Married Women: How do you feel when men flirt with you?

[Anonymous]

Office? No. Unless he’s extraordinary, then I’m flattered but it’s still a no. Outside the office? I’m mildly flattered, I guess, but a lot depends on the circumstances and who the guy is.

[Anonymous]

Same as I did when I was single and a man I wasn't interested in flirted with me. It's mildly flattering, but only to the extent he knows how to flirt without crossing a line and how to accept a deflection with grace.

If it's persistent, or vulgar, or he gets churlish when it's clear nothing is going to happen, then it sucks.

[Anonymous]

Flirting is an art form. As a man, I'm a huge flirt and it's never gotten me in trouble because I know how to do it without offending or coming off as a creep. And I can gauge who is open to it and who I should never flirt with. I've worked with women where I could flirt with nearly all of them but the guy next to me gets reported to HR for being inappropriate if he tries it even once. Because they see him as a creep.

One of the big differences is in the meaning perceived by the person you are flirting with. If she sees it as harmless flirting and compliments only from a man who respects his own relationship and hers then it will be better received. If it's a guy who never even mentions his own relationship, or acknowledges hers while trying to come off as some kind of player looking for her to help him escalate the flirting, that is prone to fail. Too many guys are just too clueless or clumsy to properly flirt.

[Anonymous]

Sexual harassment

[Anonymous]

I’m in my 50’s and have been married for 20+ years. I liked it when I was younger and got hit on plenty of times. I also am Hispanic and we are much more flirty than Americans. I realized around 48 that Im not getting flirted with anymore, I kinda miss it. Now that I don’t get that attention I’m not as confident with my outward appearance, but it was bound to happen.

[Anonymous]

Men don’t flirt with me because I work with almost all women and the men I speak to regularly are all married to my friends.

If a good looking, non-creepy, not-married-to-a-friend man flirted with me I’d probably be thrilled! It would mean I’ve still got it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with harmless flirting and wouldn’t care if DH engaged either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy (happily married Dad) posting. I may be confused. If I tell a woman I like her earrings, is that flirting? Does it matter if she is working the Checkout at my local bagel place, versus she is a parent of one of my kids’ classmates, versus someone who works in my building? I always thought I was just being friendly, but maybe you’re telling me I’m flirting without realizing it (or at least you think I’m flirting). If I tell you I like your earrings, it’s because I like them, not because I want to make out with you.

If you would compliment a man's jewelry then maybe you're just being nice. If you wouldn't, then you're absolutely flirting by mentioning earrings because there is a gendered, sexual component to your flattery.

If a man would compliment another man’s jewelry then he is just being gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disrespectful in a professional environment.

If you want to flirt with women - single or married - please respect and protect our professional status and achievements while at work, (i.e., do not do anything that might raise eyebrows or call our professionalism into question,); and instead flirt with women outside of work at a gym, coffee shop, dog park, market, store, bar, or restaurant.

It depends on the size and curves of your, ahem, “achievements.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy (happily married Dad) posting. I may be confused. If I tell a woman I like her earrings, is that flirting? Does it matter if she is working the Checkout at my local bagel place, versus she is a parent of one of my kids’ classmates, versus someone who works in my building? I always thought I was just being friendly, but maybe you’re telling me I’m flirting without realizing it (or at least you think I’m flirting). If I tell you I like your earrings, it’s because I like them, not because I want to make out with you.

If you would compliment a man's jewelry then maybe you're just being nice. If you wouldn't, then you're absolutely flirting by mentioning earrings because there is a gendered, sexual component to your flattery.

If a man would compliment another man’s jewelry then he is just being gay.

Oh BS. Ever tell a man, hey that's a nice watch?

[Anonymous]

Don’t enjoy it, super awkward 99% of the time in all places work and social.

[Anonymous]

It feels great !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In all honesty, the ol' flounder-scented matted skunk gets as soggy as a left-behind beach towel at high tide. Yowza!

+1,000

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for his wife, and that he is an ass.

[Anonymous]

Never happens

[Anonymous]

I’m fine with it but it’s a thin line between flirty and harassment. In this era it’s best for men to simply avoid it.