full view of *his own wife* is probably the least likely person to abuse your child.

Is it that he's a man in general? Well, that's on you. If you can't imagine a man in a caregiving role, and don't want men to model that for boy and girl children, then you will inherit the world you've built.

I don’t think that’s even close to true?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you need to figure out what you are actually upset about.

Is it that they had an unvetted substitute? That's real, but I also think that a male substitute operating in full view of *his own wife* is probably the least likely person to abuse your child.

Is it that he's a man in general? Well, that's on you. If you can't imagine a man in a caregiving role, and don't want men to model that for boy and girl children, then you will inherit the world you've built.

I don’t think that’s even close to true?

+1
What is this person even talking about?

[Anonymous]

PP that are against all men in childcare settings - is there some point which that changes for you? Once they are school age, are you still not okay with summer camp? Because there are tons of male counselors working in summer camps, especially sports based ones