Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

You are coming off like a dense fool.

She got knocked up at 18 by a 40-year old man with kids her own age. Clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed.

And now, predictably, he wants to spend his limited vacation time with his first wife and adult children. She is not invited, he doesn’t want another vacation with her and their child, and she can’t vacation with the kid alone. If only someone could have warned her in that nightclub when she was in high school not to take the drinks from the 40 year old divorced dad.

But at least he could buy her cocktails and beer at da club. Since she couldn’t.

[Anonymous]

I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Depends on the family background. There was a girl in my class whose single mother had a constant stream of much older men traipsing through the house and paying for her. The apple ended up close to the tree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Depends on the family background. There was a girl in my class whose single mother had a constant stream of much older men traipsing through the house and paying for her. The apple ended up close to the tree.

Many young women with daddy issues, hoping to be saved, regardless of socio-economic status.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

If you had been one year younger he could have been imprisoned for statutory rape. This is predatory behavior. Wasn’t your family and friends concerned?

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

[Anonymous]

The type of person who ends up in this situation (assuming not a troll) would be the type to post this unironically on DCUM. You've made your bed, most likely against the wishes of those around you a few years back.

Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

If you had been one year younger he could have been imprisoned for statutory rape. This is predatory behavior. Wasn’t your family and friends concerned?

The kind of kid who is open to effing (and having a BABY with!) 40 year old divorced dads of 3 with kids who are basically their age doesn't tend to have the best parents or peer group. It is extremely messed up as a PP said, very atypical. To not see an issue with that years down the line when you are a mother yourself and to be fixated on vacation plans of all things is another huge blind spot in an immature, stunted mind (potentially traumatized mind).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 27 years old with an 8 year old son. My husband is 49 and wants to take a vacation in July with his ex-wife and her three kids (25, 23, 21). He’s really close to them and says it’s normal and healthy to do things with his ex and her family. However, he doesn’t want to plan a vacation for my son and me. Instead, he wants my son to spend the summer at home while he goes off with them.
My son is really upset that he won’t be able to go on a vacation, and my husband made him cry. My husband doesn’t seem to care at all that we’re both hurt and upset. It feels like he’s putting his ex’s family above ours.

I don’t know what to do. It seems like he doesn’t care about me or my son at all. It’s so frustrating. How do you even handle something like this?

Does your husband see you and your son every day and every weekend?

Does he see his other three children every week? Do they stay with you at your house?

[Anonymous]

His exes family IS his family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

Lol.

This troll thread is still going?!