Why do young people have kids they can't afford?

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Anonymous wrote:Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age.

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.”

Is it really true that sex drive peaks then? I think older women are just more confident. I need someone real to tell me they have a higher sex drive at 40 than 18. I don't believe it. Why would sex drive peak as fertility drops--it is not biological, but more likely just experience and increased self-confidence.

Teenage girls are at peak fertility. You condone that? Apparently.

Of course not. But you don’t have to be 38 and at subpar fertility either.

Who said 38? Bold it, no one said that.

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Anonymous wrote:Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age.

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.”

Your Brian needs to be fully mature to raise a baby. Somehow, this is news to you.

If it’s not optimal for a girl to have a child at her peak fertility (let’s say that was her teens, but I think studies have actually shown that women in their mid to late twenties have the healthiest babies as a cohort), then why is it automatically optimal for a women to have a baby when her brain is at peak maturity? If one is not biologically dictated, why do you assume the other is? These are weak, baseless arguments that you seem to be making to rationalize an extreme POV.

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Someone already said very late 20’s to late 30’s. That’s plenty of time to have children.

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Anonymous wrote:Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age.

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.”

Your Brian needs to be fully mature to raise a baby. Somehow, this is news to you.

If it’s not optimal for a girl to have a child at her peak fertility (let’s say that was her teens, but I think studies have actually shown that women in their mid to late twenties have the healthiest babies as a cohort), then why is it automatically optimal for a women to have a baby when her brain is at peak maturity? If one is not biologically dictated, why do you assume the other is? These are weak, baseless arguments that you seem to be making to rationalize an extreme POV.

Honey, you and no one else dictates science. Ask God or whatever you believe to answer why it’s biologically that way.

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Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 26 too. And why not, I had already graduated from college and worked my way up to a director position.

So did I. I was married and in my third year of residency, doing mostly outpatient work.

My career isn’t amazing, but it seems fine.

Apparently, only college grads are entitled to having babies at 26.

Yes. Married college graduates have my blessing to have children at 26 years old.

You’ve got your priorities in the sewage.

DP, You’re out of your mind! So what should a 26 year old be doing in your mind? Let’s say they’re fully out of college and grad school, gainfully employed.

What should they do? Live their life and not follow some path that dictates they must get married and have baby because they have don’t the things you listed. Do it when the time is right, not right now.

What if they want to? Why do you get to dictate what’s right for them? Maybe having a family is something they want, the same way others want it, just nine years later. Who are you to determine what’s appropriate? Both ages are full adults, likely college educated, employed and presumably married or in commited relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age.

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.”

Your Brian needs to be fully mature to raise a baby. Somehow, this is news to you.

If it’s not optimal for a girl to have a child at her peak fertility (let’s say that was her teens, but I think studies have actually shown that women in their mid to late twenties have the healthiest babies as a cohort), then why is it automatically optimal for a women to have a baby when her brain is at peak maturity? If one is not biologically dictated, why do you assume the other is? These are weak, baseless arguments that you seem to be making to rationalize an extreme POV.

Except peak fertility and highest sex drive in women is in their early 30’s along with the brain being mature. So yes, it does align.

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Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 26 too. And why not, I had already graduated from college and worked my way up to a director position.

So did I. I was married and in my third year of residency, doing mostly outpatient work.

My career isn’t amazing, but it seems fine.

Apparently, only college grads are entitled to having babies at 26.

Yes. Married college graduates have my blessing to have children at 26 years old.

You’ve got your priorities in the sewage.

DP, You’re out of your mind! So what should a 26 year old be doing in your mind? Let’s say they’re fully out of college and grad school, gainfully employed.

What should they do? Live their life and not follow some path that dictates they must get married and have baby because they have don’t the things you listed. Do it when the time is right, not right now.

What if you and your spouse feel like the time is right? What’s your problem with grown adults having children when the time is right for them, not on your schedule of “not before 35?”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 26 too. And why not, I had already graduated from college and worked my way up to a director position.

So did I. I was married and in my third year of residency, doing mostly outpatient work.

My career isn’t amazing, but it seems fine.

Apparently, only college grads are entitled to having babies at 26.

Yes. Married college graduates have my blessing to have children at 26 years old.

You’ve got your priorities in the sewage.

DP, You’re out of your mind! So what should a 26 year old be doing in your mind? Let’s say they’re fully out of college and grad school, gainfully employed.

What should they do? Live their life and not follow some path that dictates they must get married and have baby because they have don’t the things you listed. Do it when the time is right, not right now.

