unfair to hold a grudge?

[jmiag04]

I'm the OP, been busy at work for a while. Not looking to reengage on this, but I didn't want to let 15:04's advice go without acknowledgement. I hear what you are saying and on some level it makes sense. To be honest, to do what you recommend might simply take a bigger man than I am right now, but it is worth thinking about and considering. Perhaps on the night of a full moon, after a few glasses of particularly fine wine, when I am in an especially good mood and if my wife and I have been getting along really well, I'd be able to pull it off. I know that is not your point, it's just that all the stars may have to line up for me to be able to give it a shot. But, I would be concerned that if she merely accepted my apology and then moved on, I would explode...

Regardless of whether I take your advice, I appreciate the thought and sentiment that clearly went into it.

[Anonymous]

Another thought: have you taken in your wife to be evaluated by a therapist? Maybe she has been clinically depressed over the years -- unbeknownst to you -- and that has accounted for her lack of desire??