She wants a very high-quality man—what are her chances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should go for an Indian doctor whose mother is willing to do all the housekeeping and childcare while she sits around and looks pretty. That’s what my own similar cousin did.

Lol maybe after kids. No Indian MIL is cooking endlessly for her DIL on day 1. And most of the DILs work even if married to high earning men and certainly they did coming into the relationship.

Also Indian MILs are nightmares with their meddling and hold on their India born and raised sons so Indian American DILs don't want to sell their souls for Indian doctor and hid mommy's good food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should go for an Indian doctor whose mother is willing to do all the housekeeping and childcare while she sits around and looks pretty. That’s what my own similar cousin did.

Lol maybe after kids. No Indian MIL is cooking endlessly for her DIL on day 1. And most of the DILs work even if married to high earning men and certainly they did coming into the relationship.

No but they would for their beloved sons and DIL can benefit too.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mind cooking extra food to give to them once in a while but wouldn't take it on as a regular responsibility. They'll have to do it themselves or get a meal delivery.

[Anonymous]

My husband probably would be up to it after his retirement.

[Anonymous]

Men and women both should be able to whip up an edible meal.

[Anonymous]

Her chances are very low OP, speaking as a another "tall" woman, that's not seen as a plus by high status men. She needs to find a career where she can interact with these high earning men if she wants to date them. And up her cooking and housekeeping skills.

[Anonymous]

0%. 2 thumbs down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you asking for someone you know?

Yes, a cousin. Forgot to add that she’s never worked and doesn’t plan to ever work.

Whether she can snag a rich guy or not- she's pathetic for this.

[Anonymous]

Weirdly this actually describes the last 3 women who have lived across the street from me. (Except for the non driving thing.) I've been working from home for years so have an upfront view of the parade of sahms who have lived across from me. About 8 years ago there was a male attorney married to sahm. He did corporate law. I actually tried to make friends with her because I'm work from home and she said she had attended one of my schools. (She did attend but hadn't graduated.) She was basically a human houseplant. Her hobbies consisted of day drinking and screaming at the nanny. That couple eventually moved to some distant suburb so they could by a house near his mother. Second couple moved in. He was a tech exec with some family money. (I know about his family money because his parents literally bought the house and we're always around.) She had some kind of degree from somewhere. Her hobby was ignoring her very young toddler children as they wandered free around the neighborhood and yelling at the gardener. We're currently at third couple. He's a surgeon. Works all the time. She's a stay at home mom whose hobby is yelling at the nanny and the gardener, and shopping. I think despite his surgical career they're financially pressed because she apparently has no plans of ever getting a job. I know this because on the rare occasions he's home she yells at him about moving to a bigger house and he yells back about their debt loan. To be fair, none of the 3 women were physically very pretty. They all have the personalities of nagging houseplants, and 2 of the 3 probably qualified as semi neglectful mothers. And, they all managed to score husbands capable of supporting them in a neighborhood where the median home is 1.4 million. Not sure how any of them will do long term, but if the goal is to find a husband, have a few kids, never work, and day time drink, it is obviously possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weirdly this actually describes the last 3 women who have lived across the street from me. (Except for the non driving thing.) I've been working from home for years so have an upfront view of the parade of sahms who have lived across from me. About 8 years ago there was a male attorney married to sahm. He did corporate law. I actually tried to make friends with her because I'm work from home and she said she had attended one of my schools. (She did attend but hadn't graduated.) She was basically a human houseplant. Her hobbies consisted of day drinking and screaming at the nanny. That couple eventually moved to some distant suburb so they could by a house near his mother. Second couple moved in. He was a tech exec with some family money. (I know about his family money because his parents literally bought the house and we're always around.) She had some kind of degree from somewhere. Her hobby was ignoring her very young toddler children as they wandered free around the neighborhood and yelling at the gardener. We're currently at third couple. He's a surgeon. Works all the time. She's a stay at home mom whose hobby is yelling at the nanny and the gardener, and shopping. I think despite his surgical career they're financially pressed because she apparently has no plans of ever getting a job. I know this because on the rare occasions he's home she yells at him about moving to a bigger house and he yells back about their debt loan. To be fair, none of the 3 women were physically very pretty. They all have the personalities of nagging houseplants, and 2 of the 3 probably qualified as semi neglectful mothers. And, they all managed to score husbands capable of supporting them in a neighborhood where the median home is 1.4 million. Not sure how any of them will do long term, but if the goal is to find a husband, have a few kids, never work, and day time drink, it is obviously possible.

This is completely opposite to what I have on my street. I am married to a doctor, work full time plus 3 other doctors on the same street with wifes working full time plus a lawyer with working wife plus an architect also with a working wife. Now that I think about it, I dont know a single neighbor that isn't working, wife or husband.

[Anonymous]

Most Doctors and Entrepreneurs meet and marry through their work circles.

Many Doctors marry RN's or other health professionals that they know from work.

[Anonymous]

To be honest, having a stay at home spouse is a dream for many ambitious or workaholic doctors of both genders. Its better than having someone who makes little money but expects you to do 50/50 with chores and parenting.

[Anonymous]

They still want someone with intellectual compatibility and skills to manage relationship, life, parenting and socialization.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are both lawyers - I’m an in-house lawyer at a large company and he’s a partner at a big firm. He’s definitely a high-quality man from my perspective, although he doesn’t meet all of the criteria you set. For example, he works more than medium hours, grew up middle class (not sure why that matters). But, he is a great husband and dad who is devoted to our family and he earns a lot of money.

Between my colleagues, DH’s colleagues, friends, neighbors, parents of our kids’ friends, etc., I know many married men who fall into this category. Not one of them is married to a woman remotely similar to the one you describe, OP. The overwhelming majority are married to a woman with a similar level of education. I know lots of two lawyer families, two doctor families, an MD and a PhD in a related field, a dentist and a Dr, etc. In most situations, both spouses work, but we also know a decent percentage where one (usually the wife) becomes a SAHP. I can also think of some where the husband is in a high earning profession and the wife was a teacher or a nurse and then became a SAHM after kids were born. But this is less common than the first scenario l.

I do not, however, know one “high quality” man who married a woman who never had a career and lacks basic life skills like driving a car. Sorry, OP, but I think she’s going to have a tough time.

[Anonymous]

Forget India. Forget the coasts and the 1.4mil avg suburbia spots.

Go to Utah!! And may the odds be ever in her favor