Married friends coming out?

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

That depends on exactly what happened. For all we know, that poster had an office crush on someone and decided not to act on it.
Do you all tell your spouses every single time you are tempted or attracted to someone else?
Personally I would rather not be told unless something actually happened.

What I'm getting from this is you want to judge others but don't want anyone judging your choices. You don't know anything about SIl yet you have decided she did the wrong thing by telling her husband. Simply because you haven't.
You got issues

LOL that wasn’t me.

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I've been happily married a very long time and we are still very active sexually but if something were to happen to my DH I wouldn't reject the idea of entering into a relationship with another woman. Finding another man as special as my husband might be impossible and another woman might just be much easier later in my life. I have quite a few gay friends of both sexes and they are very special friends.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

That depends on exactly what happened. For all we know, that poster had an office crush on someone and decided not to act on it.
Do you all tell your spouses every single time you are tempted or attracted to someone else?
Personally I would rather not be told unless something actually happened.

What I'm getting from this is you want to judge others but don't want anyone judging your choices. You don't know anything about SIl yet you have decided she did the wrong thing by telling her husband. Simply because you haven't.
You got issues

LOL that wasn’t me.

Double LOL.

I'm thinking the one with issues is the SIL that decided they are gay after being married. Two kids later.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

NO! Meaning many people have urges and attractions, but don't act on them. It can be any lifestyle or walk of life.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

That depends on exactly what happened. For all we know, that poster had an office crush on someone and decided not to act on it.
Do you all tell your spouses every single time you are tempted or attracted to someone else?
Personally I would rather not be told unless something actually happened.

What I'm getting from this is you want to judge others but don't want anyone judging your choices. You don't know anything about SIl yet you have decided she did the wrong thing by telling her husband. Simply because you haven't.
You got issues

LOL that wasn’t me.

Double LOL.

I'm thinking the one with issues is the SIL that decided they are gay after being married. Two kids later.

“Decided”?
Go away.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

That depends on exactly what happened. For all we know, that poster had an office crush on someone and decided not to act on it.
Do you all tell your spouses every single time you are tempted or attracted to someone else?
Personally I would rather not be told unless something actually happened.

What I'm getting from this is you want to judge others but don't want anyone judging your choices. You don't know anything about SIl yet you have decided she did the wrong thing by telling her husband. Simply because you haven't.
You got issues

LOL that wasn’t me.

Double LOL.

I'm thinking the one with issues is the SIL that decided they are gay after being married. Two kids later.

Oh so you're homophobic!

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

NO! Meaning many people have urges and attractions, but don't act on them. It can be any lifestyle or walk of life.

You are also homophobic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s the Glendon Doyle effect.

gross, in every sense of the word and every way possible.