What if they want to? Why do you get to dictate what’s right for them? Maybe having a family is something they want, the same way others want it, just nine years later. Who are you to determine what’s appropriate? Both ages are full adults, likely college educated, employed and presumably married or in commited relationships.

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We all want a lot of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age.

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.”

Your Brian needs to be fully mature to raise a baby. Somehow, this is news to you.

If it’s not optimal for a girl to have a child at her peak fertility (let’s say that was her teens, but I think studies have actually shown that women in their mid to late twenties have the healthiest babies as a cohort), then why is it automatically optimal for a women to have a baby when her brain is at peak maturity? If one is not biologically dictated, why do you assume the other is? These are weak, baseless arguments that you seem to be making to rationalize an extreme POV.

Honey, you and no one else dictates science. Ask God or whatever you believe to answer why it’s biologically that way.

Not the point. The point is that you have posters (correctly) adamant that girls should not have kids during their peak fertility years if that is in their teens, but in the same breath stating that they should have kids when their brains peak in maturity at 30. That’s inconsistent logic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 26 too. And why not, I had already graduated from college and worked my way up to a director position.

So did I. I was married and in my third year of residency, doing mostly outpatient work.

My career isn’t amazing, but it seems fine.

Apparently, only college grads are entitled to having babies at 26.

Yes. Married college graduates have my blessing to have children at 26 years old.

You’ve got your priorities in the sewage.

DP, You’re out of your mind! So what should a 26 year old be doing in your mind? Let’s say they’re fully out of college and grad school, gainfully employed.

What should they do? Live their life and not follow some path that dictates they must get married and have baby because they have don’t the things you listed. Do it when the time is right, not right now.

What if you and your spouse feel like the time is right? What’s your problem with grown adults having children when the time is right for them, not on your schedule of “not before 35?”

Highlight where I or anyone else said not before 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age.

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.”

Your Brian needs to be fully mature to raise a baby. Somehow, this is news to you.

If it’s not optimal for a girl to have a child at her peak fertility (let’s say that was her teens, but I think studies have actually shown that women in their mid to late twenties have the healthiest babies as a cohort), then why is it automatically optimal for a women to have a baby when her brain is at peak maturity? If one is not biologically dictated, why do you assume the other is? These are weak, baseless arguments that you seem to be making to rationalize an extreme POV.

Honey, you and no one else dictates science. Ask God or whatever you believe to answer why it’s biologically that way.

Not the point. The point is that you have posters (correctly) adamant that girls should not have kids during their peak fertility years if that is in their teens, but in the same breath stating that they should have kids when their brains peak in maturity at 30. That’s inconsistent logic.

Tell biologists that it is illogical. Contact Jesus to fix it.

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Duggar family has inundated this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 26 too. And why not, I had already graduated from college and worked my way up to a director position.

So did I. I was married and in my third year of residency, doing mostly outpatient work.

My career isn’t amazing, but it seems fine.

Apparently, only college grads are entitled to having babies at 26.

Yes. Married college graduates have my blessing to have children at 26 years old.

You’ve got your priorities in the sewage.

DP, You’re out of your mind! So what should a 26 year old be doing in your mind? Let’s say they’re fully out of college and grad school, gainfully employed.

What should they do? Live their life and not follow some path that dictates they must get married and have baby because they have don’t the things you listed. Do it when the time is right, not right now.

What if you and your spouse feel like the time is right? What’s your problem with grown adults having children when the time is right for them, not on your schedule of “not before 35?”

Highlight where I or anyone else said not before 35.

Waiting…

[Anonymous]

They let passion and the good Lord plan their families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 26 too. And why not, I had already graduated from college and worked my way up to a director position.

So did I. I was married and in my third year of residency, doing mostly outpatient work.

My career isn’t amazing, but it seems fine.

Apparently, only college grads are entitled to having babies at 26.

Yes. Married college graduates have my blessing to have children at 26 years old.

You’ve got your priorities in the sewage.

DP, You’re out of your mind! So what should a 26 year old be doing in your mind? Let’s say they’re fully out of college and grad school, gainfully employed.

What should they do? Live their life and not follow some path that dictates they must get married and have baby because they have don’t the things you listed. Do it when the time is right, not right now.

What if you and your spouse feel like the time is right? What’s your problem with grown adults having children when the time is right for them, not on your schedule of “not before 35?”

Highlight where I or anyone else said not before 35.

I guess I’m not sure what you are saying. If 26 is inappropriately young, then what do you feel is an okay age? I guess I assumed mid-thirties.