Marrying a nice rich guy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

False. Love, like any feeling, is created by our thoughts, and our thoughts are within our control.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This kind of post really sets women back.

For the 100th time: a man is not a plan!!

Oh shut up.

You are setting yourself back with illogical statements like the one above.

+1. I don't care what how many advances women make, there are certain industries that are easier for men to have a real career in (Big Law, tech, finance). Unless these women don't want to have any babies...

It's women like you that are the cause of this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this question is kind of weird but I’ll bite. I met DH when he was late 20s and was making less than $100k/year. He’s now late 30s and makes seven figures. If I had been looking for someone with a certain income at that age, I think I would have filtered out most of the nice guys.

What was he doing to go from $100k to $1M? Maybe I can prod DH….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

You choose who you date, you fall in love with the people you date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

You choose who you date, you fall in love with the people you date.

You should write for Hallmark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

False. Love, like any feeling, is created by our thoughts, and our thoughts are within our control.

Wrong. You can’t will yourself to love someone. If you think you can, you’ve never been in love before. Real love is like a tidal wave. It’s a force that you can’t stop. You don’t do conjure that up in your mind. You can choose to walk away, but you can’t just make that happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

You choose who you date, you fall in love with the people you date.

Yes, you choose who you date. But you don’t just fall in love with people. You can like them a lot. Admire and respect them. Plan a future together. But that’s not love. I think is why many marriages amongst professionals fail. The women are looking to satisfy a checklist of criteria when picking a future spouse. It’s backwards. All in compassing love should be the first, most important criteria. It’s also reason why so many of these women stop having sex with their spouse. They never passionately loved them in the first place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

You choose who you date, you fall in love with the people you date.

Yes, you choose who you date. But you don’t just fall in love with people. You can like them a lot. Admire and respect them. Plan a future together. But that’s not love. I think is why many marriages amongst professionals fail. The women are looking to satisfy a checklist of criteria when picking a future spouse. It’s backwards. All in compassing love should be the first, most important criteria. It’s also reason why so many of these women stop having sex with their spouse. They never passionately loved them in the first place.

This still makes no logical sense. If you only date people of a solid socioeconomic background you have a LOWER chance of divorce.

[Anonymous]

Lower chance of divorce doesn't equate to a happy, healthy and passionate marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did not.

If you go for money, you will likely have to give up something else - age, looks, or personality. No free rides most the time.

Wow. That reply was going well until it got to the specifics, then was almost as shallow as the original post. "Age, looks or personality" as what you sacrifice for dollars? How about, "If you go for money, you likely will have to give up something else--possibly ethics, morals, time spent with the family."

You assume OP would be willing to give up something of her own. Sounds worse than marrying ugly lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lower chance of divorce doesn't equate to a happy, healthy and passionate marriage.

And what is your evidence that poor people have happier, healthier, and more passionate marriages? They certainly end more often.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

False. Love, like any feeling, is created by our thoughts, and our thoughts are within our control.

Wrong. You can’t will yourself to love someone. If you think you can, you’ve never been in love before. Real love is like a tidal wave. It’s a force that you can’t stop. You don’t do conjure that up in your mind. You can choose to walk away, but you can’t just make that happen.

This^. You can lime, tolerate, grow fond of a person and even love them but loving someone and being in love are two complete different emotions.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened to marrying someone you love and are absolutely crazy about? Marriage and kids are hard, and if you don’t have a foundation built on genuine love and trust, I don’t imagine a marriage will be healthy and happy.

But why not fall in love and be crazy about someone rich?

You don’t “choose” who you fall in love with. Love picks you.

False. Love, like any feeling, is created by our thoughts, and our thoughts are within our control.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lower chance of divorce doesn't equate to a happy, healthy and passionate marriage.

Why dont people realize this?