Mothers of boys only (aka daughterless moms)- what's it like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is my first and most likely only pregnancy as I'm AMA and I'm wondering how you get past the disappointment of knowing you'll never have a daughter? I'm so excited to be having a baby at my age at all, so this feeling has surprised me. So before DCUM jumps on me about being ungrateful, believe me I'm so grateful to be here at my age. But yet I still have this nagging feeling. My mom is deceased, so maybe that has something to do with the fact of just missing that mother-daughter connection. I have two brothers and I'm the only girl, and throughout my parents' health problems, both my brothers have been worthless and unreliable. They generally do their own thing and are self-serving, which is the opposite of me, I took care of my mom before she passed and am doing the same for my Dad now. I just can't help feeling that I would have had a lifelong friend in a daughter, and someone to look out for me, whereas with a boy, I feel like you can't baby them as much, we won't share the same interests (shopping, spa, etc) and that when they leave the house at 18, they'll be gone (at least that's how my brothers were). I imagined shopping with a girl, baking, etc, just having a pal. I can't imagine life with a little boy and it makes me sad to think they'll grow up and that closeness will be gone. I know part of this must be anxiety, but can anyone offer insight into this? Thanks-

How is it? LOUD! But boys are fun and a lot less drama than girls. I feel like I've learned so much about boys / men - they're so much simpler than we women. I wish I had known that back in middle school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is my first and most likely only pregnancy as I'm AMA and I'm wondering how you get past the disappointment of knowing you'll never have a daughter? I'm so excited to be having a baby at my age at all, so this feeling has surprised me. So before DCUM jumps on me about being ungrateful, believe me I'm so grateful to be here at my age. But yet I still have this nagging feeling. My mom is deceased, so maybe that has something to do with the fact of just missing that mother-daughter connection. I have two brothers and I'm the only girl, and throughout my parents' health problems, both my brothers have been worthless and unreliable. They generally do their own thing and are self-serving, which is the opposite of me, I took care of my mom before she passed and am doing the same for my Dad now. I just can't help feeling that I would have had a lifelong friend in a daughter, and someone to look out for me, whereas with a boy, I feel like you can't baby them as much, we won't share the same interests (shopping, spa, etc) and that when they leave the house at 18, they'll be gone (at least that's how my brothers were). I imagined shopping with a girl, baking, etc, just having a pal. I can't imagine life with a little boy and it makes me sad to think they'll grow up and that closeness will be gone. I know part of this must be anxiety, but can anyone offer insight into this? Thanks-

How is it? LOUD! But boys are fun and a lot less drama than girls. I feel like I've learned so much about boys / men - they're so much simpler than we women. I wish I had known that back in middle school!

Yup, when all grown up it's work, sports, sex, and beer (or another alcoholic beverage). Not necessarily in that order. There really isn't anything more complicated. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is my first and most likely only pregnancy as I'm AMA and I'm wondering how you get past the disappointment of knowing you'll never have a daughter? I'm so excited to be having a baby at my age at all, so this feeling has surprised me. So before DCUM jumps on me about being ungrateful, believe me I'm so grateful to be here at my age. But yet I still have this nagging feeling. My mom is deceased, so maybe that has something to do with the fact of just missing that mother-daughter connection. I have two brothers and I'm the only girl, and throughout my parents' health problems, both my brothers have been worthless and unreliable. They generally do their own thing and are self-serving, which is the opposite of me, I took care of my mom before she passed and am doing the same for my Dad now. I just can't help feeling that I would have had a lifelong friend in a daughter, and someone to look out for me, whereas with a boy, I feel like you can't baby them as much, we won't share the same interests (shopping, spa, etc) and that when they leave the house at 18, they'll be gone (at least that's how my brothers were). I imagined shopping with a girl, baking, etc, just having a pal. I can't imagine life with a little boy and it makes me sad to think they'll grow up and that closeness will be gone. I know part of this must be anxiety, but can anyone offer insight into this? Thanks-

How is it? LOUD! But boys are fun and a lot less drama than girls. I feel like I've learned so much about boys / men - they're so much simpler than we women. I wish I had known that back in middle school!

This is a big reason I'm excited about having a boy this time! When I found out the sex, I was initially a little sad that my daughter will never have a sister (we're done after Baby is born), but I got over that within a couple of days. I only have a (much younger) sister and never even had a good friendship with a boy until late in high school. I was completely clueless about boys, much to my detriment. My daughter won't be, which makes me really happy.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is so NEGATIVE about girls on this thread (so dramatic, mean girls, pink and purple, prom dresses, tea parties OH MY!) - and I'd wager 90% of the posters on this thread are women! So, so sad!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so NEGATIVE about girls on this thread (so dramatic, mean girls, pink and purple, prom dresses, tea parties OH MY!) - and I'd wager 90% of the posters on this thread are women! So, so sad!

Oh please. Moms of only boys get so much unnecessary pity. It's nice to see a refreshing thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so NEGATIVE about girls on this thread (so dramatic, mean girls, pink and purple, prom dresses, tea parties OH MY!) - and I'd wager 90% of the posters on this thread are women! So, so sad!

Oh please. Moms of only boys get so much unnecessary pity. It's nice to see a refreshing thread!

Why does celebrating having sons have to come with disparaging girls (little girls)? I wouldn't call that refreshing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so NEGATIVE about girls on this thread (so dramatic, mean girls, pink and purple, prom dresses, tea parties OH MY!) - and I'd wager 90% of the posters on this thread are women! So, so sad!

Oh please. Moms of only boys get so much unnecessary pity. It's nice to see a refreshing thread!

Why does celebrating having sons have to come with disparaging girls (little girls)? I wouldn't call that refreshing.

Go start your own thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so NEGATIVE about girls on this thread (so dramatic, mean girls, pink and purple, prom dresses, tea parties OH MY!) - and I'd wager 90% of the posters on this thread are women! So, so sad!

Oh please. Moms of only boys get so much unnecessary pity. It's nice to see a refreshing thread!

Why does celebrating having sons have to come with disparaging girls (little girls)? I wouldn't call that refreshing.

Go start your own thread.

On what? Internalized misogyny? All I'm saying is that it's possible to celebrate having sons WITHOUT talking trash about the nature of girls.

[Anonymous]

I have GGB. I am very close to my mom & only sister. I really wanted girls. After 2 girls, I really wanted a 3rd girl but had a son. It took me some time to adjust after he was born, but now I am crazy in love with him (he's 4). I'm wild about all my kids but my connection with him is different.