Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

The number of UGGs advertised throughout this thread is cracking me up.

But really, OP, we need an update! Did the party really move to your house? And did Mom & stepdad crash?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are a shoeless house 95% of the time and when my elderly parents come they happily comply and enjoy bringing slippers. My mom is a shopaholic and literally brings NEW shoes to wear inside the house only, which I find hilarious.

I also have a bunch of cheap amazon grippy socks for guest if they choose. If once in a while a guest doesn't remove shoes I look the other way. Elderly aunt with knee problems...whatever. Cousin with chronic back pain, sure. SUPER shy kid, whatever. We try to keep the front walk swept to avoid tracking in excess mud. But generally, if you ignore this as an able bodied close family member staying a long time with advance notice then you ATAH.

I love this. You triage your guests and determine who shall comply and who shall pass. I envison the image of a line at your door as people wait to be judged. Nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you can't ignore it. It's his house (and hers too now)-- but it's not yours and that's the key point. If it bothers you, bring slippers.

When your parent marries, you have to make compromises and accept changes. Welcome to being an adult stepchild!

What? No, you do not have to accept changes. He can accept that people wear shoes in the house that they have been wearing shoes in for the last 4 decades!

Did your parents respect you as your life changed? You see Jr, that’s how adults act.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you can't ignore it. It's his house (and hers too now)-- but it's not yours and that's the key point. If it bothers you, bring slippers.

When your parent marries, you have to make compromises and accept changes. Welcome to being an adult stepchild!

What? No, you do not have to accept changes. He can accept that people wear shoes in the house that they have been wearing shoes in for the last 4 decades!

Do you own the house?

[Anonymous]

Maybe your mom had finally come to her senses and understood how nasty outside shoes can be. Might have nothing to do with the new husband.

[Anonymous]

I worry that the new man is actuallly a con man influencing the poor lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worry that the new man is actuallly a con man influencing the poor lady.

The kids' decision not to come if they can't wear shoes is helping him cut her off from her family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this the hill on which you want to die?

That question is best posed to the new guy.

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Anonymous wrote:They are married. Please do not disrespect her or her new husband. Take your shoes off. It’s a lot easier to clean a shoeless house, and at their age after hosting a big get together it’s the least you can do to minimize their work.

No. If this is the house OP grew up in then OP can do what she likes. It is her house as much as the Mothers. I do think you have to bring it up to her though. The whole concept is stupid.

TIL I'm a real estate millionaire!! I own every property I ever lived in, even if I didn't pay mortgage or rent!

Sure -- is it the house you were raised in and still owned by a parent? If so, yes.

Ugh. This is why everyone calls our generation “entitled”

Entitled is the creepy old boomer who tells his new wife “my way or the highway” and demands things change. Pathetic is the new wife that goes along with it.

To be fair, I find shoes in the house gross, but I think it’s more the principle than anything else.

Or maybe the mom and stepfather discussed the matter and agreed on the new policy? We have no way of knowing the conversations that led up to this, and neither does OP.

[Anonymous]

I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

Now that would be insane behavior. You would regress to the level of an untrained dog because someone asked you to comply with a house rule.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

What would you do if someone asked you to use a coaster?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was at a (small, probably 10-12 people) party once in a shoeless house. One guest arrived on the later end and when she was asked to remove her shoes, she refused, because they were part of her outfit. No one argued or tried to force her to comply, but she looked insane and I still think about it. It isn’t your home! You don’t get to behave however you want in someone else’s house, family or not.

She looked mentally unwell? She appeared to suffer from a diagnosable metal illness?

Do you have any idea how...... insane you people sound?

This is not about clean floors and dog sh*t. Thiis about control freaks bullying people.

If I'm ever at a party where they insist I remove my shoes, I will. I also can promise you I will urinate on the bathroom floor.

What would you do if someone asked you to use a coaster?

I'd use it, because there is a legit reason- preventing damage from my drink to a tabletop.

There is no damage wearing shoes inside anymore than there is damage wearing pants inside. Should we all remove our pants so my lint doen't get onto a hostesses sofa? Do you not understand how crazy you are?

[Anonymous]

Get your mom a dog, which then renders the shoes discussion irrelevant