Started seeing this new guy. Overhead him on the phone say “I don’t hate her. It’s not like that”?

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

He’s spending June with OP, money on her, and more importantly he didn’t say no when asked if he had feelings for her. I didn’t say anything about getting more serious because I don’t know. All I’m saying is he does have feelings since he didn’t say no to his ex - there’s got to be a reason

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

He’s spending June with OP, money on her, and more importantly he didn’t say no when asked if he had feelings for her. I didn’t say anything about getting more serious because I don’t know. All I’m saying is he does have feelings since he didn’t say no to his ex - there’s got to be a reason

and he's also spending time with and taking calls from his ex. so he's not done with her. Maybe O is like you and likes the drama though, and is hoping she'll "win".

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

Low hanging fruit is taste and ripe, but it quickly spoils, before you can unload it in the cupboard. Reach higher.

Many of the women on the forum don't want to aim hgiher, bottom of the barrel is could enough for them, and they want other women to have the same crap standards. The bar is in hell.

Dont it burn though? 🔥

Evidently not enough or they just want everyone else to join them in their misery

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Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

She wasn't snooping through his phone and she wasn't eavesdropping, if you need to make up alternative facts it's safe to say your argument is DOA. You've already tried your crazy and insecure schtick in here. It's old it's tired. Guys like you and guys like the one OP is dating are a waste of time. Move along. OP needs to move on too.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ndn4b0/overheard_the_guy_im_seeing_tell_his_ex_i_dont/

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

He’s spending June with OP, money on her, and more importantly he didn’t say no when asked if he had feelings for her. I didn’t say anything about getting more serious because I don’t know. All I’m saying is he does have feelings since he didn’t say no to his ex - there’s got to be a reason

and he's also spending time with and taking calls from his ex. so he's not done with her. Maybe O is like you and likes the drama though, and is hoping she'll "win".

I didn’t deny those things happening as well. So you’re saying it this guy can’t have feelings for OP and his ex at the same time? That’s why I’m asking why are you so certain that he doesnt have feelings for OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

Ladies I'm going to peep some game for you thanks to this charming male or male-identified poster..

These type of men love to play games and mess with your head. The first game he tried was 1. They aren't exclusive. This is true, but not being exclusive does not equal not deserving of respectful behavior. 2. They will lie and twist facts to make you feel like you are in the wrong.and feel like you should accept their bum behavior, example here is the phone, OP wasn't going through his phone .

3. Honesty in order to gaslight you later- I told you I was talking to her and that we were c" talking a month ago" I was hiding anything. you should be glad I was honest with you you don't have the right to be upset if I'm honest.

4. honesty in order to see how much you'll tolerate trust this guy and pp know this is bum behavior but he wants a woman or women who will tolerate his bum behavior, someone who will say well at least he was honest.

5. calling you crazy and insecure not only is this language abusive it's also them lashing out at you for daring to have standards for yourself.

Stay away from bums and fbois ladies. Plenty of good men out there who don't engage in this childish nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

He’s spending June with OP, money on her, and more importantly he didn’t say no when asked if he had feelings for her. I didn’t say anything about getting more serious because I don’t know. All I’m saying is he does have feelings since he didn’t say no to his ex - there’s got to be a reason

and he's also spending time with and taking calls from his ex. so he's not done with her. Maybe O is like you and likes the drama though, and is hoping she'll "win".

This is no competition. DP. OP needs to fold, step away from the table, rise and roll with dignity.

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

He’s spending June with OP, money on her, and more importantly he didn’t say no when asked if he had feelings for her. I didn’t say anything about getting more serious because I don’t know. All I’m saying is he does have feelings since he didn’t say no to his ex - there’s got to be a reason

and he's also spending time with and taking calls from his ex. so he's not done with her. Maybe O is like you and likes the drama though, and is hoping she'll "win".

I didn’t deny those things happening as well. So you’re saying it this guy can’t have feelings for OP and his ex at the same time? That’s why I’m asking why are you so certain that he doesnt have feelings for OP?

If he stil has feelings where he feels responsible for the well being and emotions of his ex he has no business trying to get with OP or any other woman he needs to get his head straight.

Further his emotions aren't really relevant because this situation is nothing but drama and drama is for middle schoolers and high schoolers not for grown folks that are dating.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

She wasn't snooping through his phone and she wasn't eavesdropping, if you need to make up alternative facts it's safe to say your argument is DOA. You've already tried your crazy and insecure schtick in here. It's old it's tired. Guys like you and guys like the one OP is dating are a waste of time. Move along. OP needs to move on too.

It’s called a mind f*ck. They have one primary f*ck skill and believe all organs require the same rudimentary and crass treatment. Self-evolvement is not the objective here. Self-satisfaction is. The bar, uh... burns palms, to say the least.

Dismiss.

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Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

He’s spending June with OP, money on her, and more importantly he didn’t say no when asked if he had feelings for her. I didn’t say anything about getting more serious because I don’t know. All I’m saying is he does have feelings since he didn’t say no to his ex - there’s got to be a reason

and he's also spending time with and taking calls from his ex. so he's not done with her. Maybe O is like you and likes the drama though, and is hoping she'll "win".

This is no competition. DP. OP needs to fold, step away from the table, rise and roll with dignity.

Oh I agree OP should move on. I'm just trying to understand why some posters seem to think she should stick around.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

Ladies I'm going to peep some game for you thanks to this charming male or male-identified poster..

These type of men love to play games and mess with your head. The first game he tried was 1. They aren't exclusive. This is true, but not being exclusive does not equal not deserving of respectful behavior. 2. They will lie and twist facts to make you feel like you are in the wrong.and feel like you should accept their bum behavior, example here is the phone, OP wasn't going through his phone .

3. Honesty in order to gaslight you later- I told you I was talking to her and that we were c" talking a month ago" I was hiding anything. you should be glad I was honest with you you don't have the right to be upset if I'm honest.

4. honesty in order to see how much you'll tolerate trust this guy and pp know this is bum behavior but he wants a woman or women who will tolerate his bum behavior, someone who will say well at least he was honest.

5. calling you crazy and insecure not only is this language abusive it's also them lashing out at you for daring to have standards for yourself.

Stay away from bums and fbois ladies. Plenty of good men out there who don't engage in this childish nonsense.

Gurrrrrrrrrrrl. Preach. And on the Sabbath!

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ndn4b0/overheard_the_guy_im_seeing_tell_his_ex_i_dont/

According to the replies on Reddit it is Valentine’s Day poster. I hope that it is a troll and not a real person. Op if you are it a troll, please seek help and work on your self esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ndn4b0/overheard_the_guy_im_seeing_tell_his_ex_i_dont/

According to the replies on Reddit it is Valentine’s Day poster. I hope that it is a troll and not a real person. Op if you are it a troll, please seek help and work on your self esteem.

*if you are not a troll