Is virginity a red flag at 40?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't belive that for a second. He's trying to play the old "I'm a virgin" to get ladies to sleep with him.

NOPE!

+1 not buying what he's selling!

[Anonymous]

There are cultures where virginity up to marriage is the norm for both men and women regardless of age. Observant members of various religious traditions also avoid non-marital sexual activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't belive that for a second. He's trying to play the old "I'm a virgin" to get ladies to sleep with him.

NOPE!

+1 not buying what he's selling!

And yet this thread is full of women saying they wouldn't touch a 40 year old virgin.

Idk, I think most men who are virgins know it's not attractive and probably go to great lengths to hide it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are cultures where virginity up to marriage is the norm for both men and women regardless of age. Observant members of various religious traditions also avoid non-marital sexual activity.

If he were that observant he wouldn't be dating someone who would be shocked that he observed that tenant of his religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't belive that for a second. He's trying to play the old "I'm a virgin" to get ladies to sleep with him.

NOPE!

+1 not buying what he's selling!

He didn't say it to me to get me to sleep with him. We were in the middle of having sex when he told me.

[Anonymous]

Does he have a collection of action figures in boxes at his house?

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's weird for a guy. Red flag.

I also assume there's something "off" with men who are 40 and never married. Red flag.

I'd end it asap.

[Anonymous]

He is terrible in bed and chucking it up to being a virgin. Great excuse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy who was a virgin at 25 - and we weren't even 25 when we dated, we were 30 and 31 - and in hindsight it was a huge red flag. I broke up with him because he had issues developing emotional intimacy, and in later conversations with my therapist after the breakup when I mentioned the virginity thing, she was like "That's pretty weird for a guy who isn't religious. Do you think there's something more there?" So, I would see it as a red flag that he's emotionally unavailable. But I have baggage so your mileage may vary.

Brett Kavanaugh was a virgin until 26. But he "talked a good game" (about action with the ladies) well before that...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you went on a few dates with a guy and everything was perfect but you found out he was a 40 year old virgin - with no explanation of why other than "it just never happened" - would you be put off?

There’s a movie…

[Anonymous]

I think he's lying.
If he was ACTUALLY a virgin he would wait until you had done it and then admitted to you that it had been his first time. Ask me how I know...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't belive that for a second. He's trying to play the old "I'm a virgin" to get ladies to sleep with him.

NOPE!

+1 not buying what he's selling!

He didn't say it to me to get me to sleep with him. We were in the middle of having sex when he told me.

Was it terrible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he's lying.
If he was ACTUALLY a virgin he would wait until you had done it and then admitted to you that it had been his first time. Ask me how I know...

op's post above says this is what happened

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't belive that for a second. He's trying to play the old "I'm a virgin" to get ladies to sleep with him.

NOPE!

+1 not buying what he's selling!

He didn't say it to me to get me to sleep with him. We were in the middle of having sex when he told me.

so how was it?

[Anonymous]

At least you don't have to worry about HPV and STDs. Just roll with it until any red flags arise. You said he was nice and you already slept with him, so.... why break up?