Can y'all stop being so mean, and tell your kids that, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean this both on here and IRL. My child is a senior in high school and there are kids and parents saying really mean things to their classmates about what college they're going to. I hope you realize that there are a number of reasons why someone may be going to a ''bad'' college: their parents have no college savings for them (regardless of the parents income), the parents are professors or staff at the college the kid is going to, the kid has a family tradition of going to that college, the kid has medical issues that require staying within a certain radius from home, the kid is majoring in something where the school matters very little (e.g. nursing or elementary education), the school had a very niche program the student is interested in, or maybe the student is just an okay student. And as for the last point, that does not make them a bad PERSON. Understand that not every child has a burning desire to make a gazillion bucks, either.

Just keep your personal business to yourself and this wont happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with Op completely - my kid is planning to attend a good school, but was accepted into significantly better schools. He has been subject to so much pressure from peers and their parents that he is settling and making a big mistake. It has caused my DC great emotional distress and made him question his own decisions. I can't stand the DMV and the snobbish behavior of people - DCUM of course takes it to a completely new level!

Just keep your personal business to yourself and this wont happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with Op completely - my kid is planning to attend a good school, but was accepted into significantly better schools. He has been subject to so much pressure from peers and their parents that he is settling and making a big mistake. It has caused my DC great emotional distress and made him question his own decisions. I can't stand the DMV and the snobbish behavior of people - DCUM of course takes it to a completely new level!

Just keep your personal business to yourself and this wont happen.

"Personal business'' like seniors talking about what they're doing next?

[Anonymous]

The DC area sounds horrible! None of this is happening at our suburban Chicago high school by students or parents!!! Everyone is happy to be going to college

[Anonymous]

My kid goes to a W school in Montgomery County. Husband and I are appalled at the nasty comments she receives. So rude, so nasty. We just figure the parents must be as nasty. Openly talk about their top SAT scores, and which colleges are good and which are not. Daughter has come home in tears. I can't wait to get out of this area and can't wait to get HER out. We don't want to look at Maryland for this reason - have had enough...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The DC area sounds horrible! None of this is happening at our suburban Chicago high school by students or parents!!! Everyone is happy to be going to college

I don't doubt it. Midwesterners are not cut like this..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The DC area sounds horrible! None of this is happening at our suburban Chicago high school by students or parents!!! Everyone is happy to be going to college

Thankfully DCUM does not reflect real life - in more ways than I can count.
Most people here are normal well adjusted human beings. This forum is a messed up micro-community.

[Anonymous]

LOL, I was the PP that said a simple life rule...a confident kid would care less about this. How ironic, the knives came out, humorous indeed!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean this both on here and IRL. My child is a senior in high school and there are kids and parents saying really mean things to their classmates about what college they're going to. I hope you realize that there are a number of reasons why someone may be going to a ''bad'' college: their parents have no college savings for them (regardless of the parents income), the parents are professors or staff at the college the kid is going to, the kid has a family tradition of going to that college, the kid has medical issues that require staying within a certain radius from home, the kid is majoring in something where the school matters very little (e.g. nursing or elementary education), the school had a very niche program the student is interested in, or maybe the student is just an okay student. And as for the last point, that does not make them a bad PERSON. Understand that not every child has a burning desire to make a gazillion bucks, either.

For a confident child none of this needs to be explained, not sorry if you think that's mean.

FYI - OP never said their child was having confidence issues and did not say their child was even having troubles. OP noted that parents and kids are not very thoughtful. You are only proving the point. Have an appropriate filter - especially if you are going to be judgmental. Include that filter in front of your children so they don't copy you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The DC area sounds horrible! None of this is happening at our suburban Chicago high school by students or parents!!! Everyone is happy to be going to college

I don't doubt it. Midwesterners are not cut like this..

+1. Wisconsin family here. We’re just happy DS got into college! He was elected Best Personality so his under 200 top college choice hasn’t hurt his likability.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean this both on here and IRL. My child is a senior in high school and there are kids and parents saying really mean things to their classmates about what college they're going to. I hope you realize that there are a number of reasons why someone may be going to a ''bad'' college: their parents have no college savings for them (regardless of the parents income), the parents are professors or staff at the college the kid is going to, the kid has a family tradition of going to that college, the kid has medical issues that require staying within a certain radius from home, the kid is majoring in something where the school matters very little (e.g. nursing or elementary education), the school had a very niche program the student is interested in, or maybe the student is just an okay student. And as for the last point, that does not make them a bad PERSON. Understand that not every child has a burning desire to make a gazillion bucks, either.

For a confident child none of this needs to be explained, not sorry if you think that's mean.

Respectfully disagree. It IS mean. It's not that some of us merely "think" that it is mean.

--Parent of student dealing with the highlighted section.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean this both on here and IRL. My child is a senior in high school and there are kids and parents saying really mean things to their classmates about what college they're going to. I hope you realize that there are a number of reasons why someone may be going to a ''bad'' college: their parents have no college savings for them (regardless of the parents income), the parents are professors or staff at the college the kid is going to, the kid has a family tradition of going to that college, the kid has medical issues that require staying within a certain radius from home, the kid is majoring in something where the school matters very little (e.g. nursing or elementary education), the school had a very niche program the student is interested in, or maybe the student is just an okay student. And as for the last point, that does not make them a bad PERSON. Understand that not every child has a burning desire to make a gazillion bucks, either.

For a confident child none of this needs to be explained, not sorry if you think that's mean.

“not sorry”? Are you 15? As adults you would realize that being gratuitously mean is immature and unwarranted.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a confident child none of this needs to be explained, not sorry if you think that's mean.

Typical entitled DCUM jerk parent who is teaching their children to be entitled jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean this both on here and IRL. My child is a senior in high school and there are kids and parents saying really mean things to their classmates about what college they're going to. I hope you realize that there are a number of reasons why someone may be going to a ''bad'' college: their parents have no college savings for them (regardless of the parents income), the parents are professors or staff at the college the kid is going to, the kid has a family tradition of going to that college, the kid has medical issues that require staying within a certain radius from home, the kid is majoring in something where the school matters very little (e.g. nursing or elementary education), the school had a very niche program the student is interested in, or maybe the student is just an okay student. And as for the last point, that does not make them a bad PERSON. Understand that not every child has a burning desire to make a gazillion bucks, either.

For a confident child none of this needs to be explained, not sorry if you think that's mean.

There is lots of teasing kids over this in high school. I am not sorry if you need me to explain that.

So maybe teach your kid why it's not nice to include yourself with friends who are acting this way. Teach them to be compassionate and be the bigger person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't you teach your children to deal with comments? You can't protect them from everything, everywhere. What are you going to do when your 24 yr old "child" calls you crying because someone at work said something they didn't like? Tell them to complain to their boss? HR?

Teach your kids to let comments roll off their backs. Teach your kids to laugh things off.

OP NEVER said their child couldn't deal. OP's child may be letting it roll of their back. That doesn't negate the fact that there are mean people and comments.....which is the ONLY point of the OP.