when there's a super hot young lady in your office

[Anonymous]

The more you look the more she sees you and thinks "ick".

Once she thinks "ick" 10x she has to hold down throw up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

Nobody talked about how she's dressing.

She could just be a bombshell genetically, wearing gray turtlenecks and trying to be taken seriously and getting her work done.
I mean, we've all been there. She needs to advance and earn during these years. Leave her alone.

This. I’ve had men accuse me of dressing “like that” when I was literally covered up head to toe.

If you have boobs and a butt, they are going to be “accentuated” unless you wear extremely baggy clothing because they stick out. Men don’t have those body parts (except for the occasional man with a larger, more muscular butt), so it’s not seen as an issue.

It’s like, if a man has a more muscular chest or shoulder or arms, so clothes are naturally more tight in those areas, he’s not dressing “like that”. It’s just how his body is shaped. He can’t leave his biceps at home.

As an hourglass, this. And sigh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

Nobody talked about how she's dressing.

She could just be a bombshell genetically, wearing gray turtlenecks and trying to be taken seriously and getting her work done.
I mean, we've all been there. She needs to advance and earn during these years. Leave her alone.

The OP says “who wears accentuating clothes.”

Turtle necks accentuate boobs.
Boots accentuate your but
white button downs accentuate your sexy.

[Anonymous]

Find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She knows you’re ogling and she thinks you’re disgusting.

Nope. She knows you are looking (and she knows the ladies are looking too) and she likes the attention.

-signed, formerly very hot young 120 something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

Nobody talked about how she's dressing.

She could just be a bombshell genetically, wearing gray turtlenecks and trying to be taken seriously and getting her work done.
I mean, we've all been there. She needs to advance and earn during these years. Leave her alone.

The OP says “who wears accentuating clothes.”

Turtle necks accentuate boobs.
Boots accentuate your but
white button downs accentuate your sexy.

Burqas accentuate that you’re a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

dp.. I'm a woman, and your post is ridiculous. Old men have eyes, too.

Sure, women want the attractive men to look, and maybe make a comment, but not gross men.

Sorry, but women cannot demand which men ogle them and which don't. That's not how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

LOL. Mids 40s guy is "gross old man"

Found the angry ugly lady!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

dp.. I'm a woman, and your post is ridiculous. Old men have eyes, too.

Sure, women want the attractive men to look, and maybe make a comment, but not gross men.

Sorry, but women cannot demand which men ogle them and which don't. That's not how it works.

No, they can't "demand" that old men don't ogle them in the office, but...they shouldn't have to. Just because you find someone attractive does not give you the right to make a fool of yourself. You should make a conscious effort to NOT "ogle" her and make her uncomfortable. Would you want someone to treat your daughter that way? What is wrong with you?

I used to work in a developing country in South Asia, where honor killings and assault of women were common. Women had to cover, and even so, men would leer and ogle, hoot and shout obscenities or propositions at women they saw in public, and it was just accepted that this is how men are. It isn't. Nothing is more disgusting than a man who feels he has a right to stare and ogle simply because "women can't demand which men ogle them and which don't." That way of thinking is super predatory and taken to its logical conclusion, is horrific and disgusting. You are presumably educated and respect women around you, right? Try and show it in your actions. Don't act like an animal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

LOL. Mids 40s guy is "gross old man"

Found the angry ugly lady!

To people in their 20s, yes, mid-40s people are gross and old. My mid-40s H is hot AF to me but at 23 I would have found his dad bod and wrinkles pretty gross.

[Anonymous]

I'm a man with an ample bottom. My waist is thin which accentuates the size well. I wear stretch Benobos and tight shirts but am demure about my handsomeness.

[Anonymous]

Don't do anything different than you would do if you found her very unattractive, or if she were a man. You know this, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

dp.. I'm a woman, and your post is ridiculous. Old men have eyes, too.

Sure, women want the attractive men to look, and maybe make a comment, but not gross men.

Sorry, but women cannot demand which men ogle them and which don't. That's not how it works.

The men who say this are always the same ones who freak out if a gay man treats them the way they treat women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She knows you’re ogling and she thinks you’re disgusting.

She knows he’s oogling and likes it. Otherwise, why dress for attention if you don’t want and enjoy the attention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She knows you’re ogling and she thinks you’re disgusting.

She knows he’s oogling and likes it. Otherwise, why dress for attention if you don’t want and enjoy the attention?

1. She's probably not wearing a glitter halter top and mini skirt, though. She's wearing office appropriate attire that is flattering and looks good on her because she's young and has a good body. There's a difference. She shouldn't have to wear a burqa to hide her attractiveness. She should be able to look professional but cute, and yes, she should be able to do so in the hope of catching the attention of someone age-appropriate who interests her. There's nothing wrong with that. And it isn't an invitation for old middle-aged men in the office to leer and gape at her, either.

2. You find her attractive. She would look attractive to you in most office-appropriate attire because she is young and beautiful, not because she is intentionally dressing to catch your gaze. Try to control yourself.

3. Again, she is no dressing for your attention! This is clear to everyone but you.

4. I'm the poster who worked in South Asia. Even though women covered, men still groped them, hotted and shrieked obscenities at them in public, and honor killings and assaults happened all the time. The prevailing attitude there was the same as the one you exhibit here: women wouldn't behave the way they do if they didn't want the attention. Those women were NOT inviting the attention, they were simply...existing as women. It's the same thing here. Leave this poor young woman alone. The invitation to ogle that you see is all in your head.