My school emails me nearly every day with a complaint about something dc has said and Idk what to do.
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Anonymous
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of course I'm always in meetings or like pitching a client when i get these calls and emails from our small private. Examples include:
1. dc in a teasing situation pointed out that a classmate was held back a year. 2. dc when asked what was sold in ancient greek market said 'slaves' which apparently upset ppl (though true). dc is in therapy and has audhd. I dont know what else to do - I can't change his whole personality! Do I take him out and put in a public, would that be better? I'm at a loss and it's getting to be traumatizing to be constantly contacted about something I am at a loss to change while trying to work. |
Anonymous
| How old is he? |
Anonymous
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This is a huge downside of private. They are not necessarily trying to get rid of your child but they will make you hyper aware of anything and everything. It is very stressful, but typical.
When our child moved to public, the silence of no phone calls was a sweet relief. |
Anonymous
I’m not saying public solves all your problems, but they will pretty much tell you nothing. Which has its upsides. |
Anonymous
op - 10. they emailed today to say he did something else hurtful and they would be calling to explain. i dont mean to be defensive but part of me wants to just say - look why dont I come pick him up and we'll skip the rest of the week and you can all have a break and so can he. |
Anonymous
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It sounds like your small private is not a good fit for your child.
Yes, I would move them back to public. But you are the parent. Not sure why you are annoyed at the school contacting you. You pay for it... They are doing their job. Bottom line is sounds like it is not a good fit. Many small privates are not. |
Anonymous
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OP - have you explored different school options for your child? Public may still call you, but you can tell them not to contact you about this stuff during business hours. Or to just send you a weekly email.
Even at the private school, I think you can nicely explain that the middle of the day calls for things that aren't an emergency are disruptive and while you are eager to work with them, you would greatly appreciate if these sorts of issues can be raised via email after 5pm. |
Anonymous
| Part of it is they’re trying to make you decide he’s not a fit. And it sounds like he’s not. |
Anonymous
| Move to public. |
Anonymous
lol. No. That’s not gonna happen |
Anonymous
| Ask them to send one email at the end of the day so it doesn’t disrupt your workday. They don’t need to call you. |
Anonymous
This. They can’t outright oust him so they are wearing you down in hopes to do it yourself. I point blank told our school that whatever they hope I will say to my child, we already say every single day, and I don’t want to be bothered about non-violent and minor things my child says. |
Anonymous
| As a public school parent, I don’t understand what the school thinks OP can do about these things? My best friend from college has a son at a private school. He has ADHD. She is CONSTANTLY getting calls like this. What’s she supposed to do about it? I thought they were laying the groundwork to kick him out but they have not. |
Anonymous
| The certainly can oust him outright and may in fact be laying the groundwork to do so. Your DC isn't a fit with the school and it's time for you to make a change. You can be sure DC feels it. Why drag it out? |
Anonymous
Sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen. On what grounds? |