when there's a super hot young lady in your office

[Anonymous]

mid-40s guy here. i strictly adhere to all the sexual harassment training stuff. i would never jeopardize my job with inappropriate behavior.

but man, it is hard not to ogle this extremely hot young lady in my office who wears accentuating clothes.

guys - have you been in this situation? any advice?

[Anonymous]

Look don’t touch

[Anonymous]

Gross

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by “ogle.” Don’t make anyone feel gross.

[Anonymous]

Clearly a troll but I'll play for fun: Maintain professionalism, don't leer, and keep your pants on.

[Anonymous]

Imagine her look of utter disbelief followed quickly by repulsion if you even mentioned your thread topic to her.

[Anonymous]

She knows you’re ogling and she thinks you’re disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine her look of utter disbelief followed quickly by repulsion if you even mentioned your thread topic to her.

+1

You are a gross old man to her, OP. She would be disgusted to learn your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:mid-40s guy here. i strictly adhere to all the sexual harassment training stuff. i would never jeopardize my job with inappropriate behavior.

but man, it is hard not to ogle this extremely hot young lady in my office who wears accentuating clothes.

guys - have you been in this situation? any advice?

She knows what she's doing. Look but don't touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

Nobody talked about how she's dressing.

She could just be a bombshell genetically, wearing gray turtlenecks and trying to be taken seriously and getting her work done.
I mean, we've all been there. She needs to advance and earn during these years. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

Nobody talked about how she's dressing.

She could just be a bombshell genetically, wearing gray turtlenecks and trying to be taken seriously and getting her work done.
I mean, we've all been there. She needs to advance and earn during these years. Leave her alone.

This. I’ve had men accuse me of dressing “like that” when I was literally covered up head to toe.

If you have boobs and a butt, they are going to be “accentuated” unless you wear extremely baggy clothing because they stick out. Men don’t have those body parts (except for the occasional man with a larger, more muscular butt), so it’s not seen as an issue.

It’s like, if a man has a more muscular chest or shoulder or arms, so clothes are naturally more tight in those areas, he’s not dressing “like that”. It’s just how his body is shaped. He can’t leave his biceps at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

No. They don't want gross old men their dad's age to look, actually. Nothing is more disgusting than noticing that stupid-eyed look from an old man who thinks he is being subtle as he sneaks glances at your body.

Women want the men they are interested in to look. In most cases, this is moderately attractive men around their own age. It is rarely the gross old man in the office who posts online about what to do when "there's a super hot young lady" around.

This all this. It’s reminding me of my 20s. She is grossed out by you old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this gross? Isn’t that why women dress like that? Want guys to look?

Nobody talked about how she's dressing.

She could just be a bombshell genetically, wearing gray turtlenecks and trying to be taken seriously and getting her work done.
I mean, we've all been there. She needs to advance and earn during these years. Leave her alone.

The OP says “who wears accentuating clothes.”