Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

I am woman considering joining equestrian sports. Do you actually need to spend 6-figures on it as a beginner? Income 400K

No . There is a good barns here with schooling horses and good instructors. One I know has adult only lessons too if you’re interested.

Yes, that would be great if you can drop the contact here

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Anonymous wrote:Triathlons. CrossFit. Anime. Golf. Cheese making.

Cycling, triathlon, marathon, CrossFit, kayaking, Mount biking, running, cycling of any kind , swimming, soccer, etc all should be huge red-flags.

These all take up all the guy’s spare time and he won’t be available to do the things you want him to do, because he will be constantly training or staying fit. Avoid these guys.

Sounds like you want a couch potato! I bike typically 4-6 hours a week with 50% of that done early mornings before 7am during weekdays. Most people who ride don't ride more than 5 hours a week.

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Anonymous wrote:Triathlons. CrossFit. Anime. Golf. Cheese making.

Cycling, triathlon, marathon, CrossFit, kayaking, Mount biking, running, cycling of any kind , swimming, soccer, etc all should be huge red-flags.

These all take up all the guy’s spare time and he won’t be available to do the things you want him to do, because he will be constantly training or staying fit. Avoid these guys.

Sounds like you want a couch potato! I bike typically 4-6 hours a week with 50% of that done early mornings before 7am during weekdays. Most people who ride don't ride more than 5 hours a week.

This is a great example of the unreasonable and reactive attitude common among obsessive cyclists. No she doesn't want a couch potato, she wants someone who understands that the particular sport isn't the #1 priority of the family.

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Anonymous wrote:Motorcycles.
BASE jumping.
Online gaming (obsessive not casual)

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Horseback riding combines the safety of motorcycling with the affordability of yachting.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

I am woman considering joining equestrian sports. Do you actually need to spend 6-figures on it as a beginner? Income 400K

No . There is a good barns here with schooling horses and good instructors. One I know has adult only lessons too if you’re interested.

Yes, that would be great if you can drop the contact here

Where do you live? I’m said make equestrian from PP . Apparently I have angry exes in here too if they’re from the same area as me.

But yeah I can drop it if you’re local and hope to see you out there . We have a good adult program and some of us do show as well.

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if you are in the stage were you want kids or have young kids , then any hobby that will take several hours or a whole day every weekend

During that stage then it has to be curtailed to fit the stage of life and not every weekend can be consumed with a parents hobby.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.

I've ridden my whole life. Our two daughters now ride. My husband has been on a few trail rides but not for years. He's an excellent barn and show dad. Yes, we spend multiple six figures on it every year and it takes up so much time but our kids love it and my husband always encourages me to ride because it makes me happy. I'm sure if he had to choose he would have picked a different sport but he has happily supported us all for 10 years. And I don't mean supported financially, I also work and have my own money so while we do pay the monthly bills out of out joint account, I purchased my horse with my own money.

I am woman considering joining equestrian sports. Do you actually need to spend 6-figures on it as a beginner? Income 400K

No . There is a good barns here with schooling horses and good instructors. One I know has adult only lessons too if you’re interested.

Yes, that would be great if you can drop the contact here

Where do you live? I’m said make equestrian from PP . Apparently I have angry exes in here too if they’re from the same area as me.

But yeah I can drop it if you’re local and hope to see you out there . We have a good adult program and some of us do show as well.

DMV area

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

Horse people are crazy. I dated a guy for a little bit who was into riding. He talked about it nonstop, had a lot of friends in the horse world and they were all drama. I couldn't be around it so the "relationship" didn't last. The one thing I will say is he was in great shape. I'm sure some of it had to do with riding.

Hmmm, wonder if I dated the same guy. Was in great shape and was an English rider. Only met his friends once or twice but they seemed standoff-ish but were friendly when I did engage with them first.

He was a good rider and I enjoyed watching when I got a chance to see it but it was always either a long day or it took a lot of time. He was at the barn constantly and it was too big a part of his life and I just got tired of it. I think I stayed longer than I intended because he looked good in riding pants and boots.

