Help settle an argument: with 2 under 5, doing errands is a break

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t call it a break exactly. But we all know it’s a type of a get out of jail free card. We all should be able to leave the house solo. He needs to give you time as well whether personal or just for errands. Especially if you are nursing. Pump and go if needed. Get some fresh air off duty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your spouse sounds like a jackass. What made you think having kids with him would be okay?

Geez, why attack the OP here? I get so sick of the attitude that poor behavior is the fault of the victim for not being able to see it in advance.

Thank you. We’ve been together 15 years and life does not give you a crystal ball for the future. He only really started to get really particular and anal after our first kid was born and the second kid made things exponentially worse. When we first got together he was the slob and I did most of the cleaning - just goes to show you that people change - and can change a lot. It would be nice to think we can know how they will ahead of time, but we can’t.

He reminds me of my partner who can be very anxious and it manifests in anger and self aggrandizing externalizing vs me internalizing everything.