I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

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Anonymous wrote:Team OP on this one. DD is 14 and can easily pass for 19 or 20.

I wouldn’t sweat this at all.

OP feels like a creep. I agree with him too.

OP is hoping someone gives him permission to ask her out again
OP, NO!

Negative! OP, you go tapp dat!

Hi OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

So if you think teenagers should be able to walk around their neighborhoods without being hit on 40-something neighbors you are a "Karen"

Thanks for confirming that "Karen" now just means "woman who expresses any opinion contrary to mine"

[Anonymous]

OP did absolutely nothing wrong. There are just some bonkers people in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s well known to not ask women out at the gym, and this is about the same thing.

You were totally stalking her but at least you didn’t fake run into her for months and then ask her out.

Now she knows to avoid your part of neighborhood.

He just watched her from his window for months, fake ran into her one time, and asked her out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP did absolutely nothing wrong. There are just some bonkers people in this thread.

OP did nothing wrong, he’s just still so horny he’s posting on the internet about the incident! 😂😂 probably hoping she reads it and realizes her mistake and runs back to him!

[Anonymous]

If men hitting on women they just happen across were evenly distributed across the population of women it wouldn't be so bad since it would happen to any individual women only occasionally. In real life the young and conventionally good looking get this unsolicited attention all the time, even more so if they use public transportation or are otherwise in public spaces alone a lot. It's not fun at all.

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Even if this woman were 30 years old probability that she is single and would be interested in going out with a stranger, divorced, 10+ years older is miniscule. The probability that this is a highly unwanted interaction for her approaches 100 percent. The OP lacks judgment in more than one way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if this woman were 30 years old probability that she is single and would be interested in going out with a stranger, divorced, 10+ years older is miniscule. The probability that this is a highly unwanted interaction for her approaches 100 percent. The OP lacks judgment in more than one way.

Nobody thinks 30 & 40 is too big of an age gap. Nobody.

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Please do not approach women when they are out jogging and walking! I'm a mom and have had this happen and it sucks. Trust me when I say that she was literally out walking and jogging to get a work out. No other reason at all. If you want to meet women, go to target rich environments meant for that.

This is a good point, to be honest. It's exhausting to feel like every activity, no matter how much one is doing it for themselves, is interpreted as an invitation to be asked out. Sometimes we just want to go for a run, even if we do it while cute.

Another woman who has to agree with this. Not only for the just-out-for-a-jog aspect but also the complete stranger part. It just gives me weird feelings like that a young woman can't simply exist in this world without being on display as a piece of meat for a man to feel is his for the choosing. Yes, it sounds like OP was perfectly respectable in his interaction, but the whole thing is creepy and not because of the age difference.

Juxtapose this with the threads by single women asking why they cannot find anyone.

You over exaggerate. You are not being asked out on every activity. It's just not happening. If OP doesn't try his hand, how else does he (or anyone else for that matter) meet people? We complain about online dating but then throw stones at those that try to meet in person.

There's nothing wrong with what you did, OP. You figured her age and backed off. Good for you.

Lol. For someone who likely purports to be an advocate for men, you sure have a low opinion of their capabilities.

Most men can easily understand that there is a time and a place to ask women on a date, and it is not while they are exercising after never having spoken to you before.

I’ve met one man who would literally hang out on street corners trying to pick up women as they walked past. It would work 1/100 times. This dude was possibly the creepiest and most mentally unstable man I have met - he threatened to burn my house down eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If men hitting on women they just happen across were evenly distributed across the population of women it wouldn't be so bad since it would happen to any individual women only occasionally. In real life the young and conventionally good looking get this unsolicited attention all the time, even more so if they use public transportation or are otherwise in public spaces alone a lot. It's not fun at all.

Yep. I had a friend who looked like a barbie - blonde hair, blue eyes - and she would wear shapeless overalls to evade attention in public. Did not work. If she did the least amount of primping, it would be even worse.

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Please do not approach women when they are out jogging and walking! I'm a mom and have had this happen and it sucks. Trust me when I say that she was literally out walking and jogging to get a work out. No other reason at all. If you want to meet women, go to target rich environments meant for that.

This is a good point, to be honest. It's exhausting to feel like every activity, no matter how much one is doing it for themselves, is interpreted as an invitation to be asked out. Sometimes we just want to go for a run, even if we do it while cute.

Another woman who has to agree with this. Not only for the just-out-for-a-jog aspect but also the complete stranger part. It just gives me weird feelings like that a young woman can't simply exist in this world without being on display as a piece of meat for a man to feel is his for the choosing. Yes, it sounds like OP was perfectly respectable in his interaction, but the whole thing is creepy and not because of the age difference.

Juxtapose this with the threads by single women asking why they cannot find anyone.

You over exaggerate. You are not being asked out on every activity. It's just not happening. If OP doesn't try his hand, how else does he (or anyone else for that matter) meet people? We complain about online dating but then throw stones at those that try to meet in person.

There's nothing wrong with what you did, OP. You figured her age and backed off. Good for you.

Your response is such BS. Please OP, and other men, ask out women who you meet through mutual activities and hobbies or at planned social interactions. Try your hand with these women. See a woman at a coffee shop every Tuesday morning for a few a weeks? You've smiled and said good morning to each other regularly now? Great, ask her out. Do not try your hand with random strangers just living their lives on the street. This distinction should not be complicated.

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Please do not approach women when they are out jogging and walking! I'm a mom and have had this happen and it sucks. Trust me when I say that she was literally out walking and jogging to get a work out. No other reason at all. If you want to meet women, go to target rich environments meant for that.

This is a good point, to be honest. It's exhausting to feel like every activity, no matter how much one is doing it for themselves, is interpreted as an invitation to be asked out. Sometimes we just want to go for a run, even if we do it while cute.

Another woman who has to agree with this. Not only for the just-out-for-a-jog aspect but also the complete stranger part. It just gives me weird feelings like that a young woman can't simply exist in this world without being on display as a piece of meat for a man to feel is his for the choosing. Yes, it sounds like OP was perfectly respectable in his interaction, but the whole thing is creepy and not because of the age difference.

Juxtapose this with the threads by single women asking why they cannot find anyone.

You over exaggerate. You are not being asked out on every activity. It's just not happening. If OP doesn't try his hand, how else does he (or anyone else for that matter) meet people? We complain about online dating but then throw stones at those that try to meet in person.

There's nothing wrong with what you did, OP. You figured her age and backed off. Good for you.

Yeah really if OP doesn’t stare at a teenager for months and approach her while she’s walking alone how ever in the world could he possibly interact with the opposite sex??!?!?? We all know the age appropriate women interested in being approached never go to public venues where meeting people is expected.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if this woman were 30 years old probability that she is single and would be interested in going out with a stranger, divorced, 10+ years older is miniscule. The probability that this is a highly unwanted interaction for her approaches 100 percent. The OP lacks judgment in more than one way.

Nobody thinks 30 & 40 is too big of an age gap. Nobody.

Yeah but a 10+ age gap attached to a divorced man who stares at teenagers for months is amazingly unattractive.

[Anonymous]

This is all normal. Especially since you took no for an answer. Take your shot, you never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is all normal. Especially since you took no for an answer. Take your shot, you never know.

Yeah, that high school junior might be your soulmate