Married friends coming out?

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

Thanks, Judgy McJudgerson.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

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How can I be honest about something I don’t even know for sure?

You could have been honest about feeling unsure. Do you really need this much help to understand the posts?

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How can I be honest about something I don’t even know for sure?

You could have been honest about feeling unsure. Do you really need this much help to understand the posts?

I did tell him I was unsure
I don’t owe you the whole story. Please stop making assumptions.

[Anonymous]

Great! Then few free to ignore it.
It is always interesting when several different posters on a thread write in the same tone.

The tones are similar because so many posters are calling you out on your horrible conduct. You are the one who made the mistakes (both when posting a reply and in so many other things.)

It is always interesting one someone gets slammed on in a thread and comes back for more.

[Anonymous]

I did tell him I was unsure
I don’t owe you the whole story. Please stop making assumptions.

Sure you did. If so, why did you have to hide your plan to work until you were ready to divorce?

You make up the story as you go along.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

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I did tell him I was unsure
I don’t owe you the whole story. Please stop making assumptions.

Sure you did. If so, why did you have to hide your plan to work until you were ready to divorce?

You make up the story as you go along.

What is this “hiding my plan to work” until I was ready to divorce?
Clearly I was working before that. I did not hide the fact that I was working from my spouse.
I knew I would have to be working if I decided to divorce.
That is not the same as working only so I could get divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

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Great! Then few free to ignore it.
It is always interesting when several different posters on a thread write in the same tone.

The tones are similar because so many posters are calling you out on your horrible conduct. You are the one who made the mistakes (both when posting a reply and in so many other things.)

It is always interesting one someone gets slammed on in a thread and comes back for more.

This thread confirms there is no way I could have done this in a way that was 100 percent perfect and ethical for all involved parties and that would make everyone happy.
As if it were ever any different…

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

That depends on exactly what happened. For all we know, that poster had an office crush on someone and decided not to act on it.
Do you all tell your spouses every single time you are tempted or attracted to someone else?
Personally I would rather not be told unless something actually happened.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil just came out only to my brother though, he told me. They just had their second child last year. They're figuring out what to do. She hasn't come out to her family yet. They're super religious.

I'm not religious, but I think she's horrible. They just decided to have a child! Both need to put that first, not too difficult.

I have feelings and attractions etc. etc. BUT as an adult I don't act on that. I put my family first, and know how my poor actions would negatively affect others. It's called being a responsible adult.

FFS this is why I can’t take you seriously when you imply there is a “right” way to do this.
Who said they aren’t putting the child first? What did you get out of that post that leads you to believe the child is not being prioritized?
Again, wise one, tell us what this lady should have done instead?

Did you not read? "They're figuring out what to do." Apparently the sil pulled a number on her DH to begin with. You can't prioritize a child with that nonsense going on.

I absolutely read it, that’s why your response puzzled me.
What is wrong with them figuring out what to do?
I missed the part about SIL pulling a number on the DH. Did she cheat?

That figuring was suppose to be done before they had the kids. My point. Another example of why more kids are having mental problems. Idiot parents.

Do you ever see anyone struggle with anything and think “there, but for the grace of God, go I”?
I guess not. Must be nice to have all your figuring out before you were 26. Consider yourself lucky and stop judging.

Been there and put my kids/family first. It wasn't hard! Do you act on your compulsions?

So you are a lesbian and are hiding this from your husband?

See what I mean? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Shouldn't he get a vote though? He may be fine keeping up appearances.but taking away his choice seems wrong

That depends on exactly what happened. For all we know, that poster had an office crush on someone and decided not to act on it.
Do you all tell your spouses every single time you are tempted or attracted to someone else?
Personally I would rather not be told unless something actually happened.

What I'm getting from this is you want to judge others but don't want anyone judging your choices. You don't know anything about SIl yet you have decided she did the wrong thing by telling her husband. Simply because you haven't.
You got issues