Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

Yes. Ignore and report back here how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question- how are people's sweaty stocking feet cleaner than shoe bottoms? I've never understood this.

Is this really a serious question? Shoes traverse all manner of excrement and chemicals outside. Normal people want to keep that stuff out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

I feel ya, OP, I hate when my dad's wife makes changes to the home-- which btw she does not own, which was her choice on purpose, because she doesn't want the hassle of dealing with it if my father dies before her. But she lives there and she has the right to, and I have to accept it. Especially over something as minor as shoes.

Can't you just bring some slippers? Why does this bother you so much? For all you know your mom has been yearning for a no-shoes house all her life and now has the chance to have it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

You don’t spend time with well adjusted, self aware people. I’m sorry for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
ALL the people we are friends with have shoeless houses. None of them are Asian. We're the Asians in the group (also with a shoeless house).

Bring slippers, or warm socks, and be grateful your mother has good taste!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

Of my parents, their friends, and my friends’ parents, most people have downsized, turned kid rooms into guest rooms, actually started doing “no shoes” during the pandemic, switched up the way holidays have been done, bought vacation homes, homes to retire in…and maybe most importantly of all, have their own vibrant, active lives apart from catering to their children’s whims. All of these things require a house to morph and be used differently than it was twenty years ago with young kids.

It’s crazy to think people are in their thirties with their own families and think they have any claim over how their parents’ house is run.

[Anonymous]

Bring slippers. Not a hill to die on op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

I feel ya, OP, I hate when my dad's wife makes changes to the home-- which btw she does not own, which was her choice on purpose, because she doesn't want the hassle of dealing with it if my father dies before her. But she lives there and she has the right to, and I have to accept it. Especially over something as minor as shoes.

Can't you just bring some slippers? Why does this bother you so much? For all you know your mom has been yearning for a no-shoes house all her life and now has the chance to have it!

She has the right to? Why? I own my my mom's home before her husband does. My dad's will says so.

[Anonymous]

THEIR house. Their rules. But you will find anything to fight about. Sure. Start here. Your poor Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My widowed mom (66) married her bf of two years this September. He is a nice guy and we are happy mom is happy.

Thanksgiving is at her house. Hers, not his. This is the house we grew up in and my father died in.

Anyway, in a group text last night, amongst people announcng what theyre bringing and when they are arriving, he included:

"Don't forget, the house is now a shoeless house. Plesae take them off at the door!"

This can be ignored, right? I really don't want to bring it up with mom.

OP, this is a power struggle - it is not about shoes at all. Make your mom happy, grow up, and stop being such a baby. It is her house, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:THEIR house. Their rules. But you will find anything to fight about. Sure. Start here. Your poor Mom.

+1

No kidding, OP you are such a child!

[Anonymous]

You said your Mom is happy. But still you want to create trouble. Awful of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

Of my parents, their friends, and my friends’ parents, most people have downsized, turned kid rooms into guest rooms, actually started doing “no shoes” during the pandemic, switched up the way holidays have been done, bought vacation homes, homes to retire in…and maybe most importantly of all, have their own vibrant, active lives apart from catering to their children’s whims. All of these things require a house to morph and be used differently than it was twenty years ago with young kids.

It’s crazy to think people are in their thirties with their own families and think they have any claim over how their parents’ house is run.

Whooah, check out the privilege on this one. Why yes, we should all take advice from some rich white chick whose parent's casually bought 'vacation homes'

Get a clue, Becky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said your Mom is happy. But still you want to create trouble. Awful of you.

+1

You sound like my petulant MIL, OP :stomp, stomp: "but I don't WANT to!! but I don't LIKE her" JFC grow up woman.