MIL getting up when baby cried: what would you do?

[Anonymous]

I got to get over yourself seriously the baby cries she gets up she says what’s going, on cares just say the baby is crying and move on.

[Anonymous]

I’m still trying to figure out what the big deal is and why you have to go into oh you’ve got this routine and we do this who gives a shit

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like your MIL was willing to help and let you guys get some sleep. You responded by being a jerk. I'd be pissed at you too. You seem rude and ungrateful.

This. Maybe she wanted to help. She can't nurse but some things my mom did for me during those frequent newborn wakings was rock the baby back to sleep or sit up with me and chat or watch TV so I could have some company and DH could get some sleep.

...DH did go back to sleep. While OP breastfed. Sounds like OP didn't want or need "company" during breastfeeding, as evidenced by her saying for several nights in a row that she didn't want help.

Why are you speaking for OP?

I'm going with the facts. You're writing fiction that what really would have been helpful is...watching TV? Why are you writing fiction?

The facts are DIL and son were thundering around the in-laws house in the middle of the night with a screaming baby and woke everyone up. Sounds like a shitty situation for all, no?

“Thundering?” Are you extremely obese or something? When I quietly walk down a hallway in the middle of the night, I don’t “thunder.” I guess you do…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, sounds like you were the rude one.

Seriously, why is this an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like your MIL was willing to help and let you guys get some sleep. You responded by being a jerk. I'd be pissed at you too. You seem rude and ungrateful.

This. Maybe she wanted to help. She can't nurse but some things my mom did for me during those frequent newborn wakings was rock the baby back to sleep or sit up with me and chat or watch TV so I could have some company and DH could get some sleep.

...DH did go back to sleep. While OP breastfed. Sounds like OP didn't want or need "company" during breastfeeding, as evidenced by her saying for several nights in a row that she didn't want help.

Why are you speaking for OP?

I'm going with the facts. You're writing fiction that what really would have been helpful is...watching TV? Why are you writing fiction?

The facts are DIL and son were thundering around the in-laws house in the middle of the night with a screaming baby and woke everyone up. Sounds like a shitty situation for all, no?

“Thundering?” Are you extremely obese or something? When I quietly walk down a hallway in the middle of the night, I don’t “thunder.” I guess you do…

Are you obese? If they woke the MIL up they weren't being quiet. How else do you explain it?

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like your MIL was willing to help and let you guys get some sleep. You responded by being a jerk. I'd be pissed at you too. You seem rude and ungrateful.

This. Maybe she wanted to help. She can't nurse but some things my mom did for me during those frequent newborn wakings was rock the baby back to sleep or sit up with me and chat or watch TV so I could have some company and DH could get some sleep.

...DH did go back to sleep. While OP breastfed. Sounds like OP didn't want or need "company" during breastfeeding, as evidenced by her saying for several nights in a row that she didn't want help.

Why are you speaking for OP?

I'm going with the facts. You're writing fiction that what really would have been helpful is...watching TV? Why are you writing fiction?

The facts are DIL and son were thundering around the in-laws house in the middle of the night with a screaming baby and woke everyone up. Sounds like a shitty situation for all, no?

“Thundering?” Are you extremely obese or something? When I quietly walk down a hallway in the middle of the night, I don’t “thunder.” I guess you do…

Are you obese? If they woke the MIL up they weren't being quiet. How else do you explain it?

Um, the sound of a baby crying? In a small house? That seems more likely than the sound of someone walking to the bathroom being the impetus for waking MIL up.

So I take it you’re obese AND lack critical thinking skills.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like your MIL was willing to help and let you guys get some sleep. You responded by being a jerk. I'd be pissed at you too. You seem rude and ungrateful.

This. Maybe she wanted to help. She can't nurse but some things my mom did for me during those frequent newborn wakings was rock the baby back to sleep or sit up with me and chat or watch TV so I could have some company and DH could get some sleep.

...DH did go back to sleep. While OP breastfed. Sounds like OP didn't want or need "company" during breastfeeding, as evidenced by her saying for several nights in a row that she didn't want help.

Why are you speaking for OP?

I'm going with the facts. You're writing fiction that what really would have been helpful is...watching TV? Why are you writing fiction?

The facts are DIL and son were thundering around the in-laws house in the middle of the night with a screaming baby and woke everyone up. Sounds like a shitty situation for all, no?

“Thundering?” Are you extremely obese or something? When I quietly walk down a hallway in the middle of the night, I don’t “thunder.” I guess you do…

Are you obese? If they woke the MIL up they weren't being quiet. How else do you explain it?

Um, the sound of a baby crying? In a small house? That seems more likely than the sound of someone walking to the bathroom being the impetus for waking MIL up.

So I take it you’re obese AND lack critical thinking skills.

You have no idea what you're talking about. ONLY the baby woke them up not going up and down the hall? How TF would you even know, sock puppet?

[Anonymous]

Hotel

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Everyone deserves some grace in the middle of the night. The baby, the MIL who keeps asking to help, and the DIL who brushed by the MIL without speaking to her.

Peace

[Anonymous]

Answer: next visit, a hotel. Everyone will enjoy the visit much more.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like your MIL was willing to help and let you guys get some sleep. You responded by being a jerk. I'd be pissed at you too. You seem rude and ungrateful.

