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[quote=Anonymous][quote]    You sound like an ass, OP. It should be 50/50 when you’re home, so yes, you need to chip in around the house. Caring for a child is more than a full time job, research backs this up.

Why should it be 50/50? He has his job and she has hers. there are plenty of women that would love to be able to just be in charge of the house.[/quote]

Not 50 % of all the chores, but half of the chores that are left over after she has done what she can during the working day..... the point is that her day job is that, a job. If she is working hard during the day, caring for the child, running errands, organizing the house and keeping things tidy, that's her job.  But as for weekends and nights, if she she is also doing 100% of the cooking, cleaning, child care, errands and house hold stuff while he relaxes, then that is working overtime.  I have mostly worked during our marriage, but during maternity leaves, I did whatever I could during the day and most of the night feedings, but there was no way in hell I was also going to be waiting hand and foot on my spouse every evening and weekend so that he didn't lift a finger. The way we saw it, during the day we were both working at our jobs. In the evenigs/weekends we shared parenting and household duties to the extent we could.

more broadly, the way to think about a SAHP is not as a 'luxury' for that parent not to work or only that one parent earns money and the other doesnt. The economic contribution of a SAHP is  I whatever you would pay a nanny or daycare and housecleaner for the hours and tasks that parent covers. The idea that a SAHP doesn't contribute economically to the household is wrong. There's also an intangible, which is that the SAHP, by taking on so much of the child care, doctors appts, etc, allows the WOHP to take on more in her or his career, allowing that person to advance even further than if they had to share doctors appts, sick days, household emergencies with the other spouse. 
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