No sex drive and dh and I argue over it constantly!

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Anonymous wrote:I am in the exact same situation as op. 52 and don’t even want to be touched leave alone have sex. It is so repulsive. I have tried lying down and go through the motion but DH does not like that. Can’t pretend anymore it is enjoyable!!! DH is very frustrated and I do feel bad making him go through this but I am totally done. If he will be active for next 10 or 15 years, he is going to get nothing from me. I do think he should just move on and find someone else.

why don't you offer him to go out and get it? This is abusive if you know where you stand but want to tie him down for the sake of marriage. You can still be married and let him enjoy outside the home.

When you do this it should be with the understanding that your marriage might end up ending if the DH finds someone he is fully compatible with, including sex.

But that’s always a risk. I may decide that I’m more compatible with the guy who *doesn’t* want sex, and could choose to end the marriage. Not likely, but always a risk.