Sex therapy?

[Anonymous]

So your ex lost custody?

I'm so sorry to hear that. That is a truly exceptional situation and not relevant here. I hope you are getting the help you need.

NP, and this poster is dead wrong. My kids were in their late teens when divorced and both came to live with me. They saw their mother often (as they could drive to see her) we did well with the split.

The sexism of the PP is sickening. Her idea that divorced dads need help shows how off balance she is.

And, sadly, it is only the dads who are calling her on it. If this had been a man bashing a woman, this thread would have lit up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is complaining about our sex life and wants us to see a therapist that specializes in sex therapy. He wants more, I’m content with it about once a month. We have three young kids. Anyone try this? Helpful or not? I don’t want to go to something where there is yet another person in addition to DH badgering me for more sex.

Are you, DW, getting enough time to yourself?

Three young kids is a LOT of work. Are you working, too?

This isn't a woman thing- it's a busy thing.

Most men do not understand how much work it is to be a parent 24/7 because they never have to do it. And divorced dad's don't have to do it unless the former wife loses custody rights.

You both need to agree on having enough sex. If he's going to cheat, it's not because of frequency, it's because he's a cheater. If he's not a cheater, he will work on this with you. You probably need time to yourself, like what he gets.

I take a solo trip every few years and make DH do the parenting/working thing alone for a week. It does wonders for our sexual relationship, and my kids are older.

Cheaters are always looking to justify their behavior. If DH is asking for therapy, then you do owe it to work on this with him. Don't stonewall him. If he thinks it's a problem, it's a problem.

You will feel happier if you fix this problem, too.

OP, this is such good advice. Your husband has a good suggestion. Just make sure you find a therapist you’re comfortable with as well so that it allays your concerns.