I'm afraid I've seriously damaged my children's lives - need perspective

[Anonymous]

So OP, what change are you going to make tomorrow? Message your kids? Contact your ex?

Because it seems all you want to do is go "woe is me" and make excuses. DO something

[Anonymous]

I’m terrified of my wife.

I’m afraid of confrontation.

I’m afraid I’m going to break down and/or snap if we have it out.

I have no friends to speak of (“internet” friends but no one close, certainly not local - “list” them in the divorce and only family are my elderly parents in FL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m terrified of my wife.

I’m afraid of confrontation.

I’m afraid I’m going to break down and/or snap if we have it out.

I have no friends to speak of (“internet” friends but no one close, certainly not local - “list” them in the divorce and only family are my elderly parents in FL.

Again you can call the nami # or chat online. This is why I think you could be a troll and why you keep posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m terrified of my wife.

I’m afraid of confrontation.

I’m afraid I’m going to break down and/or snap if we have it out.

I have no friends to speak of (“internet” friends but no one close, certainly not local - “list” them in the divorce and only family are my elderly parents in FL.

What are you afraid that she'll do?

[Anonymous]

Please no one post anything else until OP states at least 2 things he is going to do by Monday to change his situation.

[Anonymous]

You are married to a monster. Don’t have any kids with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Example: kid 2 dropped off a note in my mailbox. That resulted in a 30 minute fight about her daring to break federal law, invade our privacy by seeing our mail, and violating a request that she not come by the house. So I duly sent a message thanking her for the note but reminding her to please not come by unannounced.

Then a few weeks later kids dropped off flowers and a note for my birthday and wife wigged out, against for "violating" our privacy, refusing to honor the request not to come by unannounced, etc. Meanwhile I broke down in tears at the idea that they brought me flowers after everything that happened.

Sorry, but you need a spine and a second divorce

[Anonymous]

You say you are afraid.

OP, the worst has already happened. You have already hurt your kids and essentially lost them. The only thing worse would be if they were dead, and they are not, so you still have a chance.

It can only get better if you focus on the only important thing: your children.

Your current wife doesn’t love, honor, or respect you. Taking care of your health (or pretending to) is just her way of controlling you. She doesn’t love you. She loves having power over you.

Let everything else go. You are not redspinishke for her or her freeloading children. They are not yours and they are adults.

Your children are the ONLY thing that matters. You feel like shit hecause yoyvhave allowed this to happen. Stop. Stop playing victim. Make better choices. Leave today. Leave. And apologizegieevrr and start rebuilding a relationship with your daughters. Stop co timing to hurt them. Do better.

[Anonymous]

OP shit or get off the pot. You know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Had a dream about my youngest last night. Had an overwhelming urge to call the kids and just say "I love you" or even leave a voice mail if they didn't answer.

Ran it by the wife and she totally flipped out, said I sounded crazy, the kids would think I was crazy in light of everything that has happened with me telling them to stay away, I was endangering our marriage, I need to leave it in God's hand, etc.

I'm losing my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had a dream about my youngest last night. Had an overwhelming urge to call the kids and just say "I love you" or even leave a voice mail if they didn't answer.

Ran it by the wife and she totally flipped out, said I sounded crazy, the kids would think I was crazy in light of everything that has happened with me telling them to stay away, I was endangering our marriage, I need to leave it in God's hand, etc.

I'm losing my mind.

So, no phone call to NAMI or any other resources. And it's Tuesday now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had a dream about my youngest last night. Had an overwhelming urge to call the kids and just say "I love you" or even leave a voice mail if they didn't answer.

Ran it by the wife and she totally flipped out, said I sounded crazy, the kids would think I was crazy in light of everything that has happened with me telling them to stay away, I was endangering our marriage, I need to leave it in God's hand, etc.

I'm losing my mind.

So, no phone call to NAMI or any other resources. And it's Tuesday now.

Of course not. oP doesn't actually want help or to change anything. He just wants attention, self loathing, loathing, etc. Otherwise he wouldn't have run it by his wife, he would have just called. This thread needs to be locked. All it does is serve as an unhealthy way for OP to seek attention. I hope he doesn't get involved in his kids lives. They are better off without having to deal with his level of toxicity.

[Anonymous]

WAKE UP!!! These are your CHILDREN!! YOUR WIFE IS A GROWN WOMAN. If you continue to CHOOSE your wife over your kids you are abandoning them. The only thing there is for you to do is ask forgiveness of your kids, listen to their grievances about your abandonment, don’t beat yourself up too much. When you knew better you did better. Now do better. Your wife’s position is because it is in HER best interest. She does not love your kids. Period. She does not have your best interest at heart, she has her own. Go further and make this right. Your children can heal. If it costs you your marriage than your marriage wasn’t worth anything to begin with. you can do This. Please do it.

[Anonymous]

A woman who will not allow you to talk to or see your children
is NOT A CHRISTIAN.

You do not owe this woman anything.

Please reach out to your children.

[Anonymous]

Stop running things by your wife. My husband and I talk about everything - are we watching Tiger King together or alone, should we invest more in this stock, can we buy new furniture for the patio. But I sure don’t run by calling my sister with him and if he said “hey I want to call my brother and say I miss him” I would say shhhh Tiger king is on. So don’t run things by her. Call your kids. Apologize. Say you miss them and messed up and were dumb and want to do better. Leave her out of it. With them and with decisions.