Why are some woman okay with being “the other woman”?

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Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc. Hmmmm....

And sometimes
AP: several times a month; actual honest conversations and companionship; friendship; and at times a future together
Wife: also sex possibly; a DH lying to her daily; staying with her only until the kids are out of high school; plans to screw her over when the time is right and it's easier

Not saying one scenario is more likely than the other, but AP relationships and marriages to a cheater come in all shapes and sizes. Somehow on DCUM, people seem to ignore that the cheater may have a substantial connection with the AP, and may be more committed to him/her than to the spouse. And often the AP is also married. They just wish they were married to other people. and are deciding whether to divorce, or frequently simply when to divorce. Am sure there are APs of all sorts. It may just be easier to assume that they are gold-diggers with daddy issues. Sometimes the APs just don't want to lose 50% custody or to go through a divorce til the kids are older. I say this as a happily married woman who has never cheated but know several male and female friens who have and have seen how it's worked out, and there's a pretty wide range.

This can’t be. I’m to understand all betrayed wives in the area work for McKinsey and deep throat their DH’s a dozen times a week, but his childhood made him get a secret credit card, fifty throwaway Gmail addresses and sad degrading sex with a canny SAHM who doesn’t have a GED. Those are the facts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of the benefits and none of the hassle. What's so hard to understand?

But I love the page after page of bitter women trying to project their failed marriages onto women without a care.

I hope you enjoy the arithmetic of the betrayed: I effed DH 12 times a month, the other ho did him 1.5 hours every six weeks, and he bought ME everything I’d bookmarked at Nordstrom during the big sale because we are soulmates and the ho didn’t! It’s hard to carry the one at times.

Don't mix booze and pills. It's Saturday night, do you know where your husband is?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Money. They are not independent. Lifestyle.

Their husbands don’t f@ck them and they want another woman’s lifestyle. Jealousy. They are looking for an upgrade and too lazy and dumb to get a job to get that upgrade on their own.

99% of them don’t work. If they do, it’s a crap @ss menial job. They try to get somewhere with what’s between their legs but too f@cking stupid and unattractive to get a single man so they bang one that lads them on and will never leave for them.
It’s as simple as that.

What did vowels ever do to you? Did they rent hotel rooms, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of the benefits and none of the hassle. What's so hard to understand?

But I love the page after page of bitter women trying to project their failed marriages onto women without a care.

I hope you enjoy the arithmetic of the betrayed: I effed DH 12 times a month, the other ho did him 1.5 hours every six weeks, and he bought ME everything I’d bookmarked at Nordstrom during the big sale because we are soulmates and the ho didn’t! It’s hard to carry the one at times.

Don't mix booze and pills. It's Saturday night, do you know where your husband is?

Right here, best of luck in your future endeavors. Awww.

[Anonymous]

Anyone that cheats in a marriage or with someone that is married is f@cked in the head. There is something wrong inside. ALWAYS. 9 times out of 10 it’s left over from their childhood/upbringing .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc. Hmmmm....

And sometimes
AP: several times a month; actual honest conversations and companionship; friendship; and at times a future together
Wife: also sex possibly; a DH lying to her daily; staying with her only until the kids are out of high school; plans to screw her over when the time is right and it's easier

Not saying one scenario is more likely than the other, but AP relationships and marriages to a cheater come in all shapes and sizes. Somehow on DCUM, people seem to ignore that the cheater may have a substantial connection with the AP, and may be more committed to him/her than to the spouse. And often the AP is also married. They just wish they were married to other people. and are deciding whether to divorce, or frequently simply when to divorce. Am sure there are APs of all sorts. It may just be easier to assume that they are gold-diggers with daddy issues. Sometimes the APs just don't want to lose 50% custody or to go through a divorce til the kids are older. I say this as a happily married woman who has never cheated but know several male and female friens who have and have seen how it's worked out, and there's a pretty wide range.

I’ve seen many women blow up marriages to good men with false hopes and men that used them like toilet paper. They believed every lie they were told.

+1

The man of their dreams is found on Ashley Madison

[Anonymous]

I have no interest in domestic drudgery. The wife can keep the dirty laundry, bratty children, messy house, complete lack of appreciation, and abandoned dreams. I'll enjoy a bit of fun during a business trip and move on. Win win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no interest in domestic drudgery. The wife can keep the dirty laundry, bratty children, messy house, complete lack of appreciation, and abandoned dreams. I'll enjoy a bit of fun during a business trip and move on. Win win.

Bad trolling never works.

[Anonymous]

Who are these people that have multiple friends that all cheat on their spouses?!?!!! Look in the mirror. Why are you friends with trash?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have no interest in domestic drudgery. The wife can keep the dirty laundry, bratty children, messy house, complete lack of appreciation, and abandoned dreams. I'll enjoy a bit of fun during a business trip and move on. Win win.

Bad trolling never works.

Thoughts and prayers for your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that have multiple friends that all cheat on their spouses?!?!!! Look in the mirror. Why are you friends with trash?

They sink to the lowest common denominator. Trash finds trash.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc. Hmmmm....

And sometimes
AP: several times a month; actual honest conversations and companionship; friendship; and at times a future together
Wife: also sex possibly; a DH lying to her daily; staying with her only until the kids are out of high school; plans to screw her over when the time is right and it's easier

Not saying one scenario is more likely than the other, but AP relationships and marriages to a cheater come in all shapes and sizes. Somehow on DCUM, people seem to ignore that the cheater may have a substantial connection with the AP, and may be more committed to him/her than to the spouse. And often the AP is also married. They just wish they were married to other people. and are deciding whether to divorce, or frequently simply when to divorce. Am sure there are APs of all sorts. It may just be easier to assume that they are gold-diggers with daddy issues. Sometimes the APs just don't want to lose 50% custody or to go through a divorce til the kids are older. I say this as a happily married woman who has never cheated but know several male and female friens who have and have seen how it's worked out, and there's a pretty wide range.

I’ve seen many women blow up marriages to good men with false hopes and men that used them like toilet paper. They believed every lie they were told.

+1

The man of their dreams is found on Ashley Madison

PP here. From the people I know it's been in the office (APs have been peer colleagues) or one case they were former neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Money. They are not independent. Lifestyle.

Their husbands don’t f@ck them and they want another woman’s lifestyle. Jealousy. They are looking for an upgrade and too lazy and dumb to get a job to get that upgrade on their own.

99% of them don’t work. If they do, it’s a crap @ss menial job. They try to get somewhere with what’s between their legs but too f@cking stupid and unattractive to get a single man so they bang one that lads them on and will never leave for them.
It’s as simple as that.

Bless your little broken heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have no interest in domestic drudgery. The wife can keep the dirty laundry, bratty children, messy house, complete lack of appreciation, and abandoned dreams. I'll enjoy a bit of fun during a business trip and move on. Win win.

Bad trolling never works.

Except on DCUM. Bad AI seems to work as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no interest in domestic drudgery. The wife can keep the dirty laundry, bratty children, messy house, complete lack of appreciation, and abandoned dreams. I'll enjoy a bit of fun during a business trip and move on. Win win.

Bad trolling never works.

Thoughts and prayers for your marriage.

Your attempted burn is cute, and misplaced. Your canned paragraph just radiates pure troll, not blissfully single young AP or whatever tone you thought you’d hit. You didn’t quite get there.