Why are some woman okay with being “the other woman”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

It's basically this. women can get a much hotter and more accomplished man for an affair than if he was single.

I think this too. DC is abysmal for a single 30 something female. There's tons of lonely, desperate women.

Maybe she gave up on idea of meeting Mr. Right. Maybe she is a workaholic and only meets men at work, innocent at first, then closeness becomes an emotional affair, then crosses the line. Maybe he totally, slowly seduced her. Maybe he is in a sexless marriage or at least convinced her his wife is awful. Who knows.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

With every post you make, you just expose how little he thought of you and, by extension, how little you must think of yourself to stay.

How is Ashley Madison working out? Into your 4th affair? Did you cross paths with Josh D ? Your poor husband.

Do you actually think I'm your DH's OW?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was coming off a bad divorce, he and I had chemistry, he was sexually deprived in his marriage


It was temporary and fun. No one got hurt

So his wife didn’t find out... yet

Right, and she won't. I care about him and I have no desire to hurt her. It's not about her. She won't find out. I think we would be friends in different circumstances.

Your kindness will really mollify the cheated- on wives who salivate over all of these threads. Lol.

[Anonymous]

All of the benefits and none of the hassle. What's so hard to understand?

[Anonymous]

Money. They are not independent. Lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of the benefits and none of the hassle. What's so hard to understand?

But I love the page after page of bitter women trying to project their failed marriages onto women without a care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of the benefits and none of the hassle. What's so hard to understand?

But I love the page after page of bitter women trying to project their failed marriages onto women without a care.

I hope you enjoy the arithmetic of the betrayed: I effed DH 12 times a month, the other ho did him 1.5 hours every six weeks, and he bought ME everything I’d bookmarked at Nordstrom during the big sale because we are soulmates and the ho didn’t! It’s hard to carry the one at times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

It's basically this. women can get a much hotter and more accomplished man for an affair than if he was single.

I think this too. DC is abysmal for a single 30 something female. There's tons of lonely, desperate women.

Maybe she gave up on idea of meeting Mr. Right. Maybe she is a workaholic and only meets men at work, innocent at first, then closeness becomes an emotional affair, then crosses the line. Maybe he totally, slowly seduced her. Maybe he is in a sexless marriage or at least convinced her his wife is awful. Who knows.

Maybe she’s just a whore with significant daddy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

It's basically this. women can get a much hotter and more accomplished man for an affair than if he was single.

I think this too. DC is abysmal for a single 30 something female. There's tons of lonely, desperate women.

Maybe she gave up on idea of meeting Mr. Right. Maybe she is a workaholic and only meets men at work, innocent at first, then closeness becomes an emotional affair, then crosses the line. Maybe he totally, slowly seduced her. Maybe he is in a sexless marriage or at least convinced her his wife is awful. Who knows.

Maybe she’s just a whore with significant daddy issues.

Banging a whore husband who isn’t actively in love enough with DW to keep his dong faithful. Oh dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Money. They are not independent. Lifestyle.

Their husbands don’t f@ck them and they want another woman’s lifestyle. Jealousy. They are looking for an upgrade and too lazy and dumb to get a job to get that upgrade on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

It's basically this. women can get a much hotter and more accomplished man for an affair than if he was single.

I think this too. DC is abysmal for a single 30 something female. There's tons of lonely, desperate women.

Maybe she gave up on idea of meeting Mr. Right. Maybe she is a workaholic and only meets men at work, innocent at first, then closeness becomes an emotional affair, then crosses the line. Maybe he totally, slowly seduced her. Maybe he is in a sexless marriage or at least convinced her his wife is awful. Who knows.

Maybe she’s just a whore with significant daddy issues.

Banging a whore husband who isn’t actively in love enough with DW to keep his dong faithful. Oh dear.

With men it’s just sex. It has nothing to do with love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc. Hmmmm....

And sometimes
AP: several times a month; actual honest conversations and companionship; friendship; and at times a future together
Wife: also sex possibly; a DH lying to her daily; staying with her only until the kids are out of high school; plans to screw her over when the time is right and it's easier

Not saying one scenario is more likely than the other, but AP relationships and marriages to a cheater come in all shapes and sizes. Somehow on DCUM, people seem to ignore that the cheater may have a substantial connection with the AP, and may be more committed to him/her than to the spouse. And often the AP is also married. They just wish they were married to other people. and are deciding whether to divorce, or frequently simply when to divorce. Am sure there are APs of all sorts. It may just be easier to assume that they are gold-diggers with daddy issues. Sometimes the APs just don't want to lose 50% custody or to go through a divorce til the kids are older. I say this as a happily married woman who has never cheated but know several male and female friens who have and have seen how it's worked out, and there's a pretty wide range.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

It's basically this. women can get a much hotter and more accomplished man for an affair than if he was single.

I think this too. DC is abysmal for a single 30 something female. There's tons of lonely, desperate women.

Maybe she gave up on idea of meeting Mr. Right. Maybe she is a workaholic and only meets men at work, innocent at first, then closeness becomes an emotional affair, then crosses the line. Maybe he totally, slowly seduced her. Maybe he is in a sexless marriage or at least convinced her his wife is awful. Who knows.

Maybe she’s just a whore with significant daddy issues.

Banging a whore husband who isn’t actively in love enough with DW to keep his dong faithful. Oh dear.

With men it’s just sex. It has nothing to do with love.

Mmm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Money. They are not independent. Lifestyle.

Their husbands don’t f@ck them and they want another woman’s lifestyle. Jealousy. They are looking for an upgrade and too lazy and dumb to get a job to get that upgrade on their own.

99% of them don’t work. If they do, it’s a crap @ss menial job. They try to get somewhere with what’s between their legs but too f@cking stupid and unattractive to get a single man so they bang one that lads them on and will never leave for them.
It’s as simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc. Hmmmm....

And sometimes
AP: several times a month; actual honest conversations and companionship; friendship; and at times a future together
Wife: also sex possibly; a DH lying to her daily; staying with her only until the kids are out of high school; plans to screw her over when the time is right and it's easier

Not saying one scenario is more likely than the other, but AP relationships and marriages to a cheater come in all shapes and sizes. Somehow on DCUM, people seem to ignore that the cheater may have a substantial connection with the AP, and may be more committed to him/her than to the spouse. And often the AP is also married. They just wish they were married to other people. and are deciding whether to divorce, or frequently simply when to divorce. Am sure there are APs of all sorts. It may just be easier to assume that they are gold-diggers with daddy issues. Sometimes the APs just don't want to lose 50% custody or to go through a divorce til the kids are older. I say this as a happily married woman who has never cheated but know several male and female friens who have and have seen how it's worked out, and there's a pretty wide range.

I’ve seen many women blow up marriages to good men with false hopes and men that used them like toilet paper. They believed every lie they were told.