Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ya'll must be under 40. Most 40 year olds have to wear shoes with special inserts for knee and foot health and to prevent knee and foot pain.

No way can I walk around on hard wood floor or tile floor or even carpet with only slippers on.

Maybe if they are very obese. This is not the norm for walking at 40.

[Anonymous]

So many nasty people in DC. If you just wear shoes in the house switch to an indoor only pair. I’m 49 and spent the day in fuzzy socks and survived.

[Anonymous]

Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

I agree with the above. We are a shoe less house and I would never extend that rule to extended family gatherings, dinner parties etc. Elderly guests need their shoes for traction. The risk of a fall from slippery socks isn’t minimal. Other posters mentioned guests with plantar fasciitis , arch problems etc. If someone breaks something, I don’t want kids stepping on broken glass if that happens, and for the guests that are dressed up it’s rude to expect them to wear socks with their dresses or skirts.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'll cut to the chase. You'll be a lot more heartbroken than adjusting to a new rule if you find out later that mum is giving the house to him. You speak about it as the home you grew up in- so you may want to check on that and worry about shoes at another time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

I agree with the above. We are a shoe less house and I would never extend that rule to extended family gatherings, dinner parties etc. Elderly guests need their shoes for traction. The risk of a fall from slippery socks isn’t minimal. Other posters mentioned guests with plantar fasciitis , arch problems etc. If someone breaks something, I don’t want kids stepping on broken glass if that happens, and for the guests that are dressed up it’s rude to expect them to wear socks with their dresses or skirts.

Read the post. The “elderly guests” are the adult children. It’s the mom and stepdad requesting no shoes, if they can handle it, so can the guests that are 20-40 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t host any sort of party and expect guests to take off their shoes. It is rude and gross. Who wants to wear slippers with a fancy outfit or bring “indoor shoes” to someone else’s house. If you have a shoeless house, clean the floor after the party and move on.

If you move into someone else’s home after they have raised their kids there, don’t change house rules. The house is more theirs than yours. If you must change things, insist on getting a new house.

I agree with the above. We are a shoe less house and I would never extend that rule to extended family gatherings, dinner parties etc. Elderly guests need their shoes for traction. The risk of a fall from slippery socks isn’t minimal. Other posters mentioned guests with plantar fasciitis , arch problems etc. If someone breaks something, I don’t want kids stepping on broken glass if that happens, and for the guests that are dressed up it’s rude to expect them to wear socks with their dresses or skirts.

Read the post. The “elderly guests” are the adult children. It’s the mom and stepdad requesting no shoes, if they can handle it, so can the guests that are 20-40 years younger.

You may want to reread the post. OPs mom is 66. She may be hosting elderly relatives (66 is not considered elderly) in addition to the adult children. It’s common for more than 2 generations to get together at holidays.

[Anonymous]

OP, is the new husband doing anything for the house? Mortgage, utilities, renovations? If he is doing it, he has a say. Also, as someone who lives in a shoeless house - I am the envy of all my ILs for how much cleanER it is compared to theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

So, when I moved away I should have had a say in what color the walls were painted in my childhood home? The type of flowers planted out front? Cutting down my favorite willow tree because it was dying anyway?

[Anonymous]

How did it go OP? What did you do?

Oh you’re not coming back because you got roasted.

[Anonymous]

I hope this fake. What a spoiled little brat!! Your poor mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wearing shoes in the house is very dirty and unhealthy.

No it’s not. For generations; millions and millions of people have worn shoes in their house and suffered no ill effects from it.

For me it's the other way around. We always took the shoes off and we all survived. There are many other ways we get germs but there's not reason to do it on purpose. The same way you take you outerwear off, you take your shoes off. He even gives you a notice and you can bring slippers/socks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'll cut to the chase. You'll be a lot more heartbroken than adjusting to a new rule if you find out later that mum is giving the house to him. You speak about it as the home you grew up in- so you may want to check on that and worry about shoes at another time.

Are you insane? The mom will give her new husband the home her children grew up in because they didn't want to walk around a house barfeoot at a party in November?

There are some legit morons on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did it go OP? What did you do?

Oh you’re not coming back because you got roasted.

Roasted? She did the roasting. She left her elderly mother and stepdad all alone on Thnaksgiving because they were being freaks.

Personally, theyd be off my Christmas dinner list unless both of them formally apologized to everyone.

[Anonymous]

People who demand their guests go barefoot are rude, control freaks.

Our family doesn’t wear shoes around the house, but we don’t force visitors to walk around our house in their socks. We just clean the floors the next day.

Bunch of neurotic germophobes.