Sleeping with someone for first time when you're over 50

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Anonymous wrote:If nothing else, posting pictures of yourself on a site like this-that you say doesn’t matter because they have already been published, makes it incredibly easy for random internet strangers to find out your name, address and everything else.

So you think you are “empowering” women when you are really just fueling the awful stereotype that beautiful women are also incredibly stupid.

Genuinely curious how.

NP

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As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

100%. Men say this to every person they are willing to have sex with. I promise you are reading too much into your status as a “beauty”.

I’m happy to post a bathing suit photo if you explain how - Imgur doesn’t work for me for some reason

Save your energy. I’ve sent a photo before and they didn’t believe it was me.

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Anonymous wrote:If nothing else, posting pictures of yourself on a site like this-that you say doesn’t matter because they have already been published, makes it incredibly easy for random internet strangers to find out your name, address and everything else.

So you think you are “empowering” women when you are really just fueling the awful stereotype that beautiful women are also incredibly stupid.

Genuinely curious how.

NP

Yea, I would love to find out how, too. But it’s unfortunate that the women got upset by me posting pictures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is what all the men’s bravado, and women’s passivity yields:

https://thehill.com/changing-america/well-being/prevention-cures/4564052-stds-have-risen-among-adults-55-and-older-cdc/

Isn’t this the crack generation? Figures

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Anonymous wrote:If nothing else, posting pictures of yourself on a site like this-that you say doesn’t matter because they have already been published, makes it incredibly easy for random internet strangers to find out your name, address and everything else.

So you think you are “empowering” women when you are really just fueling the awful stereotype that beautiful women are also incredibly stupid.

Ok - please go ahead and find my name I’m curious now how you do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are so ignorant of sexual health its scary. I took a class in college on sexual health and it was so informative and gave me a life long desire to be aware and educated in this area.

That being said, being healthy doesn’t mean not having sex. Having sex is HEALTHY. It’s what humans are supposed to do. Yes, ideally you find one person to do this with for the rest of your life but that simply doesn’t work out for many people.

Living your life afraid of touching another person is no way to live. Some of you need to have some therapy to work through your fears. Based on this thread you would think that every single person in the DMV is walking around with an STI they just can’t wait to share.

Over 50% of Americans will contract an STI in their lifetime

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Anonymous wrote:If nothing else, posting pictures of yourself on a site like this-that you say doesn’t matter because they have already been published, makes it incredibly easy for random internet strangers to find out your name, address and everything else.

So you think you are “empowering” women when you are really just fueling the awful stereotype that beautiful women are also incredibly stupid.

Genuinely curious how.

NP

Before posting your photos do a quick google search on geolocation, VPN, and all the data a poster could gather about you from one single photo. Next time use Tor or the like.

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Anonymous wrote:If nothing else, posting pictures of yourself on a site like this-that you say doesn’t matter because they have already been published, makes it incredibly easy for random internet strangers to find out your name, address and everything else.

So you think you are “empowering” women when you are really just fueling the awful stereotype that beautiful women are also incredibly stupid.

Genuinely curious how.

NP

Before posting your photos do a quick google search on geolocation, VPN, and all the data a poster could gather about you from one single photo. Next time use Tor or the like.

That's with the photo itself, not after being transferred to imgur or whatever.

Jeff is the only one with ISP data here.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 55 and married. If I were single and dating at this age, you bet I would continue to use condoms. Anyone who came of age in the 1980s should remember when HIV/AIDS was a death sentence; condoms became a standard part of the sex protocol after that, for almost everyone I know.

Yes, they dulled the sensation a bit -- but they also improved one's staying power. If a fifty-something guy refuses to wear a condom now, it's probably because his equipment no longer works quite as well as it did. Because I guarantee you when he was hooking up with randos he met at parties and bars in the 1990s, he was wearing a jimmy hat when they got down to business.

Why are you commenting on something you know nothing about? I am willing to bet you have a dead bedroom and are bitter that this woman is finding joy and having a second chance at life. GTFO.

I’m puzzled by your post. What are you trying to say. The poster seems to just reminding people about reasons to wear condoms. Are you saying that you cannot find joy and start with safe sex?

The poster said she was in her fifties and married. She has no idea what dating is like in your fifties. The last time this person had to deal with this stuff was probably in the 90's.