Wish we could connect because this sounds too familiar and like the guy I dated.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

Horse people are crazy. I dated a guy for a little bit who was into riding. He talked about it nonstop, had a lot of friends in the horse world and they were all drama. I couldn't be around it so the "relationship" didn't last. The one thing I will say is he was in great shape. I'm sure some of it had to do with riding.

Hmmm, wonder if I dated the same guy. Was in great shape and was an English rider. Only met his friends once or twice but they seemed standoff-ish but were friendly when I did engage with them first.

He was a good rider and I enjoyed watching when I got a chance to see it but it was always either a long day or it took a lot of time. He was at the barn constantly and it was too big a part of his life and I just got tired of it. I think I stayed longer than I intended because he looked good in riding pants and boots.

Wish we could connect because this sounds too familiar and like the guy I dated.

Not PP. The horse guy I dated rode English too. Maybe that is common, I’m not that into horses. I didn’t see him ride really besides a view videos and photos. He was also into lifting. Wonder if it is the same person.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

Horse people are crazy. I dated a guy for a little bit who was into riding. He talked about it nonstop, had a lot of friends in the horse world and they were all drama. I couldn't be around it so the "relationship" didn't last. The one thing I will say is he was in great shape. I'm sure some of it had to do with riding.

Hmmm, wonder if I dated the same guy. Was in great shape and was an English rider. Only met his friends once or twice but they seemed standoff-ish but were friendly when I did engage with them first.

He was a good rider and I enjoyed watching when I got a chance to see it but it was always either a long day or it took a lot of time. He was at the barn constantly and it was too big a part of his life and I just got tired of it. I think I stayed longer than I intended because he looked good in riding pants and boots.

Wish we could connect because this sounds too familiar and like the guy I dated.

Not PP. The horse guy I dated rode English too. Maybe that is common, I’m not that into horses. I didn’t see him ride really besides a view videos and photos. He was also into lifting. Wonder if it is the same person.

I don’t think so? He never mentioned it. I saw him for a couple months a few years ago. He was a nice guy and all but too much time riding and when I stopped seeing him we went separate ways . I tried to text him back eventually and he never responded I think he blocked me

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

Horse people are crazy. I dated a guy for a little bit who was into riding. He talked about it nonstop, had a lot of friends in the horse world and they were all drama. I couldn't be around it so the "relationship" didn't last. The one thing I will say is he was in great shape. I'm sure some of it had to do with riding.

Hmmm, wonder if I dated the same guy. Was in great shape and was an English rider. Only met his friends once or twice but they seemed standoff-ish but were friendly when I did engage with them first.

He was a good rider and I enjoyed watching when I got a chance to see it but it was always either a long day or it took a lot of time. He was at the barn constantly and it was too big a part of his life and I just got tired of it. I think I stayed longer than I intended because he looked good in riding pants and boots.

Wish we could connect because this sounds too familiar and like the guy I dated.

It does . When did you date him?

[Anonymous]

Anything that involves manacles or secret rooms in the basement and I'm out.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a male equestrian. I like it and do shows and jumping. I wouldn’t date one though, they’re crazy.

Anything anime, Disney or Harry Potter related for me. I mean going to Disney is all fine and good. Obsessed with Disney or Harry Potter is weird. Anime is strange so no. Also if you’re a “photographer”. No you’re not, you take mid pictures and use filters and no one cares.

Green flag hobbies are anything outdoors like kayaking, paddle board, hiking. Gym and fitness related.

Horse people are crazy. I dated a guy for a little bit who was into riding. He talked about it nonstop, had a lot of friends in the horse world and they were all drama. I couldn't be around it so the "relationship" didn't last. The one thing I will say is he was in great shape. I'm sure some of it had to do with riding.

Hmmm, wonder if I dated the same guy. Was in great shape and was an English rider. Only met his friends once or twice but they seemed standoff-ish but were friendly when I did engage with them first.

He was a good rider and I enjoyed watching when I got a chance to see it but it was always either a long day or it took a lot of time. He was at the barn constantly and it was too big a part of his life and I just got tired of it. I think I stayed longer than I intended because he looked good in riding pants and boots.

Wish we could connect because this sounds too familiar and like the guy I dated.

It does . When did you date him?

Last fall we dated. It wasn’t for a long time or anything.