Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

Shoeless houses are a totally reasonable thing, and advance notice is all that's required to allow guests to plan to wear shoes that are easy to take off/not integral to the outfit and bring socks. No, don't ignore.

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Anonymous wrote:They are married. Please do not disrespect her or her new husband. Take your shoes off. It’s a lot easier to clean a shoeless house, and at their age after hosting a big get together it’s the least you can do to minimize their work.

No. If this is the house OP grew up in then OP can do what she likes. It is her house as much as the Mothers. I do think you have to bring it up to her though. The whole concept is stupid.

TIL I'm a real estate millionaire!! I own every property I ever lived in, even if I didn't pay mortgage or rent!

Sure -- is it the house you were raised in and still owned by a parent? If so, yes.

Ugh. This is why everyone calls our generation “entitled”

[Anonymous]

We are a shoeless house 95% of the time and when my elderly parents come they happily comply and enjoy bringing slippers. My mom is a shopaholic and literally brings NEW shoes to wear inside the house only, which I find hilarious.

I also have a bunch of cheap amazon grippy socks for guest if they choose. If once in a while a guest doesn't remove shoes I look the other way. Elderly aunt with knee problems...whatever. Cousin with chronic back pain, sure. SUPER shy kid, whatever. We try to keep the front walk swept to avoid tracking in excess mud. But generally, if you ignore this as an able bodied close family member staying a long time with advance notice then you ATAH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

Some of the no-shoes people seem to think this is the 19th century, and their guests are slogging through muddy streets covered in horse manure before they enter your house for a dinner party. It’s really bizarre and neurotic.

[Anonymous]

Why is this the hill on which you want to die?

[Anonymous]

This probably has more to do with the problematic dynamics of second marriages than shoes. If OP’s mother or father had decided that they were going shoe free including during large gatherings it may have been annoying but none of the adult kids would be offended. The problem here is that the second spouse is staking his claim to their mothers home and their child hood home. I’d guess the shoe incident isn’t the first time the new step parent has done something to offend everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:They are married. Please do not disrespect her or her new husband. Take your shoes off. It’s a lot easier to clean a shoeless house, and at their age after hosting a big get together it’s the least you can do to minimize their work.

No. If this is the house OP grew up in then OP can do what she likes. It is her house as much as the Mothers. I do think you have to bring it up to her though. The whole concept is stupid.

TIL I'm a real estate millionaire!! I own every property I ever lived in, even if I didn't pay mortgage or rent!

Sure -- is it the house you were raised in and still owned by a parent? If so, yes.

Ugh. This is why everyone calls our generation “entitled”

Entitled is the creepy old boomer who tells his new wife “my way or the highway” and demands things change. Pathetic is the new wife that goes along with it.

To be fair, I find shoes in the house gross, but I think it’s more the principle than anything else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

Some of the no-shoes people seem to think this is the 19th century, and their guests are slogging through muddy streets covered in horse manure before they enter your house for a dinner party. It’s really bizarre and neurotic.

If you live in the DC area, it's highly likely your guests are walking through dog poo and homeless urine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

Some of the no-shoes people seem to think this is the 19th century, and their guests are slogging through muddy streets covered in horse manure before they enter your house for a dinner party. It’s really bizarre and neurotic.

If you live in the DC area, it's highly likely your guests are walking through dog poo and homeless urine.

My guests watch their step, actually.

I guess I could demand that they wipe the soles of their shoes with Lysol wipes before they come all the way in, but we just clean afterwards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are married. Please do not disrespect her or her new husband. Take your shoes off. It’s a lot easier to clean a shoeless house, and at their age after hosting a big get together it’s the least you can do to minimize their work.

No. If this is the house OP grew up in then OP can do what she likes. It is her house as much as the Mothers. I do think you have to bring it up to her though. The whole concept is stupid.

TIL I'm a real estate millionaire!! I own every property I ever lived in, even if I didn't pay mortgage or rent!

Sure -- is it the house you were raised in and still owned by a parent? If so, yes.

Ugh. This is why everyone calls our generation “entitled”

Entitled is the creepy old boomer who tells his new wife “my way or the highway” and demands things change. Pathetic is the new wife that goes along with it.

To be fair, I find shoes in the house gross, but I think it’s more the principle than anything else.

IT IS HIS HOUSE. And you don't know that he forced the change. Maybe she is happy with it for the same reason you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are married. Please do not disrespect her or her new husband. Take your shoes off. It’s a lot easier to clean a shoeless house, and at their age after hosting a big get together it’s the least you can do to minimize their work.

No. If this is the house OP grew up in then OP can do what she likes. It is her house as much as the Mothers. I do think you have to bring it up to her though. The whole concept is stupid.

TIL I'm a real estate millionaire!! I own every property I ever lived in, even if I didn't pay mortgage or rent!

Sure -- is it the house you were raised in and still owned by a parent? If so, yes.

Ugh. This is why everyone calls our generation “entitled”

Entitled is the creepy old boomer who tells his new wife “my way or the highway” and demands things change. Pathetic is the new wife that goes along with it.

To be fair, I find shoes in the house gross, but I think it’s more the principle than anything else.

IT IS HIS HOUSE. And you don't know that he forced the change. Maybe she is happy with it for the same reason you are.

Use your indoor voice. It is his wife’s house and he is living there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wearing shoes in the house is very dirty and unhealthy.

No it’s not. For generations; millions and millions of people have worn shoes in their house and suffered no ill effects from it.

For me it's the other way around. We always took the shoes off and we all survived. There are many other ways we get germs but there's not reason to do it on purpose. The same way you take you outerwear off, you take your shoes off. He even gives you a notice and you can bring slippers/socks.

No. He can cope with shoes for one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who demand their guests go barefoot are rude, control freaks.

Our family doesn’t wear shoes around the house, but we don’t force visitors to walk around our house in their socks. We just clean the floors the next day.

Bunch of neurotic germophobes.

+1,000,000

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Anonymous wrote:They are married. Please do not disrespect her or her new husband. Take your shoes off. It’s a lot easier to clean a shoeless house, and at their age after hosting a big get together it’s the least you can do to minimize their work.

No. If this is the house OP grew up in then OP can do what she likes. It is her house as much as the Mothers. I do think you have to bring it up to her though. The whole concept is stupid.

TIL I'm a real estate millionaire!! I own every property I ever lived in, even if I didn't pay mortgage or rent!

Sure -- is it the house you were raised in and still owned by a parent? If so, yes.

Ugh. This is why everyone calls our generation “entitled”

Entitled is the creepy old boomer who tells his new wife “my way or the highway” and demands things change. Pathetic is the new wife that goes along with it.

To be fair, I find shoes in the house gross, but I think it’s more the principle than anything else.

IT IS HIS HOUSE. And you don't know that he forced the change. Maybe she is happy with it for the same reason you are.

Use your indoor voice. It is his wife’s house and he is living there.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

It’s *their* house. Just because you grew up there, OP, doesn’t mean it’s not his now, too. They’re married. It’s painful for you, understandably; it has nothing to do with shoes.