I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

[Anonymous]

I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

[Anonymous]

Well, my ex is dating a woman half his age, so it's not unreasonable, apparently. Gross, yes, but not unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

In DCUM-land, you're a creep and shouldn't be using the sidewalk as your own personal pick up spot (since you're a man).

In the real world, it's just an honest mistake. Some women look more mature than their real age.

[Anonymous]

aww., OP. You're fine. You didn't know.

FWIW, my friend has a DD who is tall - 5'7" at 13, and some 18 yr old college boy thought she was in college and hit on her.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is back to college in her 30s.
Whatever, it’s sad that men have been intimidated so much they hardly ever ask anyone out. I am a woman fwiw.

[Anonymous]

DC people are brainwashed by the WaPo and NPR.

So, around here you are a crepe/pedo/stalker.

Anywhere else, you are just a man.

[Anonymous]

The important thing is that you stopped when you had a ballpark idea of her age.

A weirdo would not have been fazed in the slightest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The important thing is that you stopped when you had a ballpark idea of her age.

A weirdo would not have been fazed in the slightest.

This.

It's a good sign you feel gross about it.

NEXT!

[Anonymous]

Seems like everyone behaved just fine in this scenario. Maybe she's not as young as you think, OP, but maybe she is. Either way, she said no thanks and unless you start "accidentally" running into her all the time, this is no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

That's because you are a creep.

DP. By your standard, there is literally no circumstance in which it’s okay to approach someone & ask them out on a date/walk.

Yes. If the approacher is a man. If it's a woman, then it's "you go girl".

You'll notice that in the threads where women ask where to meet men. People will offer up places like work, the gym, etc. But definitely not OK for a man to do that.

[Anonymous]

Why did you describe her outfit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

That's because you are a creep.

DP. By your standard, there is literally no circumstance in which it’s okay to approach someone & ask them out on a date/walk.

NP and a woman. By her standard, the guys who are NOT creeps should only approach middle aged, frumpy and overweight women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The important thing is that you stopped when you had a ballpark idea of her age.

A weirdo would not have been fazed in the slightest.

This.

It's a good sign you feel gross about it.

NEXT!

Yup! You’re fine, OP. You took a chance perfectly politely, then noped when you realized she was actually a kid.

[Anonymous]

You're old enough to be her father. What's wrong with you?

Sorry. I've been spending too much time on DCUM, and I've been brainwashed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you describe her outfit

OP here. I mentioned the baseball cap & sunglasses because they obscured her hair and face. Was hard to see if her skin and hair were aged & how much.