Man working in daycare center

[Anonymous]

Would this make you upset? DH and I are thinking of pulling DD.

We have cameras in our toddler daughters daycare room. We saw a strange man in the room and he was changing her diaper. We called and the manager said that they had too many call outs and the man was her main teachers spouse.

I’ve never met this man. As far as I know he was never background checked.

Is this appropriate to you?

Personally we would NOT choose a center with a male teacher due to statistics. I know others feel differently but I do feel like we have the right to know beforehand.

[Anonymous]

I’d at least follow up with the director whether he is considered staff and is background checked and trained. If they aren’t forthcoming with that info I would pull my child and report to the state…regardless of the person’s gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d at least follow up with the director whether he is considered staff and is background checked and trained. If they aren’t forthcoming with that info I would pull my child and report to the state…regardless of the person’s gender.

Exactly this.

But your thread title should be “Unauthorized personnel working in a daycare center” or “Daycare worker’s spouse changing diapers at center,” not “Man working in daycare center.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d at least follow up with the director whether he is considered staff and is background checked and trained. If they aren’t forthcoming with that info I would pull my child and report to the state…regardless of the person’s gender.

Exactly this.

But your thread title should be “Unauthorized personnel working in a daycare center” or “Daycare worker’s spouse changing diapers at center,” not “Man working in daycare center.”

I understand what you are saying, and I think you are totally correct. BUT, I think OP typed what she meant. It does not matter if he was clear (background check and certified) I think her problem is that a man is changing her daughter.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the OP. I don't want a man chamging my preschoolers diaper... not sorry about this opinion amd neither should the OP. Men are sexual predators

[Anonymous]

No, a man working in a child care center doesn’t make me upset. I’m a director in DC, and now that child care pay has risen so much we are seeing more men entering the field. I think it’s great!
I would be upset though about background check protocols not being followed, regardless of the sex of the employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the OP. I don't want a man chamging my preschoolers diaper... not sorry about this opinion amd neither should the OP. Men are sexual predators

I’ll be sure to tell my son that when he grows up he’s going to be a sexual predator like his dad and men in general. Thanks for the info!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, a man working in a child care center doesn’t make me upset. I’m a director in DC, and now that child care pay has risen so much we are seeing more men entering the field. I think it’s great!
I would be upset though about background check protocols not being followed, regardless of the sex of the employee.

+1
It makes me concerned that they are not following other safety protocol as well. Young children are vulnerable and you are smart to keep watch for your child, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the OP. I don't want a man chamging my preschoolers diaper... not sorry about this opinion amd neither should the OP. Men are sexual predators

I’ll be sure to tell my son that when he grows up he’s going to be a sexual predator like his dad and men in general. Thanks for the info!

Focus your righteous anger on men for being responsible for 99% of sexual assaults. Being mad at the stats and telling moms to pretend they don’t exist is dumb.

[Anonymous]

I would never send a child of preschool age or below to be cared for by a man, regardless of whether they were background checked. I would report and pull my child.

[Anonymous]

Aside from this specific situation it's really sad to see the views of men working in day care on this thread. Both my kids went to a daycare where a young man working through college worked in thec4 to 5 year old classroom. He was one of the favorite teachers especially among boys. It's nice for kids to see men performing caring roles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, a man working in a child care center doesn’t make me upset. I’m a director in DC, and now that child care pay has risen so much we are seeing more men entering the field. I think it’s great!
I would be upset though about background check protocols not being followed, regardless of the sex of the employee.

This is my thought exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from this specific situation it's really sad to see the views of men working in day care on this thread. Both my kids went to a daycare where a young man working through college worked in thec4 to 5 year old classroom. He was one of the favorite teachers especially among boys. It's nice for kids to see men performing caring roles.

Agreed. My son's favorite preschool teacher was a man. It's good for boys to have male role models in different settings, just like it's good for girls to see that women can work in traditionally male dominated settings.

But that was in the context of a day care with background checks and staff oversight. Some teacher's husband? No way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never leave my child alone with strangers at a daycare center. Period.

Examine your privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from this specific situation it's really sad to see the views of men working in day care on this thread. Both my kids went to a daycare where a young man working through college worked in thec4 to 5 year old classroom. He was one of the favorite teachers especially among boys. It's nice for kids to see men performing caring roles.

This.
A man working daycare can really influence a young boy's perception of male/female roles.
I think it helps a boy child build empathy when seeing another male providing care. My children's nursery and preschool had a man on staff. He was great with organizing the kids with games. The school also ran a popular summer camp and he was the main guy they would send to camp conferences and development programs. He would bring back ideas for programming and events.

Maybe the toxic male phenomena has to do with their lack of representation in the childcare world.