Does he want his ex back? I’m flying out to spend Valentine’s Day with him tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to be with a man who flat out refuses couples counseling at the request of a partner he claimed to love, then stalked her after breakup?

Really being single would be loads better than being with someone who is a walking red flag.

[Anonymous]

Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

She posted an update saying she’s 22, clearly she doesn’t know who respects her and who doesn’t and needs help in that department. She can then decide who and how to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you been in serious relationships before?

No. Honestly, I’m actually 22. I just said I was 27 because I thought I’d be too young to use this forum. The guy in question is 30 though.

So you ARE a troll. What else are you lying about?

I’m not a troll

I already explained why I said I was 27. Coming on a forum called “dcurbanMOM” I’m not a mom, I just turned 22, and I’m not older I just thought saying I was 27 would make more sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

This.

Her being 22 makes A LOT more sense than her being 27. It explains why she’s naive and clueless about a glaringly obvious situation. Actually relieved OP is 22.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

She posted an update saying she’s 22, clearly she doesn’t know who respects her and who doesn’t and needs help in that department. She can then decide who and how to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

She posted an update saying she’s 22, clearly she doesn’t know who respects her and who doesn’t and needs help in that department. She can then decide who and how to date.

This.

Her being 22 makes A LOT more sense than her being 27. It explains why she’s naive and clueless about a glaringly obvious situation. Actually relieved OP is 22.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP, I did stuff like this when I was 22. I had to live and learn. But save this post and refer to it - hopefully you are taking some of the advice to heart.

If you’re always flying to him, that’s no good. You should be making equal effort to see each other. After you fly to see him (and when you’ve literally just arrived, FFS) he should not be spending the limited time you have together checking out his ex-GF’s Instagram page. And so on).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

She posted an update saying she’s 22, clearly she doesn’t know who respects her and who doesn’t and needs help in that department. She can then decide who and how to date.

.
I stand corrected about the age. Those books won't teach her about respect, those books are nothing but gendered sterotypes about relationships full of toxic ideas about men and women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you been in serious relationships before?

No. Honestly, I’m actually 22. I just said I was 27 because I thought I’d be too young to use this forum. The guy in question is 30 though.

So you ARE a troll. What else are you lying about?

I’m not a troll

I already explained why I said I was 27. Coming on a forum called “dcurbanMOM” I’m not a mom, I just turned 22, and I’m not older I just thought saying I was 27 would make more sense.

It doesn't make more sense. You are a liar. And likely a trool. Your thread isn't interesting. Good day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you been in serious relationships before?

No. Honestly, I’m actually 22. I just said I was 27 because I thought I’d be too young to use this forum. The guy in question is 30 though.

So you ARE a troll. What else are you lying about?

I’m not a troll

I already explained why I said I was 27. Coming on a forum called “dcurbanMOM” I’m not a mom, I just turned 22, and I’m not older I just thought saying I was 27 would make more sense.

It doesn't make more sense. You are a liar. And likely a trool. Your thread isn't interesting. Good day.

Your explanation for why you lied about your age is a justification. It doesn’t change the reality that you misrepresented yourself...
Also, a lot of people at 22 are moms. They aren’t less of a mother because of their age... The real issue with the misrepresentation isn’t what strangers think about your age, it is that you are COVERING something up. You are misrepresenting yourself. This is a big no no in all relationships, including with strangers... I think most people here read your query in earnest, and responded to you in earnest. You deceived them.

Go live you life. Happy Valentine’s Day.
When things fall through come back and you think it came out of the blue, and that there weren’t any warning signs, come back and read all these responses to help you uncover where the red flags were.

And then remember, the most important person in this equation and the only person you have control over is yourself. Therefore, it isn’t about figuring him out, it’s about figuring yourself out.

The biggest red clad in toxic relationships is not the other persons red flag, it’s the red flag of pursuing someone who shows red flags. That is YOU. That is where your lesson learned is.

Some people grow up having already learned this, others after 1 bad relationship, others after multiple, and still some never ever learn it.

You have a choice between the last 3 or those 4 options.

God bless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

She posted an update saying she’s 22, clearly she doesn’t know who respects her and who doesn’t and needs help in that department. She can then decide who and how to date.

.
I stand corrected about the age. Those books won't teach her about respect, those books are nothing but gendered sterotypes about relationships full of toxic ideas about men and women

The first two books on the list were excellent for me in my mid 20s. I needed the information. So does OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have so much to learn! Go on Reddit and search FDS, then take from it what resonates with you and leave the rest.

Also, here are dome good books for you yo read:

He’s Not That Into You
Why Men Love Bitches
Why Men Marry Bitches
Not your Mother’s Rules

Also, he’s too old and experienced for you, date people in your age ranger, perhaps 5 years older max.

Did you offer to go visit him? Next time, let the guy invite you and pay for the trip.

He's 30. She's 27, hardly too old for her. Read the friggin thread before commenting!

Read none of this crap.
Just date people whom repect you and are totaly into and whom you feel the dame. None of this guesswork.

She posted an update saying she’s 22, clearly she doesn’t know who respects her and who doesn’t and needs help in that department. She can then decide who and how to date.

.
I stand corrected about the age. Those books won't teach her about respect, those books are nothing but gendered sterotypes about relationships full of toxic ideas about men and women

The first two books on the list were excellent for me in my mid 20s. I needed the information. So does OP.

OP needs to see a therapist and spend time more with her cousin, not spend her money on toxic drivel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you been in serious relationships before?

No. Honestly, I’m actually 22. I just said I was 27 because I thought I’d be too young to use this forum. The guy in question is 30 though.

So you ARE a troll. What else are you lying about?

I’m not a troll

I already explained why I said I was 27. Coming on a forum called “dcurbanMOM” I’m not a mom, I just turned 22, and I’m not older I just thought saying I was 27 would make more sense.

It doesn't make more sense. You are a liar. And likely a trool. Your thread isn't interesting. Good day.

Oh come off it. This is how 22 year olds think. Get off your high horse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you been in serious relationships before?

No. Honestly, I’m actually 22. I just said I was 27 because I thought I’d be too young to use this forum. The guy in question is 30 though.

So you ARE a troll. What else are you lying about?

I’m not a troll

I already explained why I said I was 27. Coming on a forum called “dcurbanMOM” I’m not a mom, I just turned 22, and I’m not older I just thought saying I was 27 would make more sense.

Lying about basic facts to a post IS trolling.