Add in she is being a scold (remember HIV!! which is a nothingburger now) and handing out advice with ZERO experience dating in 2024.

So again, why is she commenting on something she has never experienced?

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Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

I never insist or push at all. But if she's cool with no condoms and I get the impression that she's at all thoughtful about sexual health I'm going for it.

I know it's a risk. Don't care. Hasn't bitten me yet.

Just happily passing around BV and UTIs huh 😒

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Ironically, the ones who are relieved about my insistance on condoms are younger women (20s to early 30s). They frequently say that guys their own age pressure them to forego condoms.

If a divorced woman in her 40s-50s is banging a young stud, I can guarantee they are not using condoms. Both groups like to take risks.

Well, it would be great if people did not use words like “clean” and “ responsible “ to suggest disease-free.

Microbes are invisible. They spread among people who don’t use barrier protection. The more partners you sleep with, without condoms…the more chances that you will become infected.

That does not make you “dirty,” it makes you a biological organism.

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Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

I never insist or push at all. But if she's cool with no condoms and I get the impression that she's at all thoughtful about sexual health I'm going for it.

I know it's a risk. Don't care. Hasn't bitten me yet.

LOL. If she’s f..g you first time with no condoms by definition she’s not thoughtful about her sexual health. And you might have a number of deceases already that men are not routinely tested for

That's why I wrote 'at all thoughtful'. This is not binary.

A number? What diseases that are not on a routine panel can harm men if they're not causing symptoms.

The point is these deceases may not necessarily cause problems for you, but for a woman for sure. HPV, herpes, urea and mycoplasma, lice eggs etc. I’ve seen men online posting their Ds photos with obvious penile papillomas and they had no clue.

😩😩😩😷

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Anonymous wrote:As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Ironically, the ones who are relieved about my insistance on condoms are younger women (20s to early 30s). They frequently say that guys their own age pressure them to forego condoms.

If a divorced woman in her 40s-50s is banging a young stud, I can guarantee they are not using condoms. Both groups like to take risks.

Another snipped man here and I can verify that this is totally true. After my divorce, I assumed dating and having sex again meant condoms would be the norm and I'd just have to get used to it. I wrongly assumed that women would insist on condoms. Only a few, and I mean like 2 in 15 years insisted on condoms as a rule. Several others said I needed a condom because they weren't on BC and when I told them I had a vasectomy, they didn't want to use a condom any more than I did and they were clearly very happy that I was snipped. Getting that V was one of the best life choices I ever made. In the past few years, a few have asked for test results and I get regular blood work anyway so I'll request an STD panel (you have to special request the Herpes test) and I'm glad to show the latest results. I know going without a condom has it's risks, but I'd still rather share test results and choose my partners carefully than have sex with a condom. I hate them so much and the women I've known seem to hate them even more, much to my surprise.

Fascinating that a doctor needs to run a blood panel to rule out STIs but you can tell by “choosing carefully.”

You should patent your diagnostic prowess ! 😂😂

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Anonymous wrote:If nothing else, posting pictures of yourself on a site like this-that you say doesn’t matter because they have already been published, makes it incredibly easy for random internet strangers to find out your name, address and everything else.

So you think you are “empowering” women when you are really just fueling the awful stereotype that beautiful women are also incredibly stupid.

Genuinely curious how.

NP

Before posting your photos do a quick google search on geolocation, VPN, and all the data a poster could gather about you from one single photo. Next time use Tor or the like.

That's with the photo itself, not after being transferred to imgur or whatever.

Jeff is the only one with ISP data here.

Agree but there are ways

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As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

100%. Men say this to every person they are willing to have sex with. I promise you are reading too much into your status as a “beauty”.

I’m happy to post a bathing suit photo if you explain how - Imgur doesn’t work for me for some reason

We require multiple angles. Upload here:
https://imgbb.com/

Can’t show the full face here but sure, here are some.

https://ibb.co/QnCvK0N
https://ibb.co/FxkbTv3
https://ibb.co/tqdPQBq
https://ibb.co/0qTyLkh
https://ibb.co/PZsBrXd
https://ibb.co/L6z8k1z
https://ibb.co/gvhhHMq

You go girl! Now he has to post his. Multiple angles.