This. Maybe she wanted to help. She can't nurse but some things my mom did for me during those frequent newborn wakings was rock the baby back to sleep or sit up with me and chat or watch TV so I could have some company and DH could get some sleep.

...DH did go back to sleep. While OP breastfed. Sounds like OP didn't want or need "company" during breastfeeding, as evidenced by her saying for several nights in a row that she didn't want help.

Why are you speaking for OP?

I'm going with the facts. You're writing fiction that what really would have been helpful is...watching TV? Why are you writing fiction?

The facts are DIL and son were thundering around the in-laws house in the middle of the night with a screaming baby and woke everyone up. Sounds like a shitty situation for all, no?

“Thundering?” Are you extremely obese or something? When I quietly walk down a hallway in the middle of the night, I don’t “thunder.” I guess you do…

Are you obese? If they woke the MIL up they weren't being quiet. How else do you explain it?

Um, the sound of a baby crying? In a small house? That seems more likely than the sound of someone walking to the bathroom being the impetus for waking MIL up.

So I take it you’re obese AND lack critical thinking skills.

You have no idea what you're talking about. ONLY the baby woke them up not going up and down the hall? How TF would you even know, sock puppet?

And how do you know there was "thundering"? Most normal-weight people simply *walk* or *tiptoe* down a hallway in the middle of the night. I guess you just think thundering is normal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We drove 5+ hours to visit ILs with our 4mo baby over Thanksgiving. We stayed in a back bedroom and were as quiet as possible, but of course baby cried a bit at night, especially in a new environment.

EVERY single night, MIL would get up and prowl around and full-voiced ask questions and "check in" when we told her all was under control and to go back to bed. Our routine is that DH changes the diaper while I go to the restroom, and then I breastfeed while DH goes to the restroom and goes back to sleep, then I put the baby down and go back to sleep. The most the crying ever lasted was four minutes. And baby only woke once each night.

ILs sleep with their door open and refused to close it, and also refused my offer of a white noise machine that I brought along, as I could also just use the app on my phone.

Both before the visit and after the first night, we explained our routine and that the crying would only last for a few minutes during the diaper change. Each night, MIL would be walking down the hall toward our bedroom as I went to the bathroom, and I would whisper to her all is well, go back to bed, we've got this.

Finally, on the last night, I had had more than enough of MIL prowling around, speaking loudly and just generally being a nuisance. So when I was walking down the hall, as she loudly asked "What's wrong? What's going on?" I simply brushed past her, said nothing, went to the bathroom, and ignored her again on my way back to the bedroom.

She is now pissed at me, and I'm just as pissed at her. DH is sticking up for me, saying "Mom, we kept telling you it was fine, we asked that you close your door and even offered you a white noise machine." He then added (without asking me) that we won't be visiting again until baby is solidly STTN, that they can visit us if they want because they'll be in our finished basement guest suite and won't hear us upstairs if there is noise in the night.

WWYD?

I think you made a big deal over nothing. MIL was most likely excited to have the new baby in the house and wanted to make sure you had help. Just say you are sleep deprived and apologize if you were rude last night. Pick your battles.

This. Assuming you stay married, you have 30+ more years with this woman. Not the hill to die on.

[Anonymous]

So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like your MIL was willing to help and let you guys get some sleep. You responded by being a jerk. I'd be pissed at you too. You seem rude and ungrateful.

This. Maybe she wanted to help. She can't nurse but some things my mom did for me during those frequent newborn wakings was rock the baby back to sleep or sit up with me and chat or watch TV so I could have some company and DH could get some sleep.

...DH did go back to sleep. While OP breastfed. Sounds like OP didn't want or need "company" during breastfeeding, as evidenced by her saying for several nights in a row that she didn't want help.

Why are you speaking for OP?

I'm going with the facts. You're writing fiction that what really would have been helpful is...watching TV? Why are you writing fiction?

The facts are DIL and son were thundering around the in-laws house in the middle of the night with a screaming baby and woke everyone up. Sounds like a shitty situation for all, no?

“Thundering?” Are you extremely obese or something? When I quietly walk down a hallway in the middle of the night, I don’t “thunder.” I guess you do…

Are you obese? If they woke the MIL up they weren't being quiet. How else do you explain it?

Um, the sound of a baby crying? In a small house? That seems more likely than the sound of someone walking to the bathroom being the impetus for waking MIL up.

So I take it you’re obese AND lack critical thinking skills.

You have no idea what you're talking about. ONLY the baby woke them up not going up and down the hall? How TF would you even know, sock puppet?

And how do you know there was "thundering"? Most normal-weight people simply *walk* or *tiptoe* down a hallway in the middle of the night. I guess you just think thundering is normal?

Because this hasn't happened to me I can only assume excessive noise was an issue. But carry on in your weak defense that the new parents were as quiet as church mice going through their "routine" but managed to wake up the MIL every night. OP acknowledged all the things she could have done to make noise. I guess you have reading comprehension issues in your passionate defense of the rude DIL with no manners who pushes her MIL out o the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walking around your own house isn’t “prowling”.

+1 or being a nuisance.