Started seeing this new guy. Overhead him on the phone say “I don’t hate her. It’s not like that”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

Oh hell no! OP, these 2 are not done dealing with each other and are incredibly childish and drama-filled. Don't waste your time with this nonsense. Drop the guy. There are other men.

You promise you’re not Valentine girl? Because my heart breaks thinking you’re two separate posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

Low hanging fruit is taste and ripe, but it quickly spoils, before you can unload it in the cupboard. Reach higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing at all about that overheard segment suggests that the was talking about OP.

Op has said that he told her that they were talking about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.
The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

Low hanging fruit is taste and ripe, but it quickly spoils, before you can unload it in the cupboard. Reach higher.

Many of the women on the forum don't want to aim hgiher, bottom of the barrel is could enough for them, and they want other women to have the same crap standards. The bar is in hell.

[Anonymous]

^^ I don’t know that some readers will truly appreciate the implication of this likelihood.

[Anonymous]

“The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.“

Anonymous wrote:^^ I don’t know that some readers will truly appreciate the implication of this likelihood.

To be clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

Oh hell no! OP, these 2 are not done dealing with each other and are incredibly childish and drama-filled. Don't waste your time with this nonsense. Drop the guy. There are other men.

You promise you’re not Valentine girl? Because my heart breaks thinking you’re two separate posters.

I'm telling you the bar is in hell for so may women. Just look at the 2 or 3 who are telling her this is totally acceptable, and she should just laugh about it because this is how guys are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

Low hanging fruit is taste and ripe, but it quickly spoils, before you can unload it in the cupboard. Reach higher.

Many of the women on the forum don't want to aim hgiher, bottom of the barrel is could enough for them, and they want other women to have the same crap standards. The bar is in hell.

Dont it burn though? 🔥

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you heard is really not a big deal for someone that you are dating casually. i don't think you have learned much about whether you have future with him. If he told his gf, "I don't hate her." He was not denying that he has feelings for you, but also he it isn't a serious relationship (yet). Only you know if that is consistent with what he has shown you.

But you have learned that he is still in touch with his ex, and sufficiently invested that he would get up and leave to take her call. I actually don't think this is that big of a deal early on, unless you all are more serious than I can gather from your post.

Now that you brought it up to him, and he acted weird about it, it might be too much to overcome.

Did you miss the part where OP said he saw the ex out on a date and he got so upset about it to the point where he contacted his ex to talk about it?

OP, the flag is red and on fire. No good reason to continue anything with this guy, especially if you’ve caught feelings. Unless you’re ready to manage lots of emotional drama (he saw his ex on a date and texted her!!!!), move on.

He has feelings for OP but they haven’t had ex the exclusive talk so he’s single. What’s the big deal?

The thing is, he doesn’t have feelings for OP and if they go “exclusive” it will be because she’s taking on emotional drama from him and the ex based on this post alone.

PP, why do you believe he doesn’t have feelings? He was evasive for a reason.

Here's a fun exercise. How about you explain to us how his behavior shows he has feelings for OP, and how he is behaving as a man who is clearly interested and wants to make things more serious with OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

Oh hell no! OP, these 2 are not done dealing with each other and are incredibly childish and drama-filled. Don't waste your time with this nonsense. Drop the guy. There are other men.

You promise you’re not Valentine girl? Because my heart breaks thinking you’re two separate posters.

I'm telling you the bar is in hell for so may women. Just look at the 2 or 3 who are telling her this is totally acceptable, and she should just laugh about it because this is how guys are.

I hope they are 20-year old, helicoptered but potentially salvageable dunce cappers.

Perhaps I should be barrel bobbing. LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

Oh hell no! OP, these 2 are not done dealing with each other and are incredibly childish and drama-filled. Don't waste your time with this nonsense. Drop the guy. There are other men.

You promise you’re not Valentine girl? Because my heart breaks thinking you’re two separate posters.

Doubt it. It was Valentine’s Day girl she would be on here asking the same questions, a million different was, trying to prove us wrong and show us he cares about her. OP confronted her guy, something vday girl would’ve never done.