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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.[/quote]

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife :lol: [/quote]

True. It's not even the scraps![/quote]

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.[/quote]

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc.  Hmmmm....[/quote]

And sometimes
AP: several times a month; actual honest conversations and companionship; friendship; and at times a future together
Wife: also sex possibly; a DH lying to her daily; staying with her only until the kids are out of high school; plans to screw her over when the time is right and it's easier

Not saying one scenario is more likely than the other, but AP relationships and marriages to a cheater come in all shapes and sizes.  Somehow on DCUM, people seem to ignore that the cheater may have a substantial connection with the AP, and may be more committed to him/her than to the spouse.  And often the AP is also married.  They just wish they were married to other people. and are deciding whether to divorce, or frequently simply when to divorce.  Am sure there are APs of all sorts.  It may just be easier to assume that they are gold-diggers with daddy issues.  Sometimes the APs just don't want to lose 50% custody or to go through a divorce til the kids are older.  I say this as a happily married woman who has never cheated but know several male and female friens who have and have seen how it's worked out, and there's a pretty wide range.  [/quote]

I’ve seen many women blow up marriages to good men with false hopes and men that used them like toilet paper.  They believed every lie they were told.[/quote]
+1

The man of their dreams is found on Ashley Madison  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :lol: [/quote]

PP here.  From the people I know it's been in the office (APs have been peer colleagues) or one case they were former neighbors.[/quote]

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