Married Women: How do you feel when men flirt with you?

[Anonymous]

It angers me. If someone hit on me knowing I was married, that would be the last conversation we had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a women who is good looking with a nice body still (I'm not bragging, it is what it is...lucked out) I enjoy when certain men flirt with me. They know I'm married. I wear my engagement and wedding band everyday. I've had this chat with my friends and the honest truth is it all 100% depends on man. And yes it is 100% unfair.

If the flirting is coming from an attractive or nice man most women don't mind at all. But, if it's coming from someone you don't care for or isn't attractive it's "harassment" or "unwanted". Yes, it's unfair but that's life. Any woman who's honest will agree. You don't mind the small flirt or touch on the shoulder from an attractive nice man. But, if it's from someone you don't care for you file it under "harassment".

PERFECT EXAMPLE
I have a friend whom I've known for eight years. We are both married and met after we were married. In honestly if I could turn back time I would LOVE OH MY LOVE to have dated this man before I met my husband. He's kind, sweet, mature, hard working, very funny and attractive. He's my "if I wasn't married now crush". I know he feels the same by the way he speaks whenever we talk.

One day I asked him for a huge favor. We were at a member's club chatting (meaning not many people around) at the bar and a few times he placed his hand on my knees. I was wearing a skirt. I did not flinch. Of course, we both knew it was just flirting. But, reality is I've had other members in the club try to give me hugs or whatever and if they did that..hell no. Some may read this and think it's wrong for me to let someone touch my knee, but really it's a knee not my tits or ass. Bottom line is it depends on the man and what type of flirting it is. My friend has never mentioned my body in specifics, only saying how nice I look, etc. He knows the line as I do.

I see some of my friends who get chatted up by men. Sure it's flirting to a degree but it's harmless. As someone posted above "we're not dead".

I applaud your honesty!
This just goes to show, however, that guys can't necessarily know if they are being creepy or not. This is especially true if their looks or personality fall into the grey zone where some women would find them attractive and would not mind their flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the office? HELL NO.

Politely/not creepily at a show or something when I'm not out with my spouse (so there's no reason you'd know I'm married until I tell you)? Somewhat flattering.

My usual response is a very sincere and honest, "I'm very flattered, and very married."

Flirting does not equal hitting on. If you responded to workplace flirting with that quote, you'd be completely socially tone deaf and really forking weird. Do you know what flirting is?

[Anonymous]

Great! I love flirting!

[Anonymous]

I like it, reminds of my time in France. Flirting is just a pastime, to perk up your day. Doesn't always mean anything more than that.

[Anonymous]

Makes me tingle down there. Love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the office? HELL NO.

Politely/not creepily at a show or something when I'm not out with my spouse (so there's no reason you'd know I'm married until I tell you)? Somewhat flattering.

My usual response is a very sincere and honest, "I'm very flattered, and very married."

Flirting does not equal hitting on. If you responded to workplace flirting with that quote, you'd be completely socially tone deaf and really forking weird. Do you know what flirting is?

Apparently I just work with professionals who know how to act professionally...

[Anonymous]

I find it puzzling, and sometimes men don't know when to stop.

[Anonymous]

At work - hate it. This is a professional environment and I want to be treated like a professional. You can be kind and friendly without being flirty.

Out in public/non-work - usually benign, sometimes a little annoying/patronizing but nothing too serious. That’s if it’s strangers. I was at a kid birthday party at a friends house once, and her husband and I got to talking and he was definitely tipsy and getting a little weird. I was strongly embarrassed for both of them. If my husband acted like that to another woman after a few beers, I’d be so mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Makes me tingle down there. Love it.

Do you dream about him working you over later?

[Anonymous]

NP. I love light flirting from attractive men.

If they are not that attractive, I just mentally shrug and get a small ego boost )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they're clueless, considering the clear "not interested" vibes I am putting out.

If the guy is genuinely good-looking or charming, I still find them clueless, but I am also slightly flattered.

Perhaps you are one of the many, many, many clueless women that think men are hitting on them by being nice.

I'm the opposite. I think they are just being nice and then they ask me out. The worst I heard was telling one of them that I'm married and the response I got was "so what? So am I." I wonder sometimes why I attract such freaks. It's mostly at work, so it's not like I'm dressed provocatively or anything and I have pictures of my kids all over my office. I also suck at flirting so I know it's not my behavior.

[Anonymous]

1. Is it flattering? - NO
2. Do you dislike it? - YES
3. Does it depend on the man? - NOT REALLY
4. Do you like it? - NO

I'm married, not available, and not interested in other men. It makes me so uncomfortable when men cross that line with me and then I avoid them in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a women who is good looking with a nice body still (I'm not bragging, it is what it is...lucked out) I enjoy when certain men flirt with me. They know I'm married. I wear my engagement and wedding band everyday. I've had this chat with my friends and the honest truth is it all 100% depends on man. And yes it is 100% unfair.

If the flirting is coming from an attractive or nice man most women don't mind at all. But, if it's coming from someone you don't care for or isn't attractive it's "harassment" or "unwanted". Yes, it's unfair but that's life. Any woman who's honest will agree. You don't mind the small flirt or touch on the shoulder from an attractive nice man. But, if it's from someone you don't care for you file it under "harassment".

PERFECT EXAMPLE
I have a friend whom I've known for eight years. We are both married and met after we were married. In honestly if I could turn back time I would LOVE OH MY LOVE to have dated this man before I met my husband. He's kind, sweet, mature, hard working, very funny and attractive. He's my "if I wasn't married now crush". I know he feels the same by the way he speaks whenever we talk.

One day I asked him for a huge favor. We were at a member's club chatting (meaning not many people around) at the bar and a few times he placed his hand on my knees. I was wearing a skirt. I did not flinch. Of course, we both knew it was just flirting. But, reality is I've had other members in the club try to give me hugs or whatever and if they did that..hell no. Some may read this and think it's wrong for me to let someone touch my knee, but really it's a knee not my tits or ass. Bottom line is it depends on the man and what type of flirting it is. My friend has never mentioned my body in specifics, only saying how nice I look, etc. He knows the line as I do.

I see some of my friends who get chatted up by men. Sure it's flirting to a degree but it's harmless. As someone posted above "we're not dead".

If your husband was standing there, would he be ok with his hand on your knee?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the office? HELL NO.

Politely/not creepily at a show or something when I'm not out with my spouse (so there's no reason you'd know I'm married until I tell you)? Somewhat flattering.

My usual response is a very sincere and honest, "I'm very flattered, and very married."

Flirting does not equal hitting on. If you responded to workplace flirting with that quote, you'd be completely socially tone deaf and really forking weird. Do you know what flirting is?

Flirting is step one of gauging interest.