Marrying a nice rich guy

[Anonymous]

At 28 you shouldn’t be looking for rich you should be looking for a grinder who will get there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone here marry a very well off man they met past the age of 28 who is also a truly nice guy. Or is the hope for this pretty much over if you didn't go to school together or something?

You're gross.

At best you'll find a moron.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did at around 32. Just as easy to fall in love with someone wealthy as someone poor!

How old are you now? Let us know when he trades you in for someone younger.

We’re good, thanks. But you’re right, many marriages end in divorce so I’m glad that I planned ahead (though I very much believe that we won’t have to deal with divorce; we both have family histories which make us unusually committed).

I just laughed so hard i spit out my coffee. 😅

[Anonymous]

I did. I didn’t go seeking it out, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know plenty of heterosexual nice guys who are nearing 40 who want to get married and have a family. They were working their butts off to make money in their younger years because they did not come from wealthy backgrounds.

Unfortunately, all they are getting are gold-diggers women without family values. So they are also stuck.

This is BS.

Do these men live in a bubble?

There are women where they work, women where they live. They have family, friends and acquaintances who know great women.

I guess the first red flag would be that a man chose to stay single until his 49s just because he wanted to " make money in his younger years". It tells you how important money is to him. He is just attracting female versions of himself.

That kind of attitude keeps you husband-less forever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 28 you shouldn’t be looking for rich you should be looking for a grinder who will get there.

Why? There’s no extra points for this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At 28 you shouldn’t be looking for rich you should be looking for a grinder who will get there.

Why? There’s no extra points for this.

Hard worker is so much better than family money.

The question is how do you make sure the next generation doesn’t blow it all.

[Anonymous]

Make your own damn money.

[Anonymous]

My friend did, but 1) the guy got very rich after they've already been married and 2) he was working like crazy (got rich by selling a startup) and she had to give up her own pretty lucrative career because for years she was effectively a single mother.

She is now working on her own startup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know plenty of heterosexual nice guys who are nearing 40 who want to get married and have a family. They were working their butts off to make money in their younger years because they did not come from wealthy backgrounds.

Unfortunately, all they are getting are gold-diggers women without family values. So they are also stuck.

Maybe they should have trusted themselves more and maybe also not be looking for such younger women and sleeping around so much. Likely if they are 40 they've had plenty of partners. A huge turn off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is with the repeated threads in recent months about meeting and marrying wealthy people? Do that many of the posters on this site crave wealth and use it as a yardstick for measuring dates? Do people just hope to stop working as soon as possible in their lives and live off what a spouse brings to the marriage? How transactional and mercenary. Yeah, I'm judging and I own the fact I'm judging. It just screams "I want to be 'kept.'" And no amount of excuses like "But! I only desire for our kids to want for nothing!" or "I fear being poor because I was raised poor" or other supposed "reasons" could stop this thinking from being mercenary.

It’s disgusting.

Make your own gdamn $ !!

I really loathe “the man is the plan” thinking and parents that instill this type of thinking in their daughters are just gross people in 2023.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 28 you shouldn’t be looking for rich you should be looking for a grinder who will get there.

Why? There’s no extra points for this.

Hard worker is so much better than family money.

The question is how do you make sure the next generation doesn’t blow it all.

Not if you want incredibly rich and an equal partner in parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 28 you shouldn’t be looking for rich you should be looking for a grinder who will get there.

Why? There’s no extra points for this.

Hard worker is so much better than family money.

The question is how do you make sure the next generation doesn’t blow it all.

What do you care what the next generation does? Your dead.

I always told my parents to spend every dime, live it up. They earned it, they should use it.

[Anonymous]

OP, maybe try moving to a town with a very high cost of living and a thriving “arts district.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is with the repeated threads in recent months about meeting and marrying wealthy people? Do that many of the posters on this site crave wealth and use it as a yardstick for measuring dates? Do people just hope to stop working as soon as possible in their lives and live off what a spouse brings to the marriage? How transactional and mercenary. Yeah, I'm judging and I own the fact I'm judging. It just screams "I want to be 'kept.'" And no amount of excuses like "But! I only desire for our kids to want for nothing!" or "I fear being poor because I was raised poor" or other supposed "reasons" could stop this thinking from being mercenary.

It’s disgusting.

Make your own gdamn $ !!

I really loathe “the man is the plan” thinking and parents that instill this type of thinking in their daughters are just gross people in 2023.

+1 I tell my 14 yr old DD, "A man is not a plan". Having stated that, I tell her to marry someone who is smart and not afraid to work hard, and of course, one who is kind to her, like her father is to me.

He wasn't "wealthy" by dcum definition, but he was doing well. He was 36 when we started dating. I was also in my 30s.