Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

What would you do if someone asked you to use a coaster?

I'd use it, because there is a legit reason- preventing damage from my drink to a tabletop.

There is no damage wearing shoes inside anymore than there is damage wearing pants inside. Should we all remove our pants so my lint doen't get onto a hostesses sofa? Do you not understand how crazy you are?

I don’t think anyone planning to urinate on someone’s bathroom floor gets to call other people crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

Some of the no-shoes people seem to think this is the 19th century, and their guests are slogging through muddy streets covered in horse manure before they enter your house for a dinner party. It’s really bizarre and neurotic.

If you live in the DC area, it's highly likely your guests are walking through dog poo and homeless urine.

No, it’s really not likely at all.

And what are you doing, eating off your floors? My skin almost never touches the floors in the parts of our house where guests walk around in their shoes.

[Anonymous]

I just bring my oofas with me to shoeless homes like ours. It’s nice they told OP in advance so she could plan accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Husband and I have issues at home and basically no one has ever criticized us. WASPS have weird hills to die on.

[Anonymous]

Reminds any of the other thread where people thought it was extremely gauche to have buffet style serving for a big crowd on Thanksgiving like it would be really inefficient and make waste of time to constantly be passing food

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

What would you do if someone asked you to use a coaster?

I'd use it, because there is a legit reason- preventing damage from my drink to a tabletop.

There is no damage wearing shoes inside anymore than there is damage wearing pants inside. Should we all remove our pants so my lint doen't get onto a hostesses sofa? Do you not understand how crazy you are?

Um, what??? I'm not regularly rubbing my butt on the ground that my shoes walk on. Are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

Some of the no-shoes people seem to think this is the 19th century, and their guests are slogging through muddy streets covered in horse manure before they enter your house for a dinner party. It’s really bizarre and neurotic.

If you live in the DC area, it's highly likely your guests are walking through dog poo and homeless urine.

No, it’s really not likely at all.

And what are you doing, eating off your floors? My skin almost never touches the floors in the parts of our house where guests walk around in their shoes.

I have an infant and toddler, so yes. This happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

What would you do if someone asked you to use a coaster?

I'd use it, because there is a legit reason- preventing damage from my drink to a tabletop.

There is no damage wearing shoes inside anymore than there is damage wearing pants inside. Should we all remove our pants so my lint doen't get onto a hostesses sofa? Do you not understand how crazy you are?

If my reason is religious or cultural, is that a good enough reason? Or does your need to wear shoes excuse your bigotry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'll cut to the chase. You'll be a lot more heartbroken than adjusting to a new rule if you find out later that mum is giving the house to him. You speak about it as the home you grew up in- so you may want to check on that and worry about shoes at another time.

Are you insane? The mom will give her new husband the home her children grew up in because they didn't want to walk around a house barfeoot at a party in November?

There are some legit morons on this forum.

You have no reading comprehension- look in a mirror, you insane moron.

New man. Things change. Wills change. This has nothing to do with the shoe rule- no that's not why would be giving the home to him. But the rule change should tip off OP that the interloper may affect more than shoe-wearing in the near future so not to perseverate on this minor issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

Yes, being an adult so obsessed with your own appearance that you disregard the rules in someone else’s home makes it apparent that you are unwell.
Maybe I’ll take to just throwing my trash on the floor and wiping with the hand towels in houses where the hosts allow shoes, to prove a point about tracking dirt and bacteria around their home. Or would that be insane?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

What would you do if someone asked you to use a coaster?

I'd use it, because there is a legit reason- preventing damage from my drink to a tabletop.

There is no damage wearing shoes inside anymore than there is damage wearing pants inside. Should we all remove our pants so my lint doen't get onto a hostesses sofa? Do you not understand how crazy you are?

If my reason is religious or cultural, is that a good enough reason? Or does your need to wear shoes excuse your bigotry?

Uhhh, what bigotry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'll cut to the chase. You'll be a lot more heartbroken than adjusting to a new rule if you find out later that mum is giving the house to him. You speak about it as the home you grew up in- so you may want to check on that and worry about shoes at another time.

Are you insane? The mom will give her new husband the home her children grew up in because they didn't want to walk around a house barfeoot at a party in November?

There are some legit morons on this forum.

You have no reading comprehension- look in a mirror, you insane moron.

New man. Things change. Wills change. This has nothing to do with the shoe rule- no that's not why would be giving the home to him. But the rule change should tip off OP that the interloper may affect more than shoe-wearing in the near future so not to perseverate on this minor issue.

English, please.

[Anonymous]

Hospitals don't make people take their shoes off so the cleanliness argument has no merit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'll cut to the chase. You'll be a lot more heartbroken than adjusting to a new rule if you find out later that mum is giving the house to him. You speak about it as the home you grew up in- so you may want to check on that and worry about shoes at another time.

Are you insane? The mom will give her new husband the home her children grew up in because they didn't want to walk around a house barfeoot at a party in November?

There are some legit morons on this forum.

You have no reading comprehension- look in a mirror, you insane moron.

New man. Things change. Wills change. This has nothing to do with the shoe rule- no that's not why would be giving the home to him. But the rule change should tip off OP that the interloper may affect more than shoe-wearing in the near future so not to perseverate on this minor issue.

So new husband that asks for shoes to be removed is an interloper. What is he called if the OP and new husband had sold both their homes and moved to new condo somewhere? Or is the real issue that the new husband is non-working, none of his own money, no savings bum out for money grab and is mooching off of the mom?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

Of my parents, their friends, and my friends’ parents, most people have downsized, turned kid rooms into guest rooms, actually started doing “no shoes” during the pandemic, switched up the way holidays have been done, bought vacation homes, homes to retire in…and maybe most importantly of all, have their own vibrant, active lives apart from catering to their children’s whims. All of these things require a house to morph and be used differently than it was twenty years ago with young kids.

It’s crazy to think people are in their thirties with their own families and think they have any claim over how their parents’ house is run.

This is really all that needs to be said. Op thinks she can control how her mother and her new husband live in their house because she grew up in it decades ago? Holy smokes.